Tincup Posted February 22, 2008 Posted February 22, 2008 Hello, I am new here. I am very interested in a Women that I have known for a couple of years. I am very recently divorced and have a couple of kids of my own that I have with me half the time. The Women has her kids all of them time. I believe that she is interested in me but I am really not sure (that is why I am here). After my divorce I saw her and we exchanged numbers. We went out to dinner about a week later and talked for hours. I have seen her a couple of more times in the month since. This past weekend she asked me if I wanted to go to the movies with her and her child and some of her friends. After the movie we went back to her house and talked for a couple more hours. My question is how do you tell if she is interested. I really enjoy her very much and don't want to ruin the relationship that we have. There is something about this women that is driving me crazy.
Enema Posted February 22, 2008 Posted February 22, 2008 She's interested. The only way she could make it more obvious would be to tattoo it on your forehead so you could read it in the mirror.
carhill Posted February 22, 2008 Posted February 22, 2008 If you go out to dinner with a mother and talk for hours, she's interested, or maybe needing a break from her kids Also, it appears that she is open with some of her children meeting her male friends. That one is kinda hard to read. You're both divorced with children. I presume it would be easy to take this friendship/relationship slow. No harm in that How "recently" is recently and how long has the lady been divorced?
Author Tincup Posted February 22, 2008 Author Posted February 22, 2008 I have only been divorced for a couple of months. She has been divorced for several years. My X had a pretty public affair, which this lady is aware of. I am once bitten twice shy. I think she is aware of where I am coming from and taking it very slow.
carhill Posted February 22, 2008 Posted February 22, 2008 It sounds like the two of you have a history (as acquaintances) and she respects and can empathize with your situation from her past experiences. Yep, get the tattoo gun out
Author Tincup Posted February 22, 2008 Author Posted February 22, 2008 We do have a history as I have known her indirectly for several years. Maybe I do need that tattoo in the head. I have been out of this game for quite some time, but this women is special. Thanks for the quick feedback.
compassion42 Posted February 22, 2008 Posted February 22, 2008 I agree, she's interested. Take things slow and enjoy your new romance!
Author Tincup Posted February 22, 2008 Author Posted February 22, 2008 Thanks, I am going to take that advice...
Author Tincup Posted February 24, 2008 Author Posted February 24, 2008 Well I am not sure what happened but she will not return my phone call or text message. Everything I think was going along nice and easy, then this weekend no contact at all. I wonder what I did?
Author Tincup Posted February 26, 2008 Author Posted February 26, 2008 She contacted me today and had issues with her phone this weekend. I think this made me realize that I am carrying around quite a bit of baggage from my previous marriage. I think being cheated on really had more of an effect on me then I thought. Maybe I am not quite ready to date yet...This women has done nothing wrong at all, in fact she has been fantastic. I am the one that is a mess.
directx Posted February 26, 2008 Posted February 26, 2008 She sounds like a good woman that loves her kids. Can't beat that, really. Definitely give the relationship the opportunity to go places if that is what you want.
directx Posted February 26, 2008 Posted February 26, 2008 She contacted me today and had issues with her phone this weekend. I think this made me realize that I am carrying around quite a bit of baggage from my previous marriage. I think being cheated on really had more of an effect on me then I thought. Maybe I am not quite ready to date yet...This women has done nothing wrong at all, in fact she has been fantastic. I am the one that is a mess. The fact that you realize this is a good sign and invaluable. Now you can work with it and make sure it doesn't get in the way of a good thing.
carhill Posted February 26, 2008 Posted February 26, 2008 She contacted me today and had issues with her phone this weekend. I think this made me realize that I am carrying around quite a bit of baggage from my previous marriage. I think being cheated on really had more of an effect on me then I thought. Just being abandoned emotionally will do the same thing. It's a loss and an uncertainty, so a secure attachment style and trust are often elusive. My rule: Always give her the benefit of the doubt and follow up later with a neutral contact. A person's response is usually always telling. Steer the course. Good times ahead
Blue Eyed Brain Posted February 26, 2008 Posted February 26, 2008 There is something about this women that is driving me crazy. Well, if you feel this way; it's probable that SHE feels this way. She would not invite you if she didn't have feelings and thoughts of you. I think you have the beginning of a really good thing. Nurture it and let it grow.
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