sveltskye Posted February 26, 2008 Posted February 26, 2008 I ran into my ex and his friend downtown. I was walking to my car and he was walking with his friend out of the parking lot. I said hi, waved and smiled. After the normal, how are you stuff, he said they were going to coffee. I was like "Oh, I already had coffee" and was like "see you later then" and when I walked away I was just so dissapointed that I hadn't gone that I felt like crying. Then I sent him a stupid myspace message, just saying that I hoped he didn't think I was avoiding him and his friend and I didn't want things to be awkward but I wanted us to be real friends eventually. He read it, but didn't respond, and now I feel like a doofus. I don't know how long I should ignore him and go NC. I won't ever write him begging or being desperate in any way, but I hate the fact that I can't corrospond in any way without feeling like I have no right to or he's gonna read into it or something. Does that make any sense? I hate feeling awkward with someone I was so close to. I just hate awkwardness in general and I wish I could skip it. If you want to be friends with your ex, how long should you go NC? Its been a month for us, but I know I'm not over him. I need more time, but I'm gonna run into him at a club we both go to in a week. I wish I could talk to him and discuss what we've been doing lately, just casually- is that bad? I'm afraid it'll just become convenient to go NC forever and I'll lose his friendship. It's all confusing.
tonyeltiger Posted February 26, 2008 Posted February 26, 2008 Hmmm, it sounds to that he broke it off with you? From what I can gather from your post ( don't think I have very good context here) he has expressed to you that he does not want to get back together with you? In any case, because you are not over him, it is impossible for you to be just friends. You may be able to act like it, but you are setting yourself up for heartbreak if he starts dating or something and you still have romantic feelings for him. I say go strict NC, do not go to that club. Go out with your friends to some other place or something. To answer your question as to how long to go NC; until you are over him. If you want to be back together with him, NC until he comes back or until you find someone new. Hope this helps, know that you are not alone.
9Lives Posted February 26, 2008 Posted February 26, 2008 I ran into my ex and his friend downtown. I was walking to my car and he was walking with his friend out of the parking lot. I said hi, waved and smiled. After the normal, how are you stuff, he said they were going to coffee. I was like "Oh, I already had coffee" and was like "see you later then" and when I walked away I was just so dissapointed that I hadn't gone that I felt like crying. Then I sent him a stupid myspace message, just saying that I hoped he didn't think I was avoiding him and his friend and I didn't want things to be awkward but I wanted us to be real friends eventually. He read it, but didn't respond, and now I feel like a doofus. I don't know how long I should ignore him and go NC. I won't ever write him begging or being desperate in any way, but I hate the fact that I can't corrospond in any way without feeling like I have no right to or he's gonna read into it or something. Does that make any sense? I hate feeling awkward with someone I was so close to. I just hate awkwardness in general and I wish I could skip it. If you want to be friends with your ex, how long should you go NC? Its been a month for us, but I know I'm not over him. I need more time, but I'm gonna run into him at a club we both go to in a week. I wish I could talk to him and discuss what we've been doing lately, just casually- is that bad? I'm afraid it'll just become convenient to go NC forever and I'll lose his friendship. It's all confusing. You are heading for major pain trying to deal with him and you still want contact with him......LET IT GO.....Let him come to you or find someone new. Dont contact him.
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