wesrjohn Posted February 25, 2008 Posted February 25, 2008 Thread Tools Search this Thread Rate Thread Display Modes Yesterday, 4:53 AM #1 [sIZE=5][COLOR=#990000]wesrjohn[/COLOR][/sIZE] Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: southern cal Posts: 12 Another try? About a year and a half ago I met this woman online who lives within an hour of me and we really hit it off. We were talking everyday and growing closer. One thing about me is that when I meet someone online, I like to have a real meeting as soon as possible so I can really know if there is chemistry and if the woman is girlfriend or more material. I think that this woman and I had talked about just about everything that could be said without speeding into each others arms and living happily ever after. Ive never felt so much for anyone ive met online and many ive met in person. And I was so ready and even craved being with her. And it genuinely felt as if she felt the same The one and only problem was nailing her down for a real date in person. I tried and tried to set a meting but she was always unavailable to meet me. I tried to consider that maybe she had to know even more about me before she felt comfortable meeting me. This was driving me nuts because she really acted like she cared for me a lot and continued to have a wonderful online relationship with me. With the only thing missing was having her in my arms. This became so frustrating to me as I had fallen for her and it seemed like she felt the same except for one thing, not meeting me in person. After months we had even graduated to phone conversatiions that continued to be the best ive ever had with the same exception, no meeting. It seemed like I had her very close to a meeting but still ran into a brick wall as she always had other plans or commitments which she stressed were not with other guys. I finally had enough and just broke contact with her. Which i felt bad about but needed something real. Now over a year has passed and suddenly our paths crossed on another dating site and we jumped back into each other even more intense than before. And now she has a cam and weve had the most intense cam sessions. Ive seen every inch of her body and she even did a video lap dance for me that was nothing short of magnificent. My problem is that I dont want to commit so much of myself to her without a meeting which wve talked about it but i still dont see the want like i have for a meeting. I think I love this woman and i think about her all the time and know that a meeting would secure things for us. Im just not sure how to take things from this point.
Walk Posted February 25, 2008 Posted February 25, 2008 You sound like a good man. And I'd hate to see you get hurt again... but I'm having a hard time believing this woman feels the same for you as you do about her. She can't make time to meet you. She won't make time to see you. Its easy to talk on-line to a guy, get attention, string him along, then shut off the computer when you've had your fill. She doens't have to put in any real effort at a relationship. She gets all the validation and praise she could ever want, and all she has to do is flirt a bit and show some skin on a webcam. Sorry man, but to me it doesn't seem as if this girl is ready for a real relationship. And I'd have some serious questions about her availabilty status since she won't meet with you or introduce you to her friends, or involve you in her life in any way. You are not a part of her life and you've known her for how long? What kind of relationship do you want? And do you have the time to spend years on a woman who's only commitment will be via online?
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