Is my ex still in love with me and is in a rebound relationship

[PositiveFuture]

Hi all.. I broke up with my gf of 2 half years three weeks ago. The full story is: October last year we broke up, she text me to say she wanted to move on. I turned up at her place that night late (6 hours later) after drinking and on my way home (in a happy mood); she had another guy in the house. I reacted and throw a rock through his car window. I found out it was one of her workmates (who just had a kid, month earlier). This is out of character for me, but to my defense, I just found out the week earlier that my mum had cancer, she came to my kids play on the Monday, told me she thinks she might be pregnant on the Tuesday and on the Wednesday she wanted just me and her to do something for her 21st as her friends hadn't plan anything. That night we had an argument over some random guy texting her and we didn't speak until she text that it was over. She text me three weeks later saying: Hey plz dont tel ne1 iv txt u! U dnt hav 2 txt bak, i undastand wish u didnt do wat u did, that persn my frnd n justa frnd! Promis! I mis u! n wish we culd hav wrkd thngs out! nw i cnt evn c u! i hpe u algd n everthng wrkin out 4 u! Mis u! Xoxo"

 

We got back together.

 

Now back to the recent break up (03 Feb): She was pregnant again to me, but the doctors said that she will end up having a miscarriage. This put a lot of pressure on us; we started to nag at each other again over silly little things. I ended up leaving her, telling her she need to be with someone her own age (I'm 35 and she is 21). 7th Feb, i email her to see how she was doing and if she still needed a ride to the hospital for the scan. She told me she has met someone new and he is 19 yrs old. I did take this hard, but i did tell her to meet someone her own age and left why she was going through the pregnancy. She emailed me at work a week later on the 14th Feb to say she had the miscarriage 5 days ago. Beginning of this week she emailed me to say she is deleting my email address, i told her i was upset that she moved on so fast and was upset with her. The next day she email me the worst email every, "saying she hates me, I’m evil and that she is so so happy now, she feels sorry for any girl that meets me in the future etc...." I didn't reply.

 

Then two days later she sent me another email saying “I’m so sorry for saying those things and hope you except my apology and you are a nice guy and wish you all the best for the future C U "

 

I still think of her all the time and know i still love her, but want her to be happy and with someone her own age.

 

Is she playing the strings with me, just in case this new relationship, with the younger guy doesn’t workout?

 

The mother of my kids still looks after her daughter while she is at work and it makes my kids sad to see her with this other guy.

Edited February 23, 2008 by PositiveFuture
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[EllaDerSpin]

Well, with all the concern about miscarriage, she really must have/must need support. It sounds as though you are her own age or younger. I don't blame her for being angry.

The whole relationship sounds really immature.

Sorry, maybe it is just the way you have written it.

[s_n_d]

It is likely that she is still in love with you and in the rebound relationship but it is also likely that she is over you and in another relationship.

 

Its hard to say but time will tell...

 

I think you should start the process of trying to move on..Trust me.

NC helps a lot too in the process. I know its hard but its SO obvious that your ex doesnt care about you anymore or she wouldnt have done this to you.

 

Im sorry for what your going through. *Hug*

[PositiveFuture]

Thanks for both of your advice, I have started the NC, day 3... Also i've started to read the Secret, which is helping so much... The pain is not as strong now.