InvisibleGirl Posted February 26, 2008 Posted February 26, 2008 I had lunch today with my MM and looking across the table at him I can't believe he is the same man I met over a year and a half ago. When I first met him in person after a long internet friendship we had dinner and when I walked to my car that night I actually said out loud to myself as I was walking 'what a dork'. But slowly after that we grew to be great friends and more and I look at him now and I don't think he could be more gorgeous. He lost a lot of weight in hopes of one day meeting me and starting working out and he dresses well now and seems so much more confident. I guess having me in his life has given him a huge ego boost. I don't know how anyone that knows him could possibly miss the tell tale signs in him that something has changed in his life. Does anyone else notice these kind of changes in their MM that you would think their wife couldnt possibly be that blind to?
OpenBook Posted February 26, 2008 Posted February 26, 2008 Have you changed your MM? [thread title] Uh, no I'm still crushing on the same one, haven't traded him in yet. Seriously, if I were you I would start guarding your heart a little more. Guys who go from dorks to gorgeous, well it's quite a rush for them (married or not)... and sometimes their skyrocketing egos cause them to feel "entitled" to garner more and more beautiful women into their lives (a la George Clooney).
LILA BELL Posted February 26, 2008 Posted February 26, 2008 My xMM is drop dead gorgeous,he was in shape worked out daily,but that was something he always did even before i came in the picture. I would like to think i changed him in some way,but i did'nt as much as I hate to admit it the only thing i did for him is realize how much he hates me and regrets the A and how much he realized he loved his W
Gwyneth Posted February 26, 2008 Posted February 26, 2008 I guess the only way I helped MM to change was to be a better and more of a liar
Author InvisibleGirl Posted February 26, 2008 Author Posted February 26, 2008 thats good advice. I should stop stroking his ego as much as I do. Sometimes I now wonder why someone so gorgeous wants anything to do with me when Im the person that was his dream girl.
White Flower Posted February 26, 2008 Posted February 26, 2008 My guy always worked out and took care of himself so I'm sure there are no outward changes that anyone else in his life notices. But they way he looks at me has changed. It just gets better and better. There is no doubt that his heart is involved.
OWoman Posted February 26, 2008 Posted February 26, 2008 Does anyone else notice these kind of changes in their MM that you would think their wife couldnt possibly be that blind to? The changes I've notice in my MM are more inner things - his confidence has grown, his self-esteem has recovered and his sense of worth returned to normal - but I wouldn't ascribe these simply to my presence in his life, bat rather also to his counselling. And, recently, to his leaving his abusive M. People who've not seen him in a while have noticed other changes, though - they say he's looking younger, more alive, more engaged, that it's lovely to see him smiling and laughing again, oh, and how's your W? You've left her? (Long pause as they make the connection between him looking so much better, and having left.) Oh well, great to see you, we must have dinner sometime (if their own W is with them, followed by awkward and hasty retreat, or, if she's not:) Well done, that must have taken a lot of courage after all these years! Kids bearing up OK?
Je Ne Regrette Rien Posted February 27, 2008 Posted February 27, 2008 Mine was always gorgeous... However, he has changed in many ways. Good things: His confidence in his abilities have grown, he isn't afraid of sharing an opinion anymore without it causing trouble, and he's a lot more thankful for the things that he has in his life. He talks more too and he's also a lot more adventurous in things he wants to do, hobbies he would like to try, places he wants to see etc. Bad things: He got greyer lol and I think that's definitely to do with me...
White Flower Posted February 27, 2008 Posted February 27, 2008 Mine was always gorgeous... However, he has changed in many ways. Good things: His confidence in his abilities have grown, he isn't afraid of sharing an opinion anymore without it causing trouble, and he's a lot more thankful for the things that he has in his life. He talks more too and he's also a lot more adventurous in things he wants to do, hobbies he would like to try, places he wants to see etc. Bad things: He got greyer lol and I think that's definitely to do with me... Ahhh, JNRR, you naughty, naughty girl;), lol. Despite the silver hair, I'm sure you keep him young.
Lizzie60 Posted February 27, 2008 Posted February 27, 2008 Yes I think all MM changes.. some more than others.. but they all do in a way. Mine (from work) became much more confident about his 'sexual abilities'.. I think that he was a little concerned about it (but never talked about it), since his wife is just as hot as a 2x4 in bed.. he had no 'reference'.. so to speak to know if it was him or not. But I reassured him... he's great in bed. When he comes to my office, he usually wears a black turtleneck.. I love that on him.. so it makes me smile that he thinks about that when he get dressed in the morning.. cute .. cute... cute
Je Ne Regrette Rien Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 Ahhh, JNRR, you naughty, naughty girl;), lol. Despite the silver hair, I'm sure you keep him young. I do...and I'll not tell you how
Gwyneth Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 since his wife is just as hot as a 2x4 in bed.. How do you know what his wife is like in bed?
Lizzie60 Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 How do you know what his wife is like in bed? I came face to face with her once...
bentnotbroken Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 I came face to face with her once... In bed???????????????????????
Gwyneth Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 I came face to face with her once... So, she's homely or something? I believe everyone is good at sex; they just have to be having it with the right person. If you aren't with the right person, then you aren't going to give it your all.
nextel Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 My MM has changed. His are visible to everyone. His friends have noticed the difference in his ties, his overall dress code. He is also alot more comfortable being the type of a man that he prefers to be and I like that about him.
Lyssa Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 He is more open compared to the beginning of our friendship. Laughs and smiles more. It was so hard to see him smile before this! God, it was hard work!! LOL. I noticed recently that he wears a lot of my favourite colours. His mother and sister said that he's more cheerful now.
Owl Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 Quote that I heard before that I think still applies...only in this case, I'm going to substitute the words 'start a relationship' with marry. "Women [start a relationship] with men hoping that they'll change...but they never do. Men [start a relationship] with women hoping that they'll never change...but they always do." Why would you WANT the person you're in love with to change?
Lizzie60 Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 Quote that I heard before that I think still applies...only in this case, I'm going to substitute the words 'start a relationship' with marry. "Women [start a relationship] with men hoping that they'll change...but they never do. Men [start a relationship] with women hoping that they'll never change...but they always do." Why would you WANT the person you're in love with to change? They don't change because I want them to change.. they change because I influence them... they want to please me.. big difference.
Owl Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 So you don't HOPE that they'll change as a result of their interaction with you?
Lyssa Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 I don't think any of these women here want MM to change... MM just change from our influences or just simply cause they feel they are happier than before.
Lyssa Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 So you don't HOPE that they'll change as a result of their interaction with you? As for me, no - I didn't hope for him to change. I didn't even expect him to. He just did and it's something that people around him noticed. As do the people around me - said I'm more cheerful and back to my ownself.
Lizzie60 Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 So you don't HOPE that they'll change as a result of their interaction with you? Nope.. why would they change... ?? I like them just the way they are..
twice_shy Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 Does anyone else notice these kind of changes in their MM that you would think their wife couldnt possibly be that blind to? Well there is one thing you will NEVER change about him. He's a cheater. Even if you two haven't hooked up, you know he wants to. So if you have hopes of hooking up with him and are happy that he is a cheater, then I guess there is hope for all men if some women's standards are that low.
Gwyneth Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 Well there is one thing you will NEVER change about him. He's a cheater. Even if you two haven't hooked up, you know he wants to. So if you have hopes of hooking up with him and are happy that he is a cheater, then I guess there is hope for all men if some women's standards are that low. This isn't completely true. My parents, step parents, and so forth have cheated in the past and haven't cheated in their current relationships / marriage. Sometimes it only takes one time to mess up a marriage / Relationship and you learn your lesson Not to cheat. Some people do continue to cheat, and those are the people who fit your decription above. But not all cheaters are Always a cheater. Actually, it's like a recovering alchololic--they Always refer to themselves as an alcoholic, but when in recovery, they aren't currently an active alcoholic. So a person who has cheated in the past can always be seen as a cheater, but may not be an active cheater anymore. Does that make sense?
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