kretz182 Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 (edited) i am 49 year old , i have been married this time (to same woman ) for 1.5 years. She quit her job when we got married because she wanted to be a housewife, but she wasn't happy with this decision. She got another job after 6 month and she moved out ( I didn't know where she moved too),(said she loved me and didn't want a divorce). She was at the house ever weekend. She work at this job for 3 moths and got a better job offer 100 miles away, she took the job ; asked me to help her move her stuff back to our home. She moved in with her aunt for about two month and now she has her own place (I don't know where it's at), she came to the house ever weekend, but now she spends less and less time with me and she says that a ok marriage and i shouldn't get upset becaue I am alone 90% of the time. Can anyone help??? What would you do ?? I love her or I would have put up with this crap as long as i have.... I don't know what to do anymore???? We don't have a sex life anymore, she says that she's just not interested in that ...... Confused in Alabama Edited February 24, 2008 by kretz182 need to ad something
Gunny376 Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 Welcome to LS Kretz? I'm from Alaabama. The fact of the matter is? She's dictating to you all the terms and conditions of the marriage ~ and that's no marriage? There idealy should be three "enties" in a marriage, ~ you, me, and "us" ~ and its the "us" entities that make decisions about the marriage? Then there's business of her living outside of the martial home and you're not knowing? This is one of things that make you want to put your chin in your hand and go ~ "Hmmmmmmm! Surely your not footing her bills? At the end of the day? Its like Steve told Hellen ~ "There's just know for sure of telling? But were it me? I'd be looking for a snake in the woodpile? And the bottom line here? You're not getting your mental, emotional and physical needs meets by this woman? Were it me? I'd be boxing up all her trash, put it in a storage locker, change the locks on the door (and everything else) and get busy de-hitching myself from this little gal? The next time she showed up at my front door she would find the key doesn't work, and when I opened to door ~ I'd be handing this little gal a set of divorce papers saying "See Ya! Would want to be ya!" You could find more love and affection from a dog than you could from this woman? And its bad enough about your marriage being in a sexless one? So far as loving and being in love? There are millions of people, pitaful, miserable people staying in relationships with complete @sshats, and other %^^%#^&&'s because they're "in love" ~ when the simple truth of the matter is? Its very possible to be "in-love" with the very person that is the most damaging to us mentally, emotionally, pyschologically financially, physically. Law enforcement deal with this crap every single day? Indeed, the single biggest threat to a law enforcement officer's life isn't a bank robbery, a bugulary, whatever? But, responding to a domestic violence call? Me? Myself and I? I rather be single and happy, than married and miserable! And the simple fact of the matter is? At 49 its time for you to get out there and find yourself some peace of mind, some happiness, and rub a little sunshine and a smile on your face each day! You need to be putting some "laugh-lines" on your face! Not "frown-lines!" Its not like it was back in high school? Nor college? The simple fact of the matter is that there are more girls born than men ~ and with the onslaught of time ~ that is to say the more birthdays you add, the bigger your dating pool gets? Hell if you literally live to be 80? There are two women for every man. At 50? Provided you've got your head and act together? You my Friend are a very sought after commodity. At and pass 50? Your biggest problem is the "Casserole Brigade" A "Dear Annie" today in the Montgomery Advertiser carried a letter about a woman our age complaining that her husband wasn't interested in sex? But she was~ very much so? Life's too freaking short to settle for less than the best that you can afford to tote the note on? Were it me? I'd cut my losses with this little gal? I don't know what you call what you've got with this woman ~ but its not a marriage!
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