Joebo Posted February 22, 2008 Posted February 22, 2008 So it goes something like this... You get through the week, you're at work and its not been too bad. Yea you still think about things a lot but there are distractions. Interactions in the workplace take you away from it all even for a few moments. These few moments are precious the way you feel at the minute. Then, Friday comes around...All of a sudden weekends aren't such a good thing anymore... Maybe you have a good social life, maybe not. Mine is ok, I have a good group of friends and family. I'm pretty much out whenever I want to be. Regardless, sometimes (like tonight) you're just chilling on your own with maybe a beer, glass of wine, dvd, cd's, LSing whatever. Then it begins... You start to think what the ex is up to? I mean maybe they are out doing something with a person thats replaced you. Or, maybe they're in with a beer, glass of wine or whatever. Hell, they could be doing any of these things during the week or anytime. So why is it that these feelings are exacerbated at the weekend? Is it just me? Maybe its because I'm sitting on my Jack Jones tonight. Why is it you think that all of a sudden the ex is out having an absolute blast? When you were together they probably just sat in the house or did normal things. Perhaps it even annoyed you that they didn't act differently in some ways at times. In fact, you're blinded to that because you remember them as this perfect person that you want to spend every waking minute with. Even though you may not have felt that way all of the time when you were with them. So, maybe you were not completely happy either. I'm trying to focus on a few of these things right now. So, in light of all this, would you really still want her back?.... In a heartbeat! Oh well, it was worth a shot... I don't know where this rant came from or what the point of it is really. Maybe I should have taken up that offer to go out for a few beers! Its probably that I have that feeeling where I want to pick up the phone and find out what she's up to. I'm not gonna do that though so I'm taking the therapeutic option of posting here... So, its Friday, your feeling crap and you aint got any plans for the evening. Feel free air your thoughts here!
Crestfallen_KH Posted February 22, 2008 Posted February 22, 2008 I'm with ya, Joe. My latest ex and I were supposed to go to a wine and cheese showcase tonight. Well, he broke up with me Wednesday night and now I'm not going. To make matters worse, I had a horrible dream last night that my ex-husband's OW was trying to apologize to me. As if! I woke up and ended up working from home, I was so upset and now that's just making my depression even worse. The breakup in my last relationship was the right thing to do - neither of us were ready, but I started getting use to things again - touch, daily e-mails, flirting, sex, etc. And now it's gone again. Just Tuesday I was holding hands with yet another guy who left and that I'll never see again. *sigh*
spookie Posted February 22, 2008 Posted February 22, 2008 That was a pretty depressing thread. It got me thinking about all the things my ex might be doing. I hadn't done that in a while. Thanks.
spookie Posted February 22, 2008 Posted February 22, 2008 I do hope you feel better. Do something fun/ superproductive tonight. So that you're entertained or at least proud of yourself.
Author Joebo Posted February 23, 2008 Author Posted February 23, 2008 Listen guys, I apologise if this depressed anyone. It wasn't meant too. I was just feelinga bit crappy and wanted to express. Maybe its better that I/we deal with these things sooner rather than later and we'll get over it earlier. I don't know. It was just another rant. And Crestfallen, I'm with you there, I've had a ton of dreams about the ex with all sorts of things going on. That kind of stuff doesn't do you any favours with trying to get back to sleep either. I am sure that all those things that you miss will be yours again soon. Take care and I hope you feel better. And again, please accept my apologies if it brought with it some thoughts you'd rather not have. It doesn't really affect me as the amount of things that jog my memory are too numerous to mention. My guitar is my therapist for this evening, accompanied by my dulcet tones... Hang in there, JB.
Belkin Posted February 23, 2008 Posted February 23, 2008 Don't be depressed! Think of the bunnies! If only it were so easy! The thing is, if your ex dumped you for another, then chances are they're in the honeymoon phase right now, enjoying some quality time with whoever replaced you, while you're brooding, alone, with your beer and/or wine. And they don't care s**t about you. So don't stay at home! Go out! Go to the movies, bar, whatever. Better be with people, even strangers, than with your ghosts. Probably too late now, but you have a whole week to plan your next Friday evening: make it memorable!
Author Joebo Posted February 23, 2008 Author Posted February 23, 2008 Oh Man, Thats enough with the melancholy. We're all bummed out or else we wouldn't be sat on LS on a Friday night. Who's gonna start a more positive upbeat thread then?
spookie Posted February 23, 2008 Posted February 23, 2008 Who's gonna start a more positive upbeat thread then? I'm gonna start getting drunk.
Author Joebo Posted February 23, 2008 Author Posted February 23, 2008 Quote: Originally Posted by Joebo Who's gonna start a more positive upbeat thread then? I'm gonna start getting drunk. Thats as good an idea as any!
sedgwick Posted February 23, 2008 Posted February 23, 2008 I'm home alone tonight too, and it's too cold to go out and do anything! Lots of snow and ice. My best friend moved to another state this week. My other best friend left for India for a month. So it's me and the cats and William Faulkner tonight, baby!
xpaperxcutx Posted February 23, 2008 Posted February 23, 2008 Sorry Joe, I guess it's just those occasional friday night blues. Hope you do feel better. I actually made plans for the movies so I can forget about being stood up by my "date", but because of the snow and cold, Im stuck in. I find LS very therapeutic. Been on everyday this week. You ppl feel more like my family than anything else.
e.clipse Posted February 23, 2008 Posted February 23, 2008 (edited) oh wow. this thread is a real mood-lifter, eh? now i'm thinking about the exbf and what he is doing. let's see: it's 5:50PM, so he is still going through the last minutes of work. at 6:00, he will leave, drive home, go online, take a shower, and go out. while out he will be with his friends, girls too, maybe, and he will be laughing and having a great time all around. it seems like just yesterday that i'd be hurrying up so that i could be all nice and dressed up by 6:30, so he could pick me up. maybe we wouldn't be doing anything all that exciting, but we would be together. maybe we'd get something to eat, watch a movie, plays some games, go to a casino, or any where else. and at the end of the night, we'd be together--all warm and toasty. this thread just reminded me of that closeness i so miss. it's almost 6PM now, and i've turned down the invites to going to bars. those are all i got. it seems that's the only thing people my age do. i am just not in the mood. and i can't even get my drawings done because i am so not in the mood. great. now i'm all bummed. I'm gonna start getting drunk.yes, good idea. me too. there is a nice, full bottle of cognac in the kitchen. **** this. Edited February 23, 2008 by e.clipse
Author Joebo Posted February 23, 2008 Author Posted February 23, 2008 Well, its time for bed here. 2am just now and I have a gig to go to tomorrow night.. Don't be too bummed out guys and do whatever you do as a hobby. It always seems like you're not in the mood until you actually get up and do it. Things will all seem better in the morning... Take it easy, JB.
spookie Posted February 23, 2008 Posted February 23, 2008 Cause I'm feeling particularly indulgent where misery is concerned tonight... It's 7 pm. I'd be finishing packing the overnight bag to take to his place and deciding what to wear about now. Then I'd drive to his apartment, at sunset, down the familiar streets. We'd cook and eat dinner. Sometimes fancy, sometimes not. Or we'd go out. Thai, usually. Or else Tex-Mex. Then we might go somewhere to play games. Or go back to his place to play Starcraft on our computers. Later on we'd smoke, talk, and watch videos online. We'd stay up till 4, usually, then go to bed. Spooning. Cuddling. God I miss him. My best friend. I miss the familiarity, the comfort, how we were always on the same wavelength. I'm a whole lot more social nowadays, but here's a secret: I can't stand to be around ANYONE if I'm not intoxicated. I veer between being a complete hermit and a complete alcoholic. I have no idea what he's doing tonight. I truly have NO IDEA what his life is like anymore. Who his friends are, what he does in his spare time, even where and with whom he lives. I suspect he might be dating a girl, but I'm not sure. And jesus, I miss him.
PrincessBOT Posted February 23, 2008 Posted February 23, 2008 For some reason this thread is making me laugh. (Not at the situations, but at the reactions)
xpaperxcutx Posted February 23, 2008 Posted February 23, 2008 For some reason this thread is making me laugh. (Not at the situations, but at the reactions) Actually you just made me laugh. But yes we all just needed to vent. 15 mins til midnight. And then another bright day will come out.
so_sad Posted February 23, 2008 Posted February 23, 2008 Cause I'm feeling particularly indulgent where misery is concerned tonight... It's 7 pm. I'd be finishing packing the overnight bag to take to his place and deciding what to wear about now. Then I'd drive to his apartment, at sunset, down the familiar streets. We'd cook and eat dinner. Sometimes fancy, sometimes not. Or we'd go out. Thai, usually. Or else Tex-Mex. Then we might go somewhere to play games. Or go back to his place to play Starcraft on our computers. Later on we'd smoke, talk, and watch videos online. We'd stay up till 4, usually, then go to bed. Spooning. Cuddling. God I miss him. My best friend. I miss the familiarity, the comfort, how we were always on the same wavelength. I'm a whole lot more social nowadays, but here's a secret: I can't stand to be around ANYONE if I'm not intoxicated. I veer between being a complete hermit and a complete alcoholic. I have no idea what he's doing tonight. I truly have NO IDEA what his life is like anymore. Who his friends are, what he does in his spare time, even where and with whom he lives. I suspect he might be dating a girl, but I'm not sure. And jesus, I miss him. God, that made me sad. The best friend part especially.
wyrllish Posted February 23, 2008 Posted February 23, 2008 She's probably out drinking or hanging out with the guy that filled the void I left :/ Listening to a bunch of country break up songs atm lol, off to the gym to work all this emotion out of my system in a bit though. Miss her daughter too, think of her like my own and miss them both so much.
flosslight Posted February 23, 2008 Posted February 23, 2008 For this Friday night, I went to a friend's wedding. I'm friends with both the bride and groom. I had a blast most of the time. I have been broken up with my fiance for three months and this is my second wedding. First one was great and it did not make me sad. This one got me to cry like three times and I do not cry at weddings. Seriously though, hearing a song about Sticking with you and seeing two of your friends really happy being together, really hurts when you thought you had that too. I was suppose to be getting married in a month and a half. Also I kinda know what the ex is doing and it is the same even if we were together. I would have gone to this wedding alone while he went out to the Ren Faire because he is entertainment staff and spends the whole weekend out there. The only difference is he might be making out or having sex with a random girl. While I got to actually flirt with guys at the wedding and probably had more fun than if we were still together. But blah weddings.
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