meandmydog Posted February 25, 2008 Posted February 25, 2008 okay ill make this as short as i can. married for almost 2 years known each other for almost 6 years. we have come to a point that i guess she has had it with me getting angry of course i think i have a valid reason to get angry. well after a fight she left after a two weeks we talked about it and came back she lasted one week and left again and i told her i cant take this if she leaves i have to divorce her, she still left. after 3 weeks i finally filed divorced becuse i found out she was going to california for a weekend without telling me so i thought if she wants to be free let her go with divorce papers. well through all of this i still love her very much and miss her, i called her yesterday and we spoke for 2 1/2 hours i just needed to know from her if she was really done with this between us. after our conversation i just got out of her she was tired and scared and didnt know what to do so i just politly asked if she could just sign the papers and stop dragging this more than it has... my question is: is it wrong for me to want her back? kowning she basically doent want to come back? should i just let it go? i mean during the time she left it has been me to call her or text her... she doesnt even try so that should be a proof enough i should just let her go right? help with your advice... thanks
sadhubby Posted February 25, 2008 Posted February 25, 2008 well if she isnt reaching out to you ie phone texting i can tell ya from experiance she probably has someone else on the side. and is confused and scared becuase she doesnt know if that is better than you and or will work out. ask her if she would like to go to counceling see what she says? if she says yes you got some hope if you get a maybe or no ,id be concerned. if she says maybe give her 2 days and ask her again she will probaly tell you no.
Author meandmydog Posted February 27, 2008 Author Posted February 27, 2008 yeah that is exactly my suspicion well after we talked on sunday night i thought maybe she would think about it but nope monday came and i found out she signed the papers so she went ahead and wanted to leave me because i know maybe someone else is emotionallly involved with her. plus her sister and her niece told me "at least you tried, you tried more than her you gave her the option of divorce or get help and work on it but she agreed on the divorce, now you know it wasnt you it was her.... " so in a way that is true but man oh man it is so hard to know she would rather throw away everything probably to start out a new life with someone else. its hard, like if all we had and worked for wasnt good at all plus she did tell me she just doesnt feel the same and i think cause someone else is taking her heart away from me i mean she wouldnt cheat on me, but now that she is divorced i bet she will go with the new guy and man i want to destroy him if i ever see this person.
Author meandmydog Posted March 2, 2008 Author Posted March 2, 2008 yeah so guess what my suspicion was right. a friend of the both of us came to pick up something of hers and told me my wife did in fact had talked to an old fling when they were kids in california. that is what kills me they were like 8-12 years old when they knew each other and now ever since she went to california november 07 she saw him and had been texting and the friend told me that she kind of played along with my wife and asked her if he was cute and she said yes... hell a cute... im pissed the F off right now cant believe all of a sudden she is willing to throw it all away for a guy that probably just wants to get into her pants not be commited with her like i was this really really sucks i hate her i cant understand her she always said she had so much love for me, oh and her friend told me she would lie a lot to me ever since we were dating back as teenagers its crazy her whole life was like a lie with me.
Gunny376 Posted March 2, 2008 Posted March 2, 2008 (edited) Like the song said: "She crazy for leaving ~ but Man just let Her go!" Edited March 2, 2008 by Gunny376
sadhubby Posted March 2, 2008 Posted March 2, 2008 been there done it got the tshirt .mine wants to come back now .its all exciting till the cake gets eatin then its over.
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