Scorpio13c Posted February 23, 2008 Posted February 23, 2008 "We'll talk soon" at the end of a date, is that more or less the "Kiss of death"
carhill Posted February 23, 2008 Posted February 23, 2008 How did the rest of the date go? Vibe is important. Some of my female friends in the past were just low-key and their words weren't necessarily "bad" or "ominous" or "the kiss of death". Of course, they always said them to me as a friend, so I had no romantic delusions
Author Scorpio13c Posted February 23, 2008 Author Posted February 23, 2008 Everything went well till the end, when she decided to leave. I walked her to her car where she gave me a strong hug, she mentioned she had a great time, i gave her a couple full lip kisses & she then said "We'll talk soon" She'd had one shot of something in the club & her demeanor changed shortly after, that is when she decided to leave. It was our second date btw & we'd had a great time up until then.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 23, 2008 Posted February 23, 2008 Well did she offer her contact? If so then there's nothing to worry about.
Author Scorpio13c Posted February 23, 2008 Author Posted February 23, 2008 Well did she offer her contact? If so then there's nothing to worry about. I'm not sure what you mean? I have her home & cell number already.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 23, 2008 Posted February 23, 2008 (edited) Sorry my computer lagged on the posts. But yeah but based what you wrote, I'm kinda gettng the feeling that she might have gotten bored all of a sudden? What kind of drink did she had? Was the kind of person that gets drunk easily? Edited February 23, 2008 by xpaperxcutx
Author Scorpio13c Posted February 23, 2008 Author Posted February 23, 2008 Sorry my computer lagged on the posts. But yeah but based what you wrote, I'm kinda gettng the feeling that she might have gotten bored all of a sudden? What kind of drink did she had? Was the kind of person that gets drunk easily? She'd been drinking prior to us meeting for dinner, i don't know how much, but could tell she was feeling good. During dinner she had 2 drinks over a 2 hour span. We went to the club, where she had a beer & the shooter, then a bottle of water. I asked if she was o.k. to drive, to which she replied "Yes, i have a high tolerance for alcohol" I wasn't about to argue, as she is 41 & capable of making her own decisions.
Author Scorpio13c Posted February 23, 2008 Author Posted February 23, 2008 you're worrying too much. I hope so, i really enjoy talking & being with this woman..
AriaIncognito Posted February 23, 2008 Posted February 23, 2008 I dont think there's anything wrong with what she said. She said she had a good time and whatnot she might have just been nervous cuz it's hard to end dates you know? The whole pressure of how to say good bye (kissing, not, etc). I'd say she's fine. Dont read into it.
Author Scorpio13c Posted February 23, 2008 Author Posted February 23, 2008 I dont think there's anything wrong with what she said. She said she had a good time and whatnot she might have just been nervous cuz it's hard to end dates you know? The whole pressure of how to say good bye (kissing, not, etc). I'd say she's fine. Dont read into it. Thank you so much Aria, your words have really helped alleviate some of my anxieties, I truely hope you are correct
BenefitOfTheDoubt Posted February 23, 2008 Posted February 23, 2008 I'd say she's fine. Dont read into it. I agree. It could also just be a mannerism. I'm pretty sure I say, "We'll talk soon," just about every time I get off the phone with someone -- friends, parents, boyfriend. All I mean by it is, quite literally, that I intend to speak with that person again soon. Maybe something about the way she said it threw you for a loop, but the expression itself is in no way the kiss of death as far as I'm concerned!
Author Scorpio13c Posted February 23, 2008 Author Posted February 23, 2008 I agree. It could also just be a mannerism. I'm pretty sure I say, "We'll talk soon," just about every time I get off the phone with someone -- friends, parents, boyfriend. All I mean by it is, quite literally, that I intend to speak with that person again soon. Maybe something about the way she said it threw you for a loop, but the expression itself is in no way the kiss of death as far as I'm concerned! Thank you too Benefit, I suppose i'm quite sensitive to peoples' body language & pick up on changing mannerisms quickly, maybe sometimes overacting inside, i hope.
Leia Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 Did you speak to her again? Maybe it was something she drank.....
gfto Posted February 24, 2008 Posted February 24, 2008 She's interested. Telling you that "we'll talk soon," after a few full-lip kisses is solid sign that she's quite interested. But, take it slow. You've only been on a few dates with her. If you make it to 9 or 10 dates, you might have something.
Author Scorpio13c Posted February 25, 2008 Author Posted February 25, 2008 definitely not! Over reacting?
Author Scorpio13c Posted February 25, 2008 Author Posted February 25, 2008 Did you speak to her again? Maybe it was something she drank..... I haven't yet spoken to her.. wondering if she'll contact me..?
Author Scorpio13c Posted February 25, 2008 Author Posted February 25, 2008 She's interested. Telling you that "we'll talk soon," after a few full-lip kisses is solid sign that she's quite interested. But, take it slow. You've only been on a few dates with her. If you make it to 9 or 10 dates, you might have something. I'm disrtessed/confused because i kissed her twice, but was hoping for a more sensual response kiss (longer than what transpired) which didn't happen..
carhill Posted February 25, 2008 Posted February 25, 2008 Try letting intimacy and physical affection pace each other. It's a wonderful journey...
Zolie Posted February 25, 2008 Posted February 25, 2008 Being a woman in my 40s, I feel qualified to answer this. Scenario #1: I'm on a second date, and I like the man and I would like to see him again. But, being a woman of my generation, I might not feel it's my place to say "I'll call you." (old rules die hard) Nor do I want to sound needy by saying "Call me." So, I might say instead, "We'll talk soon" which would mean, to me, I would like you to call me again, soon. Scenario #2: I'm thinking of myself on a second date, and I'm not really into the the man and don't know if I want to see him again. I wouldn't say "We'll talk soon". I would say in a breezy-you-are-a-nice-friend kind of way "Talk to you later!" and wave goodbye. Of course, none of us has any way of knowing what she is thinking. You will just have to call her and ask her out for a third date. That will be your answer.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 25, 2008 Posted February 25, 2008 I haven't yet spoken to her.. wondering if she'll contact me..? Don't overstress it. How long has it been since your date? Maybe she's waiting for you to call her?
Author Scorpio13c Posted February 25, 2008 Author Posted February 25, 2008 Don't overstress it. How long has it been since your date? Maybe she's waiting for you to call her? The date was Friday, i suppose she could be waiting for me to call..
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