mos77 Posted February 22, 2008 Posted February 22, 2008 I have read numerous postings related to what I am going to ask, but slightly different circumstances involved. I have been seeing a great woman for the past 4 months. She is separated from her husband and has one kid. She made a point of saying she wasn't ready for a relationship but was cool with hanging out. I was skeptical in the beginning and took things at a snails pace. During this time I only saw her once a week. We would chat online or email during the week. I would never plan anything out more than couple days in advance, just trying to have fun and keep the mood light. She would ask me to do things with her. We would have very open conversations and she really let me "in". She would talk to me about her pending divorce etc. Everything between us seemed to just click and her interest level was really high as was mine. Well the first wedding anniversary after separation was coming up and we both knew that things would probably be weird. Well a couple weeks before this, she says she needs a break to deal with her emotions. I made the mistake of spilling my guts out, but when we got off the phone everything seemed cool and she still wanted to talk to me. At this point I haven't seen her in about 6 weeks now. After the initial spilling of my guts to her about the space comment, I have done just that. I don't contact her now unless she contacts me. We have never fought and we both just seemed to click with each other from the very first time we went out. I think the whole divorce thing is very difficult for her to deal with, which is understandable. Well now about once a week, she shoots me an email to see how I am doing or a text. At first I would respond almost immediately, but now I am taking a day or so to get back to her. I really do hate to play games. But show her that I am doing ok by not jumping immediately everytime she contacts me. If I continue to let her make contact and she does, at what point do I ask to see her again? I am friends with her sister and she thinks there is still interest there and really likes me. I want to be optomistic that things will get back to the way they were, but realistic enough to know that divorces are nasty and mess with your head. And who knows really what she is feeling. Its been a few weeks since her first anniversary after the separation. We are both in our late twenties. It appears that timing is everything. Thoughts?
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