xpaperxcutx Posted February 23, 2008 Posted February 23, 2008 I'm just posting this cause I'm alfraid I'm gonna do something drastic. From my previous post, I mentioned that I liked this guy but after our date, he kinda stopped contacting me? Well I haven't talked to him in a week, and all of a sudden tonight he's on AIM? I don't know what to do. I mean all these thoughts are going thru my head. Should I im him, confront him, what? I dk.
Replicant Posted February 23, 2008 Posted February 23, 2008 See Tanbark's thread on that girl whom flaked out, i believe this is relatively the same issue. A week is a long time to let contact slide if you are VERY interested to the point of wanting to see that person again.
Trialbyfire Posted February 23, 2008 Posted February 23, 2008 You have three ways to handle this: Confront him but then you appear a little too intense and perhaps wanting more than he's willing to get involved with.Not speak to him. This sends the message that you're not impressed with his apparent lack of follow-up and interest. If he wants you, he has to go the extra mile to impress you again.Play him for all you're worth. Games rarely accumulate to something meaningful. On the other hand, you have the opportunity to lead him on, then drop him like a rock.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted February 23, 2008 Author Posted February 23, 2008 See Tanbark's thread on that girl whom flaked out, i believe this is relatively the same issue. A week is a long time to let contact slide if you are VERY interested to the point of wanting to see that person again. I am, I mean WAS interested. But he grew really distant and never bothered to return my texts.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted February 23, 2008 Author Posted February 23, 2008 You have three ways to handle this:Confront him but then you appear a little too intense and perhaps wanting more than he's willing to get involved with.Not speak to him. This sends the message that you're not impressed with his apparent lack of follow-up and interest. If he wants you, he has to go the extra mile to impress you again.Play him for all you're worth. Games rarely accumulate to something meaningful. On the other hand, you have the opportunity to lead him on, then drop him like a rock. I don't think that the option of confronting him was good on AIM, thank goodness I didn't. But I have signed off it last night to avoid succumbing to my desire of talking to him. I feel really confused and hurt, but I wasn't going to let him make it any worse. If any luck, he might come around, but then I'll probably just follow #3, because like they said "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned"
Author xpaperxcutx Posted February 23, 2008 Author Posted February 23, 2008 Does the phone work? Cell phone. But I never have the courage to call him. With this guy I have a intense fear of getting his voice mail. And why can't he call me? He has my # as well.
Replicant Posted February 23, 2008 Posted February 23, 2008 Cell phone. But I never have the courage to call him. With this guy I have a intense fear of getting his voice mail. And why can't he call me? He has my # as well. If you've called or sent texts, how could he not know you have been trying to contact him. To ignore them is just ignorance on his part, and there is no in between here it's just a lame thing to do. If you are important to him there is no reason why he cannot take a few minutes out of his day to reply or call. So for you to have to be drawn to the point of using an IM to verify he's online and should technically be available to contact you, means they are the kind of person that should be deleted not only from your contact list but your life.
carhill Posted February 23, 2008 Posted February 23, 2008 And why can't he call me? He has my # as well. Absolutely right. That was the gist of my question So for you to have to be drawn to the point of using an IM to verify he's online and should technically be available to contact you, means they are the kind of person that should be deleted not only from your contact list but your life. I bow to you Excellent read...
Author xpaperxcutx Posted February 23, 2008 Author Posted February 23, 2008 If you've called or sent texts, how could he not know you have been trying to contact him. To ignore them is just ignorance on his part, and there is no in between here it's just a lame thing to do. If you are important to him there is no reason why he cannot take a few minutes out of his day to reply or call. So for you to have to be drawn to the point of using an IM to verify he's online and should technically be available to contact you, means they are the kind of person that should be deleted not only from your contact list but your life. I get what you're saying. But I really didnt see the need to delete him as he hasn't been online in a while. And it wasn't like I was using his sn as a verification, it was just there because we used to talk on AIm all the time. I feel like a doormat... But I had extended an olive branch towards him to just remain friends with him. Does that still warrant a deletion of his sn? I don't have his # anymore. So the urge of wanting to call and text him is irrevalent.
Hoffle Posted February 23, 2008 Posted February 23, 2008 See Tanbark's thread on that girl whom flaked out, i believe this is relatively the same issue. A week is a long time to let contact slide if you are VERY interested to the point of wanting to see that person again. What happens if the person you like and want to ask for contact details is on holiday?
Author xpaperxcutx Posted February 23, 2008 Author Posted February 23, 2008 Wow, and I was taking advice from YOU? Wow my gosh was that sarcasm? I never said that I was perfect, and my advice to you only served as a third person point of view. IN NO WAY, did I ask for you to take it to heart. It's your life, and your choices. I was only giving my opinions.
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