dsim Posted February 22, 2008 Posted February 22, 2008 I have a problem that I have never had a problem with before. Hear it goes..... I dont have a problem talking to girls, im actually more confortable around girls then guys (bc/ i have a natural confort zone bc/ i grew up with my sister, mom, and grandmother, and a girl thats just a friend that i consider to be a sister. so ive had to listen to many of their problems with guys, ect. ). ive had many girlfriends, im not a virgin, but i dont sleep around, i am very loyal and i dont pull one night stands, and ive never had a problem finding a girlfriend. Girls like nice guys that have mannors and are polite. I learned that early and its worked out for me so far. But things are different now. Im currently am in college and I have meet the most amazing girl named lauren. i meet hear at the dorms just by randomly talking to her. We get along really well and ive spent a lot of time getting to know her (vice versa). She is very confortable being around me. I really like her a lot and i dont want to mess things up. I meet her about five months ago and i see her almost everyday. ive taken her out to the movies, dinner, you name it. but for some reason i can never find the right time to ask her to be my girlfriend. i dont know why i puss out when i do get the chance. she was a cheerleader for 11 years and is georgous. shes very hyper, she talks alot, and she always joking around. so it makes it hard to be serious with her sometimes. i know she likes me, but im not sure if she likes me in the same way that i do. typically i would just ask a girl out or make a move with in one or two dates. but shes ones of those girls that i could see myself being in a relationship with for a long time. but for some reason i just cant seem to cross the "friendship" barrier with her. i think i need to just man up and let her know how i feel. but because i really know who she is as a person (she is amazing) and I have developed strong feelings for her that i have never had for any girl before it makes it so much harder. Everytime i drop her off she gives me a hug (a true warm genuine hug, not one of those aquard one arm hugs), and i have had chances to kiss her but i keep choking up. i dont want to loose her as a friend by asking her to date me. but i know i have to do something, its driving me crazy, i need to know how she feels. any subjestions???? p.s. corny lines dont work, its not my style. and dinner/and movies most likely wont work (ive tried, its just not the right atmosphere). i need to be creative, sincers, some what serious, and it cant be cheesy in anyway. and it cant be to formal, but at the same time im not sure if i should just get her to meet me and I be straight forward ( i know she likes me but im not sure if it would be too upfront). i need to be smooth, but i do think i should go over board, she not the type. shes a very genuine girl that wants a good guy, and i think i fit the profile, or at least it seems like im getting all the signs from her. should i just make a move or what? pppppplllllleeeeeasssseeeee helllllllllppppp me!
Walk Posted February 22, 2008 Posted February 22, 2008 Wow, you are really stressing out about this. I wouldn't assume she has as high of expectations for your delivery as you have for yourself. I think you've set yourself up to accomplish the impossible, while she only wants you to be the regular guy she enjoys hanging out with. My advice, next time you see her (and you know both of you have time) tell her that you'd like to talk to her. Then express how you feel as sincerely as possible. There's a chance she might not feel exactly the same as you but there's also the chance that she is feeling how you feel. Unless you try to bridge that gap between you, then nothing will change. Be couragous. Your presentation doesn't have to fit the incredibly huge list you posted in order for her to want to be with you. If she really feels the same way, it won't matter how you say it.... as long as you say something.
compassion42 Posted February 22, 2008 Posted February 22, 2008 Just relaxxxxxxx. Chances are, if the two of you have been spending time together and having fun, she is likely to be waiting for you to make a move of some sort. Go for it!
Author dsim Posted February 25, 2008 Author Posted February 25, 2008 yep you are right, i was deff. stressing out too much. i talked to her and walk you were right im just that regular guy she hangs out with.
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