Second thoughts real or false

[eagle5]

It's been a year now since I left my wife, I then met someone else very soon after who broke it off before Christmas and broke my heart.

 

My stbx wife and I are still amicable and we do have 2 young boys so that is all good but I've had a few thoughts about going back since having my heart broken by the ex gf.

 

The reasons I left her last year are still there, things like no communication on a personal level, no physical relationship, lack of understanding leading to rows, growing apart, wanting different things out of life, etc etc!!!!

 

So now I've found myself grieving 2 relationships, the one that really hurts is the ex gf, that's the killer, BUT I'm also grieving my marriage breakdown. Ok I left her but it still pains me that 5 years of marriage went so wrong.

I felt a great deal of guilt about leaving but knew it was the only option. Well the guilt is still there and I've been thinking 'should I go back?'

 

Already I know the answer but I'm confused like hell, I will always love her as the mother of my boys but there def is no 'in love' and I don't fancy her. She would give it another try but I'm wondering if I'm just scared of being alone.

 

Any advice pleeease, is this a normal feeling???? thanx guys and girls....Eagle

[directx]

Yeah. Go start dating, and stop trying to make every date a replacement for your marriage/wife.

Whore around a little bit. Build a nice little black book and live the bachelor life.

Someone special will come along eventually.

[Nomad1]

You clearly don't love your wife. Let her be and move on. Don't ruin her life again!

 

Nomad1