Broken-girlxo Posted February 21, 2008 Posted February 21, 2008 A few years ago, me and my ex boyfriend first got together. Everything was perfect and it was the first time i'd ever fell in love. After two years we ended up engaged and very happy! There was never any arguments and people always agreed we were meant for eachother. Then suddenly things started going wrong, he accused me of cheating and loads of huge arguments fired up. After a while we broke up and i was crushed. After breaking up, he slept with 16 other girls. And bragged on about it to me, which really hurt. He ended up with someone else for 10 months and was gutted when that ended, i stood by him throught it as i still loved him, we got back together on and off and everything would be perfect for a while, but then everything that happened in the past would creap back up and it would all feel wrong to be together and i'd end it, only to run back to him again. This went of for a year and it was a few days ago i decided we need to just forget this, the past is wrecking our future. But i feel so torn up inside, i can't stop crying and i've tried going out with friends, talking to people ect. I think about the facts we're over forever and it's like trying to accept someone has died! Its so unbearably painful and life doesn't seem worth living nomore, i don't know what i should do. He was my life line and now he's gone.
Goodin Posted February 21, 2008 Posted February 21, 2008 Hello brokengirlxo - I am in a similar situation as you trying to get over a broken on and off again relationship and wondering if ending it was the right thing or not. Break ups are hard there is no doubt about that, but you will get through it and life IS worth living and you WILL love again! You will find someone more deserving of your love than a guy who brags to you about all the women he sleeps with (he sounds like a real jerk). Do things for yourself now and be strong.
btc8 Posted February 21, 2008 Posted February 21, 2008 (edited) I am sorry if I may sound flippant, but if I read your post correctly, it reads that this man's slept with SIXTEEN other girls since he broke up with you!!!! Why would you want to go back to someone like that? And not only have you stayed around while he has had his own sexual dalliances and conquests, but you stay there to comfort him when he gets what's coming to him! Do NOT let yourself be the woman who lets your ex walk all over her; you are strong and more evolved because of this past relationship. Do not devolve for this jerk. Move on; you owe it to yourself to do so. You'll be glad you did. Edited February 21, 2008 by btc8
Author Broken-girlxo Posted February 22, 2008 Author Posted February 22, 2008 I didn't look at it that way! Your right, thanks for the advice
SarahT111 Posted February 22, 2008 Posted February 22, 2008 Aww hun im sooooooo sorry about this I agree totally with BTC8 but I no how impossibly hard it is to just stop loving someone no matter how badly they have treated you! I don't really no what to say to make it all better! In my situation I know he has done wrong but I still love him to pieces and I want him back no matter what he has done to hurt me But when I read btc8s post I know it is 100% true and thats the only thing you can do. Maybe give yourself some space away from this guy for a while. I know this wont help and you probablty don't even want to hear it but he really isn't worth it, you could do 100x better!! Yet i understand your heart is with this guy. I want to make you feel better but I really don't know what to say to help, other than you are NOT alone
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