almosthere Posted February 25, 2008 Posted February 25, 2008 She was on IM and I thought I could save some awkwardness and give her a chance to kindly say no... <DIV id=101 style="BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent"><SPAN style="FONT: 12px Arial; COLOR: #d73306">me
Author almosthere Posted February 25, 2008 Author Posted February 25, 2008 She was on IM and I thought I could save some awkwardness and give her a chance to kindly say no... me: u there? her: yea what sup me: nothin much, just wondering if youd like to go or not, in case we dont get a chance to talk tomm her: i have to check the schedule at work tommorow, i forgot to check todya, so i can let you know tuesday and I asked her about something else and said bye... Now, wouldnt this have been the absolute optimal opportunity for her to say no somehow or another, if even it meant lying about working? She seems sincere and, knowing her, it is very likely that she forgot to check, and again she would have said she checked and does work.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 25, 2008 Posted February 25, 2008 She was on IM and I thought I could save some awkwardness and give her a chance to kindly say no... me: u there? her: yea what sup me: nothin much, just wondering if youd like to go or not, in case we dont get a chance to talk tomm her: i have to check the schedule at work tommorow, i forgot to check todya, so i can let you know tuesday and I asked her about something else and said bye... Now, wouldnt this have been the absolute optimal opportunity for her to say no somehow or another, if even it meant lying about working? She seems sincere and, knowing her, it is very likely that she forgot to check, and again she would have said she checked and does work. Okay, I'm still getting the feeling that she's trying to reject you in the kindest way possible...
Jilly Bean Posted February 25, 2008 Posted February 25, 2008 I fear that when she tells you flat out NO you are not going to let it go... Hon, like I wrote to one of the other 5 posts on this topic, she is trying to let you down easily. I dont know why you dont see that. Here is why: She first told you she would let you know on MON. Now she has pushed that out to TUE. If she was interested and her excuse was sincere, she sure as heck would have made a point to check her schedule today and let you know ASAP. If she was interested, she would have responded more enthusiastically and said something to the effect that she hopes she gets the time off! I vote you retain what little dignity is left, and do NOT ask her again about this. I think she's making her lack of interest quite clear. So, why not let this one go, and ask ANOTHER girl in your class to the game? Seems like a better use of your energy...
Author almosthere Posted February 25, 2008 Author Posted February 25, 2008 Okay, I'm still getting the feeling that she's trying to reject you in the kindest way possible... If that was the case wouldn't she have said she works? Or said "no" in some other way? IM is the perfect time/way to do that without any awkwardness, if you were a girl would you be going through all this effort as a rejection? She seems either undecided or doesn't know if she works...
Author almosthere Posted February 25, 2008 Author Posted February 25, 2008 I fear that when she tells you flat out NO you are not going to let it go... Hon, like I wrote to one of the other 5 posts on this topic, she is trying to let you down easily. I dont know why you dont see that. Here is why: She first told you she would let you know on MON. Now she has pushed that out to TUE. If she was interested and her excuse was sincere, she sure as heck would have made a point to check her schedule today and let you know ASAP. If she was interested, she would have responded more enthusiastically and said something to the effect that she hopes she gets the time off! I vote you retain what little dignity is left, and do NOT ask her again about this. I think she's making her lack of interest quite clear. So, why not let this one go, and ask ANOTHER girl in your class to the game? Seems like a better use of your energy... With almost any other girl I would agree, but I am telling you that this girl isnt the "on time", "decisive", "I know what I want" type of girl. TBH, I am 99% sure she will talk with a few friends tomm., but also, we are guaranteed to talk oh forget it, just post or PM me your screen name, you seem pretty knowledgeable and id love to talk on IM with you...
Author almosthere Posted February 25, 2008 Author Posted February 25, 2008 For what its worth, she has said before that... "She likes the chase" And again, neither of us have dated...at all! I know I am optimistic, just hoping she wants to talk to her friends or is still on the fence or is nervous like me. Trying to make the situation as clear as possible, this girl is definitely different than most.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 25, 2008 Posted February 25, 2008 If that was the case wouldn't she have said she works? Or said "no" in some other way? IM is the perfect time/way to do that without any awkwardness, if you were a girl would you be going through all this effort as a rejection? She seems either undecided or doesn't know if she works... Umm even if it was over AIM, if I was in such a position, I still can't be straightforward about it. I mean I think she doesn't want to hurt you and being as she might just want to be friends with you, she's trying to break it to you easily. Your refusal to accept this fact is very ignorant on your part. And if you continue to pursue her on this, she might start to find ways to avoid you completely.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 25, 2008 Posted February 25, 2008 For what its worth, she has said before that... "She likes the chase" And again, neither of us have dated...at all! I know I am optimistic, just hoping she wants to talk to her friends or is still on the fence or is nervous like me. Trying to make the situation as clear as possible, this girl is definitely different than most. These are all just your own assumptions. Just because you think she's like this, does not in any way reflect her person.
Author almosthere Posted February 25, 2008 Author Posted February 25, 2008 Umm even if it was over AIM, if I was in such a position, I still can't be straightforward about it. I mean I think she doesn't want to hurt you and being as she might just want to be friends with you, she's trying to break it to you easily. Your refusal to accept this fact is very ignorant on your part. And if you continue to pursue her on this, she might start to find ways to avoid you completely. I hear you on that, but again, WE ARE GUARANTEED TO TALK A FEW TIMES EVERY DAY! So she would have to let me know anyway.... PS-Being it is the first day at school tommorow since the weekend, is it not very possible that she wants to talk to her friends about it? TO ADD... The last three times she said she "might" go somewhere, as in to a game, she always ended up going...
xpaperxcutx Posted February 25, 2008 Posted February 25, 2008 I hear you on that, but again, WE ARE GUARANTEED TO TALK A FEW TIMES EVERY DAY! So she would have to let me know anyway.... PS-Being it is the first day at school tommorow since the weekend, is it not very possible that she wants to talk to her friends about it? TO ADD... The last three times she said she "might" go somewhere, as in to a game, she always ended up going... Okay so you're GUARANTEED TO TALK A FEW TIMES EVERY DAY. But that does not necessarily mean that she'll volunteer to bring up the topic. Unless you bring it up. Second, if she was to talk to her friends, wouldn't she have talked to them already, as she does have friends' contacts? And just because she did end up going, it doesn't necessarily mean that she'll go with you. After the last time she was asked, she was asked by OTHER PEOPLE. Anyways, I guess you'll just have to wait til tomorrow to see.
Author almosthere Posted February 25, 2008 Author Posted February 25, 2008 Last thing to add here to help you understand... A game a month or so ago I asked if she was gonna come (not with me, this was just at school) And she said that she might go to this thing downtown She went to the game Next time same situation she said she can't, then she said maybe she could She went to the game Now she said she would check, she didnt.... She goes to the game with me? Check out my new obsessive compulsive nervous post...
Author almosthere Posted February 25, 2008 Author Posted February 25, 2008 Okay so you're GUARANTEED TO TALK A FEW TIMES EVERY DAY. But that does not necessarily mean that she'll volunteer to bring up the topic. Unless you bring it up. Second, if she was to talk to her friends, wouldn't she have talked to them already, as she does have friends' contacts? And just because she did end up going, it doesn't necessarily mean that she'll go with you. After the last time she was asked, she was asked by OTHER PEOPLE. Anyways, I guess you'll just have to wait til tomorrow to see. Maybe you are right and she won't bring it up, her friends are going to tho;) They were really pushing me to ask her and ask about her daily, I will probably get some kinda answer, one way or another, from her friends tommorow if not her Tuesday. Wanna PM me your SN? This would make it so much easier.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 25, 2008 Posted February 25, 2008 Last thing to add here to help you understand... A game a month or so ago I asked if she was gonna come (not with me, this was just at school) And she said that she might go to this thing downtown She went to the game Next time same situation she said she can't, then she said maybe she could She went to the game Now she said she would check, she didnt.... She goes to the game with me? Check out my new obsessive compulsive nervous post... Okay you've got to stop questioning her actions. Cause that's just creepy.
Lucasarts Posted February 25, 2008 Posted February 25, 2008 ok, reading your other topics (about the same issue that is being mentioned here) this is your problem (which you already know): You're thinking WAY TOO MUCH ABOUT THIS. From what I'm getting, the girl you like hasn't made it obvious at all that she does or does not like you. The amount of communication between you two doesn't seem very lively or positive. . . so you guys go to school, see each other a few times a day, say "hi" and make small talk, then go your separate ways right? (correct me if I'm wrong, and if I am, explain what type of "talk" goes on between you two) You two seem to be on friendly enough terms to be able to talk to each other on aim (Oh its ALWAYS better to call a girl about dating plans, doing it on aim. . .is not really the best way to get your message across) yet again the conversations you have don't seem to show much chemistry. Here's my advice, you can take it or leave it, I don't really care either way (I'm bored). Talk to her about on Tuesday, don't bring it up on Monday at all; I say this because if she tells you on Tuesday that she hasn't checked or she doesn't know. . . forget it, she's not interested. If she tells you she has to work, just believe her and ask when she's free (if she says she doesn't know, this is a lie, she has checked her schedule and knows what days she has off). This will help you determine where you stand with her, and then you can go from there.
Author almosthere Posted February 25, 2008 Author Posted February 25, 2008 ok, reading your other topics (about the same issue that is being mentioned here) this is your problem (which you already know): You're thinking WAY TOO MUCH ABOUT THIS. From what I'm getting, the girl you like hasn't made it obvious at all that she does or does not like you. The amount of communication between you two doesn't seem very lively or positive. . . so you guys go to school, see each other a few times a day, say "hi" and make small talk, then go your separate ways right? (correct me if I'm wrong, and if I am, explain what type of "talk" goes on between you two) You two seem to be on friendly enough terms to be able to talk to each other on aim (Oh its ALWAYS better to call a girl about dating plans, doing it on aim. . .is not really the best way to get your message across) yet again the conversations you have don't seem to show much chemistry. Here's my advice, you can take it or leave it, I don't really care either way (I'm bored). Talk to her about on Tuesday, don't bring it up on Monday at all; I say this because if she tells you on Tuesday that she hasn't checked or she doesn't know. . . forget it, she's not interested. If she tells you she has to work, just believe her and ask when she's free (if she says she doesn't know, this is a lie, she has checked her schedule and knows what days she has off). This will help you determine where you stand with her, and then you can go from there. I will correct you:) We get along extremely well in school, we have had a bunch of hour long conversations sometimes even discussing relationships in general, others about school, usually she brings stuff up to start talking about. She always sits as close as possible and will use anything as an excuse to talk at school with me, and she is not the girl who talks with anyone, she is usually quiet. I DID NOT ask her out through IM, I was following up my phone call afternoon Saturday. I am not going to discuss it with her, but I know her 2 best friends will want to. Understand better?
Lucasarts Posted February 25, 2008 Posted February 25, 2008 yep and to clarify again: You're WORRYING WAY TOO MUCH knowing the general background of your relationship with her its quite clear that she does like you. Just follow up the last part of my advice from the other post, and you'll know for sure if shes just playing you for a friend, or for a possible boyfriend. Good luck.
Author almosthere Posted February 25, 2008 Author Posted February 25, 2008 yep and to clarify again: You're WORRYING WAY TOO MUCH knowing the general background of your relationship with her its quite clear that she does like you. Just follow up the last part of my advice from the other post, and you'll know for sure if shes just playing you for a friend, or for a possible boyfriend. Good luck. Wait, a positive reply? Did I read right? I will not bring it up again, her friends will push her I am sure so I will leave that to them. If she wants to she will let me know, one way or another, I think she LOVES being wanted. She is absolutely beautiful and there is no debating that, but she like me has not seriously dated anyone, I have no idea if she was even asked.
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