jt81088 Posted February 25, 2008 Posted February 25, 2008 I started liking a guy last year right away when I met him. We became friends. Hes never had a girlfriend or kissed a girl and Ive heard other guys call him a pansy. He found out I liked him. Now I want to mention he did do some things to suggest he liked me but is just shy- i dont want to go into much detail because it will take up alot of space. I don’t think it was wishful thinking because other people agreed with me. there was alot of drama, basically people meddled without asking me, I never told anyone but my close friends that I liked him but once his friends figured it out they pestered him a bit and told him Ive liked him. (his friends are still stuck in the highschool mentality which is why I stopped hanging around them in the first place) Now he told his best friend and close friend he didnt like me more than a friend and I believe him because from what Ive seen he tells them everything. I wont lie I was a bit surprised he wasnt at all interested. Im hesitant to say this because people will assume Im very arrogant, but Im alot prettier than the past girls he has liked. Im not saying the past girls hes liked are bad- they are all very nice just not that attractive. Im not calling him shallow by any means (neither am I. I have had a lot of guys like me I assume because I am a prettier girl but I do have a good personality too) but I thought he would at least consider it. Anyway the one close friend whom he told this to apologized for meddling himself and said it might have turned out different otherwise if people hadnt done that. (I dont know if he is just saying that- this guy use to like me also.) Anyway I ignored this guy and his stupid friends for awhile. The guy I like isnt particularly mean or catty but his friends get on my nerves alot and I really dont like drama in the first place- when it happens I always tend to back off. He noticed apparently and kept asking a mutual friend why I dont talk to him. This confused me a bit since he had nothing to go off of except for greetings and me walking around. I just assumed he was just worried I was mad or something. But then for awhile after a break from school he was acting like he didnt see me and didnt try to greet me or say hi. Last weekend there was a party and he said he didnt wanna go apparently. Someone called him trying to convince him to go. A friend of his answered his phone and the guy trying to convince him was like "but shes here" (no idea why he said that) I dont know if the friend relayed the message to him but he came right over. It was really awkward, he tried to talk to me a few times which surprised me. He randomly asked how my semester was going (havent seen him all semester) which was weird because at the time he was acting like he wasnt paying attention to me at all. He just kinda confuses me because he seems to talk to me when he acts like hes not noticing me if you know what I mean. most people will look at you or you will know they will soon say something to you, know what I mean? He did sit next to me for awhile when he didnt have to (Im not like assuming he likes me or anything off of this) but it was weird, he didnt look at me or try to talk me when he did this. Usually lack of eye contact means someone is disinterested or uncomfortable (even though he kinda does that in general) so I assume he is just worried im mad. Is this a reasonable explanation? Im sorry I guess I just dont understand guys like this. When stuff happens between me and my other guy friends they dont act like this at all. My roommate thinks he likes me and I def. dont think he does he is just trying to be nice or friendly. i guess im posting this for someone to tell me im right
dsim Posted February 25, 2008 Posted February 25, 2008 best thing for you is just to confront him. if you like him, dont be afarid to tell him that you do and you want to know if he likes you to. ok hey, if you get a chance check out my post, i need a confromation about what i think about how a girl feels. thanks -dsim
xpaperxcutx Posted February 25, 2008 Posted February 25, 2008 I think he's suffering from peer pressure. Like you said, his friends are suffering from the whole high school mentality thing, so when they confronted him about you, he did the one thing that he knew of, denying it. I think he does like you, but he might be too shy to come forward about it. The best thing would be to confront him on it.
Legend Posted February 25, 2008 Posted February 25, 2008 Girls can make the first move ... it's 2008.
Lucasarts Posted February 25, 2008 Posted February 25, 2008 hes awkward, shy, and clueless about how to approach and flirt with the opposite sex. In this situation, you have to take the initiative, because he won't. He doesn't have the experience or the intelligence of how to engage and interact with women on a more intimate scale. Good luck, because he does like you; he's just too scared to show it.
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