Leia Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 I don't think that's possible, I think ALL hot people KNOW they are hot. Some fake and pretend they don't know it because they want to appear modest or because they are fishing for compliments. Hot people do know they are hot.... but there is also a few that really don't think they are (although they ARE hot) cos they know there are hotter people out there. Some are really modest, they don't appear to be... and I am not talking about myself!!
Author cutegirl Posted February 24, 2008 Author Posted February 24, 2008 I have read that men would cheat given a chance but other men would say no they wouldn't but I am sure the thought has crossed their minds but they do not want to admit it? I don't know but I would just go with the flow. If the next guy cheats on me, so be it. It's not the end of the world. I've read similar things. I guess going with the flow is he best thing to do. I still get depressed thinking about the fact that all men would cheat if given the chance though.
Author cutegirl Posted February 24, 2008 Author Posted February 24, 2008 Hot people do know they are hot.... but there is also a few that really don't think they are (although they ARE hot) cos they know there are hotter people out there. Some are really modest, they don't appear to be... and I am not talking about myself!! True, no matter how hot someone is, there is always going to be someone hotter out there, no one can ever be the hottest, there is always better. And nothing is more annoying than someone hot who pretends that they think they are ugly etc so you can compliment them and boost their ego.
Leia Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 And nothing is more annoying than someone hot who pretends that they think they are ugly etc so you can compliment them and boost their ego. Eeergghh... I know what you're talking about! I mean come on..... if you want to act modest, don't bloody over do it!!!!
Arch Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 I've read similar things. I guess going with the flow is he best thing to do. I still get depressed thinking about the fact that all men would cheat if given the chance though. Thats false, its most men - not all. I do find it funny how most people act "better" then themselves at the beginning of a relationship. It seems to me its best to act they way you would normally act and expect the same from your partner, a relationship based upon the idea that you need to be better then yourself or impress the other person is bound for failure.
Leia Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 I do find it funny how most people act "better" then themselves at the beginning of a relationship. It seems to me its best to act they way you would normally act and expect the same from your partner, a relationship based upon the idea that you need to be better then yourself or impress the other person is bound for failure. Yes! It is funny, isn't it? Then when the true color comes out, they act all surprised when things go haywire thereafter. I am always myself ~ I don't have a problem telling people I am spoiled cos I am. If you can't deal with that.... then not my problem!
Arch Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 Yes! It is funny, isn't it? Then when the true color comes out, they act all surprised when things go haywire thereafter. I am always myself ~ I don't have a problem telling people I am spoiled cos I am. If you can't deal with that.... then not my problem! hahaha, yea Its stupid to act differently then you normally would,
Space Marine Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 I'm good looking and I've never cheated! Flirty love triangle things in my early 20's (I'm 30 now), but no cheating in a committed relationship.. the triangles were hard enough, think of the abuse I'd suffer at the hands of an angry girlfriend. Guys are not the only ones who cheat either, you realize. Cheating for me is like blasphemy, or email fwds of really corny jokes; it's just wrong.
Author cutegirl Posted February 24, 2008 Author Posted February 24, 2008 One more thing, I was just reading some old topics here and I read one post where a woman said that her male friend told her that men will even have sex with a woman that they don't like as long as they are sexually attracted to the woman. Afterwards, the guy might feel guilty or whatever until the next time when he gets laid again. It's not about the fact that good looking guys are prone to cheating, it's the fact that they are prone to getting so many offers. I don't think most guys are capable of turning down women if they get offers etc from someone attractive who wants to have fun.
Uncertain123 Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 I'm not sure what age groups you are talking about here, but gosh, I have to completely disagree. The assumption here goes completely against human nature. Hot men who are used to having women throw themselves at them are not going to see cheating as such an interesting option because the option has been dangling in front of them for years and years. Also, think about it -- if your hot guy is also a decent guy and generally respects women, then these women who throw themselves at him are demonstrating the least respectful side of women. Your hot guy probably thinks it's all very funny -- not something attractive. My father was (and still is) extremely good looking and this was his take on the women who came on to him over the years. Same with my friends who are hot guys. Also, you do reach a certain point in your life where people have less opportunity to cheat. Once people are entrenched in their careers and their family lives, it's hard to find the time and the place to engage in cheating. So even if your hot husband has women making eyes at him, it's not like he can even take the bait at 4 o'clock on a Tuesday afternoon. And in my experience, men who are able to stimulate themselves through innocent flirting are generally happier overall and less likely to do something severe (like run off with somebody else or enter into some emotional affair). As for the ugly guys, remember too that after a certain point in life, men typically have opportunities to engage in cheating with all sorts of people who are attracted to them for reasons other than looks. Men who teach in a college can abuse the teacher/student relationship, men who are powerful in a company can take advantage of younger women hoping to climb the ladder......and women will start to find men attractive for very peculiar reasons. Not to mention the fact that some men actually do become more attractive with age! I'm thinking right now about the men I know who have cheated, and it's all those so-called ugly men who ended up with a woman throwing herself at him randomly at some point. From what I could see of the situation, these men had been innocently going through life assuming nobody but their wife found them attractive, when suddenly some young hottie came along. The men reacted as if this was kismet and somehow fate, and they engaged in the affair. So I think it all comes down to what you can handle. If you don't mind your guy flirting (I never minded this), then find some nice hot guy who likes intelligent women, and the two of you can laugh up a storm at all the random idiots who throw themselves at him. If you can't handle that, then get an ugly guy and hope that 10-20 years from now some other woman doesn't come along and treat him as if he's the hottest guy on the planet............
lino Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 the same thing can be said about a hot girl giving in to all the attention she gets from the guys. ability to cheat definitely doesn't depend on gender, men & women both cheat as much as each other. I do however agree that it is easier for a more attractive person to cheat simply because more opportunities will be presented to them. Then it all depends on their character whether they will act on it or not.
Author cutegirl Posted February 24, 2008 Author Posted February 24, 2008 I'm not sure what age groups you are talking about here, but gosh, I have to completely disagree. The assumption here goes completely against human nature. Hot men who are used to having women throw themselves at them are not going to see cheating as such an interesting option because the option has been dangling in front of them for years and years. Also, think about it -- if your hot guy is also a decent guy and generally respects women, then these women who throw themselves at him are demonstrating the least respectful side of women. Your hot guy probably thinks it's all very funny -- not something attractive. My father was (and still is) extremely good looking and this was his take on the women who came on to him over the years. Same with my friends who are hot guys. Also, you do reach a certain point in your life where people have less opportunity to cheat. Once people are entrenched in their careers and their family lives, it's hard to find the time and the place to engage in cheating. So even if your hot husband has women making eyes at him, it's not like he can even take the bait at 4 o'clock on a Tuesday afternoon. And in my experience, men who are able to stimulate themselves through innocent flirting are generally happier overall and less likely to do something severe (like run off with somebody else or enter into some emotional affair). As for the ugly guys, remember too that after a certain point in life, men typically have opportunities to engage in cheating with all sorts of people who are attracted to them for reasons other than looks. Men who teach in a college can abuse the teacher/student relationship, men who are powerful in a company can take advantage of younger women hoping to climb the ladder......and women will start to find men attractive for very peculiar reasons. Not to mention the fact that some men actually do become more attractive with age! I'm thinking right now about the men I know who have cheated, and it's all those so-called ugly men who ended up with a woman throwing herself at him randomly at some point. From what I could see of the situation, these men had been innocently going through life assuming nobody but their wife found them attractive, when suddenly some young hottie came along. The men reacted as if this was kismet and somehow fate, and they engaged in the affair. So I think it all comes down to what you can handle. If you don't mind your guy flirting (I never minded this), then find some nice hot guy who likes intelligent women, and the two of you can laugh up a storm at all the random idiots who throw themselves at him. If you can't handle that, then get an ugly guy and hope that 10-20 years from now some other woman doesn't come along and treat him as if he's the hottest guy on the planet............ The age range I'm referring to is late 20's to early 30's. I'm 29 and the guy is 30... He is entrenched in his career but he seems to go out every night. I'm not with him btw. Just observing him. He seems to have more than plenty of time to go out just about every single night or so... Hanging with the boys and clubbing too etc. You are absolutely right about less attractive guys also being likely to stray at the first sign of attention from a hottie, so all in all it's very difficult to say... I guess all men are prone to straying and you just have to take your chances. Very good looking guys can stray and so can less attractive ones. I wish there was a way where a woman can scientifically determine which guys are most likely to be faithful so we pick those type of guys. No matter how good our judgment is or how we study his character etc the scary thing is that you can never know for sure. I have some friends who have such low self-esteem that they recommend dating guys who are not attractive but also can't support themselves financially so that way they would theoretically be less likely to cheat, especially since they wouldn't have respectable jobs such as being a professor or executive etc. I have a friend who actually wanted to support an unemployed guy because of this but the thing is that he could end up cheating too. It's just very depressing. As for the matter of flirting, I don't really know if I would be comfortable with my guy flirting a lot. To be honest it would make me uncomfortable. I'm rather jealous by nature, it would bother me quite a lot.
Author cutegirl Posted February 24, 2008 Author Posted February 24, 2008 the same thing can be said about a hot girl giving in to all the attention she gets from the guys. ability to cheat definitely doesn't depend on gender, men & women both cheat as much as each other. I do however agree that it is easier for a more attractive person to cheat simply because more opportunities will be presented to them. Then it all depends on their character whether they will act on it or not. No, hotter guys are more likely to cheat than hotter women because guys will stick their penises into ANYONE who is remotely attractive sexually, they don't discriminate, plus they have an innate desire to spread their seed. Women are more pickier, they have to like the guy, be attracted to him etc. Most guys will have sex with any woman who is remotely "doable". Women are more discriminating. Guys are hornier. They'll bang any woman period.
Teacher's Pet Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 lawl, I'm not female, but I do love hearing stories of the chick getting the hot guy then a week later shes crying that he ****ed her best friend, gives me some enjoyment but thats outside the scope of this discussion. Back to your issue - you can't have everything, those "hot guys" spend time to look the way they do for a reason, to attract the opposite sex. I have to side with Arch on this one. I've "lost" women to "hotter" guys in the past, and more often than not, the new guy really screwed her over good. Just a hint, ladies. When you ditch us "non-hot" guys for "Mr. Perfect", and he hurts you, WE LOVE IT. We dance, sing, hoot, and holler, knowing you'll race right back to us, because you KNOW where the GOOD love is.... And guess what, just like the last time this happened to me, I didn't exactly wait around... So now you have a semi-attractive guy like me with a new woman, and my good-looking ex with tears running down her cheeks because she's been used and now has no one. So yes, when the guy you dump us for hurts you, we're cheering for HIM. Because he got his, I'm now getting mine, and most of all... YOU GOT YOURS. Not to sound like an ass, but come on ladies, you DO ask for it when this happens -TP vengeful (with a touch of fun)
lino Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 I disagree, I know heaps of girls who will have sex with any guy they think is hot regardless of whether they like him or not. I really don't believe it has anything to do with what gender someone is Guys are hornier. this I can agree with doesn't mean it will more likely make someone cheat though
ibitealil Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 I have to side with Arch on this one. I've "lost" women to "hotter" guys in the past, and more often than not, the new guy really screwed her over good. Just a hint, ladies. When you ditch us "non-hot" guys for "Mr. Perfect", and he hurts you, WE LOVE IT. We dance, sing, hoot, and holler, knowing you'll race right back to us, because you KNOW where the GOOD love is.... And guess what, just like the last time this happened to me, I didn't exactly wait around... So now you have a semi-attractive guy like me with a new woman, and my good-looking ex with tears running down her cheeks because she's been used and now has no one. So yes, when the guy you dump us for hurts you, we're cheering for HIM. Because he got his, I'm now getting mine, and most of all... YOU GOT YOURS. Not to sound like an ass, but come on ladies, you DO ask for it when this happens -TP vengeful (with a touch of fun) My god! So mean
giro Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 (edited) i'm not all that bad looking and i get "pulled away" by girls all the time but i've never cheated... i think that in general, good looking guys are less temped since they CAN get with a girl whenever they want... so there's no point, it's nothing special. btw, teacher's pet... i hear ya Edited February 24, 2008 by giro
GoodOnPaper Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 I'm thinking right now about the men I know who have cheated, and it's all those so-called ugly men who ended up with a woman throwing herself at him randomly at some point. From what I could see of the situation, these men had been innocently going through life assuming nobody but their wife found them attractive, when suddenly some young hottie came along. The men reacted as if this was kismet and somehow fate, and they engaged in the affair. This is a good point. I probably fall under the heading of the married "ugly" men under discussion. I've never cheated but when you don't think any other woman would be attracted to you, marriage vows can seem rather pointless at times. A sudden offer out of the blue from somebody reasonably attractive would be hard to resist.
Lizzie60 Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 My advice: date the ugliest guy you can find.. he won't cheat cause he probably won't stand a chance... plus he'll have you, so NO need to cheat.. or go for hookers.. right? Good looking guys, are most likely to cheat.. sorry but that's reality... When you think that MOST men cheat, plain 'Joe's' and amazing guys will definitely be the first ones to cheat IMO. Even the plain-plain-plain Joe's will really think hard about it if a nice woman hit on them... they'll get obsessed with her.. this theory can also be verified..
Trialbyfire Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 Do you think ALL men or ANY man will cheat if given the opportunity? I kind of think this (I'm not sure 100 percent) but I'm leaning towards it and it's making me kind of depressed. I have this nagging feeling that ALL men would cheat if they were guaranteed that they would get away with it, especially if the woman in question is very attractive. No, all men won't cheat, regardless of how attractive. To debate for and against your perspective, you could look at men in Hollywood. Most do cheat. On the other hand, is it the selection that makes them cheat, or simply the type of personality that takes up acting/modeling where they require a lot of external gender-based validation?
lambda Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 (edited) After reading this thread it seems like lots of girls are scared of dating good-looking guys. Is this true? Edited February 24, 2008 by lambda
Trialbyfire Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 After reading this thread it seems like lots of girls are scared of dating good-looking guys. Is this true? No, some of us aren't scared of dating good-looking men. We're cautious about character.
Angels&Airwaves Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 After reading this thread it seems like lots of girls are scared of dating good-looking guys. Is this true? How can this be so? Every person is their own individual and has their own definitions of handsome, beautiful and pretty. A person who might be considered pretty by one person might not be viewed in the same light by another person. I believe as human beings mature it becomes less about appearance and more about character; of course not everyone is inclined to share this view.
ibitealil Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 Luckily ive never been cheated but i have been hurt by "less good looking guy" more than "good looking" ones. The reason is perhaps i allow more to less good looking guys than hot guys. With less good looking guys i feel safe for some reason which is why i open up faster and fall in love. With hot guys i m always insecure and stay alert so i dont get hurt that deeply. So now im friends with all my hot looking exes and not the one who truly broke my heart (who is btw less good looking) :-P If that makes any sense :-P but i never thought to any of my ex that he deserved unhappiness cuz he hurt me once...thats just so mean
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