kathy95 Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 I've been dating my boyfriend for about 3 months. He always tells me how much he loves me, how glad he is that he met me, that I make him happy, and he reassures me that he would not cheat on me. He has told me that he could see himself spending the rest of his life with me. I'm very in love with him. The reason I'm writing on here is because I've recently been getting the feeling that his feelings may be changing. (just over the past 5 or 6 days.) Last night I was over my friends and called when I was leaving because I normally stay over his house. He called me back about 20 minutes later (he was obviously drunk) and told me not to go home because he was leaving his friends and he'd call me back in 5 minutes. I wait a little longer and he doesnt call back so I go home. I call him to let him know and get no answer. At this point I'm a little nervous something happened. I call again and again and still no answer. I cant get to sleep. I get a call from him 10 the next morning. He said he crashed the car on his street on the way home because of ice. He drove home drunk. (which I knew he would and that is why I was so worried) He said he did not remember everything when he came home and just had found his phone on his couch. Anyway, he told me he had not gone to bed yet because he was up with his mom about the car and he was looking for his phone. I questioned him on his story and he got angry that I would do that. Anyway, he was sleeping all day. The part that gets to me is that it's not like him to blow me off like that. Do you guys think his story is true? I'm worried he might have lied to me about something. When called him tonight,he was sleeping. He called back and said he was just going to go to bed and to call if I'm going over later. I texted him and said I was going to my friends and asked if I could come over a little later. He never responded. He may have been sleeping but it still bothers me. I'm a little upset because he is not acting like the guy who I love. He's not being mean but I'm getting a feeling he doesn't feel the same as he did and I cant understand whats going on. He's hard to talk to about things because he gets very defensive and makes me just seem silly or psycho. Sorry this is long but I really appreciate anyone who takes time to read this and respond. Anyone's advice will help me. This has been making me really sad.
aRoseforJada Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 Hi Kathy I know exactly how you feel. Its like you don't want to question him too much but if something doesn't make sense then it isn't true. Trust your woman's intuition. And the fact that he gets so defensive may also give a hint that he may not be telling you the whole truth.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 His behaviour does sound questionable. But at this point I think you should just give him the benefit of the doubt. He was drunk after all, and got into an accident because of it. Don't over stress yourself at this point, and just let it play out for a bit. The most convincing evidence you have right now would be his car. Don't jump to conclusions. But if your instincts still tells you something's not quite right, you should follow it.
Gold Pile Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 Next time he suggests a substantial delay of your plans, say "OK but I'm getting laid in an hour..whether your here or not":laugh:
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