Whey2Big4u Posted February 23, 2008 Posted February 23, 2008 alright so to update everyone........ I may have been wrong about my ex being with other guys when we were together. I have been slowly getting in contact with some of our common friends...... well. i sent her a birhtday card and she called me to thank me we talked for 15 minutes. i emailed her afterwards and asked if we could meet to just catch up. she said no she has no reason to and does not want to and that we are not friends........and she doesnt want any communication unless shes under "circumstances beyond her control" I spoke with one of our friends, he had gone to her birthday party (same place i threw her one for the past two years, i never had a party thrown for me, buts thats besides the piont) He said that shes not over me yet......and still cant get over that she hurt me the way she did, and a guy that she invited to the party whom she is "intersted" in looks exactly like me......also some other guys shes been with, ive seen pics, looks like me too. wierd. he also says that it seems that shes looking for a relationship.....as if ours was so bad, when she was the one who initiated the negagment and wedding...and its only been 5 months since we split He asked me if i think we could be friends and i said of course, he said that she either wants me in her life or doesnt, shes that kinda person. he said that she is either going through or has gone through something but he doesnt know. she is hangin out with these new people that i dont like, and she has become something that is not her and my friends agreed. He thinks that her "friends" are feeding into her insecurities. well my question is......could she still want me? just confused? or stubborn? FYI, im over her, and im not waiting for her, and i havent been , but if in the future she comes around and if im still single and wanting....who knows.
g1976b Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 Sorry, man. My gut tells me no...at this point she probably doesn't want you back. I'm in a very similar situation but I know she's hanging around/dating other guys and she has made it perfectly clear that she does not want to be in a relationship with me "right now". Now I obviously don't know how similar your situation is to mine, but my ex-GF has consistently been qualifying the "NO" with "maybe in 6 months or a year". Who knows what that means? Do they just need time? Are they trying to be kind or keep us somewhat on the line? No idea. Don't get me wrong, I honestly still have accepted my situation yet, but logically I understand that it's over for now and I have to move on. I need to get a little angry and start taking care of myself. I suggest the same things for you. If it comes back around...great. But as she is making poor choices and rebelling against the past (mine is doing the exact same thing) you need to work on yourself and make yourself a better person. I'm hurting really bad. That said, I'm determined to have SOMETHING good come of this. Good luck.
Author Whey2Big4u Posted February 25, 2008 Author Posted February 25, 2008 does feel like im on a string....on the back burner sometimes Its just wierd how she treats me now, like i used to beat teh **** out of her and called her names. (which is FAR FROM THE TRUTH) We had a wonderful relationship, up until the day she broke it off. She too also mentioned the whole year thing...wonder what that means... she kept saying at the beginning about her cousin. him and his wife now split for a year and found eachother again while living in different countries. And he was engaged to another women.
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