bdfan1026 Posted February 21, 2008 Posted February 21, 2008 (edited) OK, recently I just set up a get together with two friends at my house that I don't get to see very often, because one of them goes to the local tech center during the school day (16 years old) now and the other graduated and is in college. (18 years old) I'm 17 and still in highschool. I invited them over to grab some food, hang out a little. But when we go to taco bell for a quick bite, my tech center friend suggests we go to a bar to see the kelly pavlik fight on payper view. Now, they know I have no interest in this whatsoever, but my college friend wants to go too. Granted, I don't see why, I see know reason that we should be in a bar, and they're both smart enough to know that too but they're so cocky and they think they're all cool and they decided to go anyway. So they were driving out of taco bell and I asked them to take me home, and they said no even though I repeatedly asked them to. We got to the bar and weren't allowed in (duh) and so then they decided to come back to my house for a little bit. I figured ok now we can do something but then they get there, stay for a few minutes and then leave to try to find a different bar that would let them in, leaving me home alone when I had put myself out to them to stay together. This upsets me alot and I don't think I even want to try to remain friends with them anymore, but still there are all kinds of complicated issues that make me feel confused about the whole thing. Also, I know they're gonna try to hang out with me some other time at least but I dont know what to say when that happens. any advice? Edited February 21, 2008 by bdfan1026
Elyssa Posted February 21, 2008 Posted February 21, 2008 You are right, these guys aren't your friends and you shouldn't have to put up with that kind of treatment from anybody, least of all someone who is supposed to care about you. Don't be afraid to tell them so if they ask why you don't want to hang out anymore. Ditch them and begin cultivating more healthy friendships. -E
Arch Posted February 21, 2008 Posted February 21, 2008 Don't rely on people, don't expect them to do things for you and you for them - seriously. If you want to do something then do it if not don't but don't go out of your way for anyone.
CrudeMood Posted February 22, 2008 Posted February 22, 2008 you cant rely on others. you gotta do things for yourself. had they left me, i would have found something else that -I- would have enjoyed instead of forcing people to do what I wanted.
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