hugznkisses21 Posted February 22, 2008 Posted February 22, 2008 Hey guys, I have a situation... I got invited to hang out with a girlfriend of mine at her place for movies and wine - so i accepted. In that time my bf got invited into the city to a girl bday party that he has know since highschool - the catch - my bf ex of 3 years is her sister who will probably be there. I know i know ihave to trust him but i cant help but feel so yucky about them being in the same room together - i dont fine her a very mature person at all and it just give me a bad feel in my stomach - i know he wouldnt do anything and thats all the matters but naturally it has sub-conscienly ruined my night. If i didnt accept the invite out to my gf's so early in the week i would be going with him tonight yuck this sucks!
Replicant Posted February 22, 2008 Posted February 22, 2008 This seems very elementary school....Do you not trust that your boyfriend can go 'unsupervised' to this party without you and everything will be fine?
Author hugznkisses21 Posted February 22, 2008 Author Posted February 22, 2008 bump....im a bit impaient on this one my tummy is in knots
Author hugznkisses21 Posted February 22, 2008 Author Posted February 22, 2008 im sorry i did not say that he couldnt go un supervised - i just simply said it was making ME (PERSONALLY ME - MY CONFIDENCE) insecure. Does anything else have any advice that i can do for myself on a personal level it have zero to do with trust - thank you
Blue Eyed Brain Posted February 22, 2008 Posted February 22, 2008 Let him go - throughout the night (a few times) text him; tell him "I'm thinking of you, Your sexy, Can't wait to see you later 2nite - anything to remind him that you care. Let us know what happens.
Replicant Posted February 22, 2008 Posted February 22, 2008 im sorry i did not say that he couldnt go un supervised - i just simply said it was making ME (PERSONALLY ME - MY CONFIDENCE) insecure. Does anything else have any advice that i can do for myself on a personal level it have zero to do with trust - thank you I think you are being overly dramatic here. Seriously...come on trust goes hand in hand with confidence. These are your insecurities causing this, so like i said if you trust him. Just enjoy your evening at your friends. From what you've written there is no real cause for this kind of concern, he hasn't done anything wrong.
Author hugznkisses21 Posted February 22, 2008 Author Posted February 22, 2008 i suffer from anxiety so its natural for these things to affect me more... i will txt him a few times i guess I trust him - but even he told me its is 100% natural for me to just "not like" the fact that he will see her again. He said if i went out and my ex was there he would trust me but just "not like" it cause its a akward thing for the new bf/gf
xpaperxcutx Posted February 22, 2008 Posted February 22, 2008 (edited) You should give your bf a little credit. Until he cheats or does something that might offend you, dont take it personally. If you keep him constantly under watch, then you'll just scare him away with your insecurity. Edited February 22, 2008 by xpaperxcutx
Micke81 Posted February 22, 2008 Posted February 22, 2008 i suffer from anxiety so its natural for these things to affect me more... i will txt him a few times i guess I trust him - but even he told me its is 100% natural for me to just "not like" the fact that he will see her again. He said if i went out and my ex was there he would trust me but just "not like" it cause its a akward thing for the new bf/gf It is awkward, and I don't think you are silly for feeling this way. No, I don't think you have a good reason to, I'm sure everything will be fine. But, it seems like a natural response. Unfortunately there isn't anything any of us can say to make it all better. You will go through tonight with butterflies and be happy when the two of you are together again. Know in your head that nothing will happen between them and just try and distract yourself. In a couple months these type of things won't bother you anymore. Good luck!
EYECANDY000 Posted February 22, 2008 Posted February 22, 2008 i suffer from anxiety so its natural for these things to affect me more... i will txt him a few times i guess I trust him - but even he told me its is 100% natural for me to just "not like" the fact that he will see her again. He said if i went out and my ex was there he would trust me but just "not like" it cause its a akward thing for the new bf/gf So he understands why you are a little weary about him seeing his ex, but sees it as no big deal You need to get in the process of self healing and get over your anxiety. Dont make the situation worst. Like another poster stated send him a few texts here and there. Im sure he will be anxious to see you as well after the party.
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