cutegirl Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 Do you think it is probable that extremely good looking guys who are "in demand" so to speak, for example, guys that all the women are crazy for or have a lot of women chasing them are more likely to cheat? Someone told me to not go for good looking guys who have craploads of women chasing them because you are going to have to deal with aggressive women trying to take your man, PLUS they are going to have to deal temptation all the time from these women. There could be a time where the guy can't resist and gives in. But then I think ugly guys can also cheat too if they want. Maybe he would go and pay for a hooker etc. So what is the best chance for a woman to not get played? Date an ugly guy? (yes, he can still get hookers but at least he won't have constant offers from women). Is it better to date someone who you're not attractive to and who is not considered attractive in general so you have a better chance of keeping him? I know people will argue that it depends on the character of the person, but you cannot deny the fact that a guy who is extremely good looking and has got it together and is in demand simply has more options available and much more temptation. This is a fact.
Leia Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 Ugly or not, people cheat. It has nothing to do with looks. My brother and cousins are good looking. None of them are cheaters. I don't cheat. I know one ugly that is a playboy. Go figure.
Trialbyfire Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 I can only say that it is character reliant. My ex-H was one who found temptation too difficult to resist. He always had women all over him. In the past, I've had relationships with other men in high demand, who never cheated on anyone. Watch for those red flags, regardless of looks. Anyone who constantly needs opposite gender validation due to personal insecurities, is someone to watch out for.
aRoseforJada Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 Now that you mention it, I have this same problem. I've always shyed away from the popular attractive guy for fear that every other woman will be chasing him. Especially if he seems "too perfect" I'll make up some reason why I'm not into him. I don't want someone who looks way better than me. Hope this makes sense!
Author cutegirl Posted February 24, 2008 Author Posted February 24, 2008 Ugly or not, people cheat. It has nothing to do with looks. This is true, but imagine this scenario. A good looking guys has 10 women chase him and some of these women are AGGRESSIVE and SLUTTY and all over him and would do anything to get him etc. Don't you think he would have MUCH more temptations vs an ugly guy that no one comes up to? A guy that constantly has women approaching and flirting with him has more temptation, and some women these days are aggressive. Like really aggressive and would have sex right away if he wanted to etc
Yamaha Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 So your question is what? Should you date an ugly guy that will more likely stay true to you but you don't really have any romantic feelings for or date the hot guy who has lots of opportunities to cheat but you don't trust him. I think either way is a losing situation. Why not date a guy who you have an attraction to but you also like him as a person. Surely there are guys out there who may not be drop dead gorgeous but they are attractive to you and they also have character. If your looking for a long term relationship these are the guys I would concentrate on but if your just looking for some fun them you might as well go for the guys who do it for you, sexually.
Leia Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 This is true, but imagine this scenario. A good looking guys has 10 women chase him and some of these women are AGGRESSIVE and SLUTTY and all over him and would do anything to get him etc. Don't you think he would have MUCH more temptations vs an ugly guy that no one comes up to? A guy that constantly has women approaching and flirting with him has more temptation, and some women these days are aggressive. Like really aggressive and would have sex right away if he wanted to etc It depends on his characteristics. Is he the type to cheat? If so, then he would be all over the girls too. It boils down to what type of a person that guys is. My best friend is very handsome, women are all over him even gays but he has been faithful all the while to his soon to be wife. Are you ok with dating an ugly guy?
Author cutegirl Posted February 24, 2008 Author Posted February 24, 2008 It depends on his characteristics. Is he the type to cheat? If so, then he would be all over the girls too. It boils down to what type of a person that guys is. My best friend is very handsome, women are all over him even gays but he has been faithful all the while to his soon to be wife. Are you ok with dating an ugly guy? I don't know, but I think that if we did an experiment with two guys who were EXACTLY alike in character and morals etc and one had a lot of girls approaching him and one had none, the one that is more in demand would be more likely to cheat. Guys are guys and they do get horny, all it takes is one time for a guy to cheat. Well, yea, I used to date a guy who wasn't considered attractive and he still got sick of me and wanted to date other people etc so there you go. It's just that I have a female friend who tells me not to go for certain guys because they are good looking and she told me it is going to be even WORSE than the less attractive guy who dumped me because there are girls all over him all the time. She's the same way herself, she is afraid of dating attractive guys too. I think we both have an extreme fear of being cheated on. I think it might be best to do whatever it takes to lower my chances of being cheated on/played/dumped...
Author cutegirl Posted February 24, 2008 Author Posted February 24, 2008 It depends on his characteristics. Is he the type to cheat? If so, then he would be all over the girls too. It boils down to what type of a person that guys is. My best friend is very handsome, women are all over him even gays but he has been faithful all the while to his soon to be wife. Are you ok with dating an ugly guy? The guy I'm referring to is not all over the girls at all, he was with the same woman for around 6 years or so. It's just my friend is feeding things into my head, she says that even though he's not all over them he DOES talk and he IS a man after all and no man can resist that, eventually he will succumb sooner or later, and that it is DIFFICULT to keep a man like that down. You are always going to keep him in check. It's like dating David Beckham (except the guy is not as good looking and not as rich of course), but just someone that a lot of women are attracted to. I am thinking it could be a hassle etc
Leia Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 I think it might be best to do whatever it takes to lower my chances of being cheated on/played/dumped... If you keep doing that, I don't think you will ever be happy or find someone that wouldn't cheat! You'd always have that insecurity that he might cheat or you, no? I've been cheated on and yes it took me a while to trust men but that's their problem not mine (the cheating).
Author cutegirl Posted February 24, 2008 Author Posted February 24, 2008 If you keep doing that, I don't think you will ever be happy or find someone that wouldn't cheat! You'd always have that insecurity that he might cheat or you, no? I've been cheated on and yes it took me a while to trust men but that's their problem not mine (the cheating). I think the insecurity would be more with someone good looking because good looking guys have more options available... I might still be insecure with someone less attractive but not as much because I know that women wouldn't constantly be all over him.
underpants Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 I think it might be best to do whatever it takes to lower my chances of being cheated on/played/dumped... Well, Those are risks in any romantic endeavor. Cheating. In my experience I have flat out discussed the topic of cheating very early in the getting to know you stage. If it scares a guy away or he admits to having cheated (excuses it/or it is in the not so distant past/or sometimes at all) then I don't really pursue getting to know them better. It is just a very high risk IMO. If a relationship evolves then I request once it is official that they let me know if they want to pursue someone else before they act on it. As a respect thing. It sucks if they do this. Then again, if they do then they are not the one for me. Played. This can be discerned (usually) in the first 3 months or less of knowing someone. Other girls, exes, strange/defensive behaviour. Dumped. Well, it happens. Don't be afraid to dump yourself (if you see that it can't work out). If you do it be as kind as you can, hope that they do the same and go seperate ways. All you can do is be genuine, and seek good character in others. Looks really don't have much to do with it.
Arch Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 lol, well "ugly" people will probably have a more difficult time finding relationships so the ones they have are more important to them. The "good looking" people don't need to care about a particular relationship as much simply because they can easily get into a new one.
Author cutegirl Posted February 24, 2008 Author Posted February 24, 2008 lol, well "ugly" people will probably have a more difficult time finding relationships so the ones they have are more important to them. The "good looking" people don't need to care about a particular relationship as much simply because they can easily get into a new one. Yea, this is exactly what I mean. So doesn't this play into the fact that good looking guys are harder to keep and that it's harder for them to be faithful? They can always get someone new.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 That's a good question. Personally, I have insecurities regarding guys that are way too attractive. It's kinda intimidating to approach them considering, yes, they have lots of other girls crowding around them. But I heard attractive men do make better friends?
BlueEyedGirl Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 While anyone can cheat, as I said in another thread, men will cheat given the right opportunity and the right person. Good looking men simply have more opportunities and more girls to chose from. When it comes to a relationship, men like to pursue, but when it comes to the sex on the side, they prefer it to come easy. So yes, good looking men are more likely to cheat. "Ugly" men that are powerfull or have very interesting perosnalities will also get some offers. Your best bet is someone "ugly", shy and with low self esteem but then again you probably won't find him attractive either.
Author cutegirl Posted February 24, 2008 Author Posted February 24, 2008 Well, Those are risks in any romantic endeavor. Cheating. In my experience I have flat out discussed the topic of cheating very early in the getting to know you stage. If it scares a guy away or he admits to having cheated (excuses it/or it is in the not so distant past/or sometimes at all) then I don't really pursue getting to know them better. It is just a very high risk IMO. If a relationship evolves then I request once it is official that they let me know if they want to pursue someone else before they act on it. As a respect thing. It sucks if they do this. Then again, if they do then they are not the one for me. Played. This can be discerned (usually) in the first 3 months or less of knowing someone. Other girls, exes, strange/defensive behaviour. Dumped. Well, it happens. Don't be afraid to dump yourself (if you see that it can't work out). If you do it be as kind as you can, hope that they do the same and go seperate ways. All you can do is be genuine, and seek good character in others. Looks really don't have much to do with it. Given that all factors are equal, don't you think though that a guy with more offers is more likely to cheat? And it's just not the cheating but the fact that other women will be always on his back and fighting for his attention etc, you know what I mean?? It would take a very secure woman to deal with that crap. If you date an unattractive guy you don't have to deal with other women wanting your guy.
Arch Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 Yea, this is exactly what I mean. So doesn't this play into the fact that good looking guys are harder to keep and that it's harder for them to be faithful? They can always get someone new. Of course, again they don't value you as much because its easy for them to get a replacement.
Author cutegirl Posted February 24, 2008 Author Posted February 24, 2008 While anyone can cheat, as I said in another thread, men will cheat given the right opportunity and the right person. Good looking men simply have more opportunities and more girls to chose from. When it comes to a relationship, men like to pursue, but when it comes to the sex on the side, they prefer it to come easy. So yes, good looking men are more likely to cheat. "Ugly" men that are powerfull or have very interesting perosnalities will also get some offers. Your best bet is someone "ugly", shy and with low self esteem but then again you probably won't find him attractive either. Do you think ALL men or ANY man will cheat if given the opportunity? I kind of think this (I'm not sure 100 percent) but I'm leaning towards it and it's making me kind of depressed. I have this nagging feeling that ALL men would cheat if they were guaranteed that they would get away with it, especially if the woman in question is very attractive.
Author cutegirl Posted February 24, 2008 Author Posted February 24, 2008 Of course, again they don't value you as much because its easy for them to get a replacement. Great, so we women only have hope if we date an ugly. Life sucks.
Arch Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 Great, so we women only have hope if we date an ugly. Life sucks. lawl, I'm not female, but I do love hearing stories of the chick getting the hot guy then a week later shes crying that he ****ed her best friend, gives me some enjoyment but thats outside the scope of this discussion. Back to your issue - you can't have everything, those "hot guys" spend time to look the way they do for a reason, to attract the opposite sex.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 lawl, I'm not female, but I do love hearing stories of the chick getting the hot guy then a week later shes crying that he ****ed her best friend, gives me some enjoyment but thats outside the scope of this discussion. Back to your issue - you can't have everything, those "hot guys" spend time to look the way they do for a reason, to attract the opposite sex. Not all the time though. What about the "hot guys" who doesn't know they're "hot"?
Author cutegirl Posted February 24, 2008 Author Posted February 24, 2008 Back to your issue - you can't have everything, those "hot guys" spend time to look the way they do for a reason, to attract the opposite sex. Some guys look good naturally, they don't have to spend a lot of time to look good. Often it's good genes; good bone structure, good facial features. Those are hard to fake unless the guy gets plastic surgery.
Leia Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 I have read that men would cheat given a chance but other men would say no they wouldn't but I am sure the thought has crossed their minds but they do not want to admit it? I don't know but I would just go with the flow. If the next guy cheats on me, so be it. It's not the end of the world.
Author cutegirl Posted February 24, 2008 Author Posted February 24, 2008 Not all the time though. What about the "hot guys" who doesn't know they're "hot"? I don't think that's possible, I think ALL hot people KNOW they are hot. Some fake and pretend they don't know it because they want to appear modest or because they are fishing for compliments.
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