almosthere Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 She said she "Might work, we'll talk Monday." Which means either "Sorry", "I need to think about it", "Let me talk to my friends", or "I actually do have to see if I work" Regardless when we run into each other tommorrow I don't know how to approach the situation... "Hey, next Friday sound good?" "Get a chance to check your schedule?" "Did you like my smoothness (with a laugh)" or if she tells me she has to work I will just ask "Do you mean work or (with the quotes) you ""Work"" "? As in, do you really work, or is it just a no... I have nothing to lose by asking that I guess. Thanks all!
amaysngrace Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 Did you ever think of just being spontaneous and saying whatever comes to mind?
AriaIncognito Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 or if she tells me she has to work I will just ask "Do you mean work or (with the quotes) you ""Work"" "? As in, do you really work, or is it just a no... If you ask that you will be showing your obvious self esteem issue...I wouldn't go there if I were you. Doesn't matter if it's "work" or actual work. She'll let you know if she's interested by saying "i have to work, would you be interested in another time" or something along those lines. If she doesn't offer that, you can KNOW with ABSOLUTE CERTAINTY that she's not interested. If a woman is interested, she's not going to let you just walk away without a backup plan. Of course I know you're gonna post "she said she had to work, do I believe her, what does this mean" come tomorrow, but I'm trying to help you avoid that thread with this post.
Author almosthere Posted February 24, 2008 Author Posted February 24, 2008 If you ask that you will be showing your obvious self esteem issue...I wouldn't go there if I were you. Doesn't matter if it's "work" or actual work. She'll let you know if she's interested by saying "i have to work, would you be interested in another time" or something along those lines. If she doesn't offer that, you can KNOW with ABSOLUTE CERTAINTY that she's not interested. If a woman is interested, she's not going to let you just walk away without a backup plan. Of course I know you're gonna post "she said she had to work, do I believe her, what does this mean" come tomorrow, but I'm trying to help you avoid that thread with this post. No I wouldn't be asking what that means, only I would be able to tell. Would it be ok to say, if she did say she works, "Would you like to go another time?" or something to that effect? If she doesn't give me an absolute yes then we know what the answer is...Would it help you in helping me if I told you I have season tickets?
Author almosthere Posted February 24, 2008 Author Posted February 24, 2008 Did you ever think of just being spontaneous and saying whatever comes to mind? See the issue there is, what if I don't know what to say? haha I know I overthink/plan things, its just the way I am.
AriaIncognito Posted February 25, 2008 Posted February 25, 2008 No I wouldn't be asking what that means, only I would be able to tell. Would it be ok to say, if she did say she works, "Would you like to go another time?" or something to that effect? If she doesn't give me an absolute yes then we know what the answer is...Would it help you in helping me if I told you I have season tickets? I suppose there's no harm in asking "another time" but honestly, as I said in my initial response, I firmly believe she'd offer that information if she wanted to go out with you.
Author almosthere Posted February 25, 2008 Author Posted February 25, 2008 I suppose there's no harm in asking "another time" but honestly, as I said in my initial response, I firmly believe she'd offer that information if she wanted to go out with you. I might do that, maybe I will even say "Its ok if you don't want to go" or "Its no problem if you don't want to go" That way it can die there, or she can say "Its not that" or something at which point I could suggest another time. Maybe we wont get a chance to talk till study hall and I can just casually ask if she can come. Whats your opinion on ths "its ok" reply?
amaysngrace Posted February 25, 2008 Posted February 25, 2008 Whats your opinion on ths "its ok" reply? I know I overthink/plan things, its just the way I am. And all this is just to get a date? OMG you are gonna kill yourself if you don't chill out. I smell your brain frying from here.
Author almosthere Posted February 25, 2008 Author Posted February 25, 2008 And all this is just to get a date? OMG you are gonna kill yourself if you don't chill out. I smell your brain frying from here. For sure, no arguement here. When I want to do anything, no is not an option. So I am curious as to how I will react if I don't get the date. I almost want to ask her friend out even though I am not really physically attracted to her. I AGREE!!
amaysngrace Posted February 25, 2008 Posted February 25, 2008 Just think of it this way. She's going to say no. This way if she says no you won't be disappointed but if she says yes you'll be pleasantly surprised. Hope for the best but plan for the worst. You'll be safe that way.
Author almosthere Posted February 25, 2008 Author Posted February 25, 2008 Just think of it this way. She's going to say no. This way if she says no you won't be disappointed but if she says yes you'll be pleasantly surprised. Hope for the best but plan for the worst. You'll be safe that way. Well I don't think I could do anything if I thought it wouldn't work, or wasn't very possible, so I would never think like that. I can, however, think that its no big deal if she doesn't go-thats what the classmates are saying. Of course a lot of them hate her just because she is Jewish.
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