OfTheGood Posted February 23, 2008 Posted February 23, 2008 Hello ALL! Its me again...here on a Friday night, needing to get some stuff out on the forum. I love it here! I think that even if I get back together with my ex, or eventually heal up and move on-I will still lurk and post. Anyway, to cut the fat.... Driving home from seeing a movie with my friends, I thought of my ex-girlfriend. I was a little more down tonight that usual. I thought to myself that it had been a long time since we spoke, and I gave some thought to what she might be doing. Of course, the "is she dating someone" popped in my mind. I think, overall, I am doing well with this. Confidence wise I am okay, but I have these reoccurring random moments of weakness. Basically I think of her replacing me with someone who she is more in love with. Someone who is more fun. Someone who has a better job. Someone with more education, etc, ad-nauseum. These feelings are mixed in with the thoughts of eternal optimism; the feelings of me being self-confident in the fact that I'm a dyed-in-the-wool catch. That I've got much to offer. That I made a difference to her. That our relationship was the best she's had. That she just needs time to get with it. I have been giving some thought as to what my next move was going to be. I m ding very good with NC (no emails, calls, texts or smoke signals) to her in over a month. I was thinking of trying some sort of renewed contact in maybe a month more or so of NC. My last post was about an idea I had about dropping by and seeing some of her her friends on a visit. That seemed to get lukewarm reception at best. I still haven't made my mind up yet. The last week or so has brought increased feelings of both increased self-confidence and worth, with remorse and regret. I truly do miss her-and I'm ready to have a new relationship with her...that's the only constant. Takers?
btc8 Posted February 23, 2008 Posted February 23, 2008 Why don't you give yourself the actual benefit and merit you deserve by not contacting her and trying to find happiness elsewhere. You've made the mention many times in this post of your key attributes that make you special and unique. Why not capitalize on those points and not go back to the one who made you doubt all those qualities in the first place?
Author OfTheGood Posted February 23, 2008 Author Posted February 23, 2008 Thanks for your reply. I guess I should've told everyone to read my past post abut my regret. My bad, there. Our relationship was fun, exciting, and we both loved each other. We had the occasional argument of boy vs. girl issues, but man, this girl was awesome. Its just that in the end...the wheels came off. And to be honest, I wouldn't have dated myself 6 months ago, either. I have been working on my finances, and myself financially and physically. I put it to you all this way: IF we were to get back together, this would be something that would end in a marriage-and I'm betting, a pretty happy one. It just feels like the fat lady hasn't sung yet, thats all. We may be at the theater with the curtains drawn-but the fat lady.....she ain't even on stage yet.
ahah2322 Posted February 23, 2008 Posted February 23, 2008 once you are totally self-assured, i'd say go for it! very often, girls are too prideful to ask for another shot (because i know i am) and if you truly feel positive about it, do give you guys another chance. you should also be ready for disappointment though- but you'd be self-assured and confident enough to deal with anything that may come your way...
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