Audg1964 Posted February 21, 2008 Posted February 21, 2008 Okay, so I met up with "Jimmy" on Saturday night while I went out on my own at a local restaurant/bar. Jimmy and I have a history in that I hit his father's truck when I was 16 (I'm 43 now)...So, we've known each other over 25 years, and he knows my ex-husband. But whatever...He totally seduced me and I went home with him on Sat. night. I NEVER do that - EVER!! It's been like a year since..well, you know, had sex...I'm a single mom of a 17-year old and have been divorced since 1995. I'm really particular about who with and how I spend my free time. I fell so hard for this man. It's like so crazy. I saw him again on Monday night - he made me dinner and the s*x was so intimate. I just don't fall in love so fast or easily - but he was so intimate with me, that I just can't help it. I totally want to be with him all of the time! So here's the issue - I'M IN LOVE ALREADY!!! I know I have to wait for him to contact me...I told him I really liked him and that I NEVER do that - go home with someone - but whatever...it happened. So , he's playing the girl role. He's like, I have a million things to do...ba ba ba... and I just have to wait it out. The question is, do I go about my life in the meantime? For example, go out to restaurants by myslef or to movies, etc. and talk with men who flirt with me and want to date me - or do I say NO? This guy's Italian and I know how they are. I feel like I have to just stay home until he calls me or I'm going to be followed or something, I don't know. I really want to be with him, but I can't call him and he's not calling me! WTF do I do? Just go on about my life??? He has my DKNY watch that I left on his nightstand. I want it back and I want to know where we're at. I have a party to go to on Saturday night, so that's good, and a concert on Monday night, so that's good too, but what do I do in the meantime? And, what the hell am I going to do if he doesn't call me?
ddkeifo Posted February 21, 2008 Posted February 21, 2008 i would call about the watch, but i think you're right in assuming he should initiate plans. i think this is why one night stands are a bad idea, but it happened, all you can do is move forward and hope he feels the same way. if not, you'll find a way
Author Audg1964 Posted February 21, 2008 Author Posted February 21, 2008 i would call about the watch, but i think you're right in assuming he should initiate plans. i think this is why one night stands are a bad idea, but it happened, all you can do is move forward and hope he feels the same way. if not, you'll find a way I did call about the watch last night. I feel like I need to forget about the watch! ahhh Help! He knows he has it and I feel naked without it. Am I supposed to call him AGAIN tonight to tell him, "I feel naked without my watch?" HELP!!!
norajane Posted February 21, 2008 Posted February 21, 2008 No, you aren't in love. You are 'in hope', meaning, you really like him, have high hopes for what you think you can have together, and the sex was great. Love, probably not. Yes, you should live your life and flirt with other men and date and have fun without waiting by the phone...who waits by the phone anyway? Your cell is always with you. Putting your life on hold until he gets around to contacting you is a waste of your life. You don't get a single day back, ever, no rewind, so don't give it up so easily for nothing. Neither of you has any iota of commitment or exclusivity going on here! Italian? following you? I think you know better than that! Watch? You've already called last night and left a message about the watch. You call again tonight, and now it's really about you wanting to pin him down about getting together again, and you probably know that... Yes, you feel naked without it, but it will be your emotions and need that are nakedly displayed to him if you keep calling. He knows he has it, he knows you need it back. Give him a week, and then call again if you don't hear back. Good luck!
Author Audg1964 Posted February 21, 2008 Author Posted February 21, 2008 No, you aren't in love. You are 'in hope', meaning, you really like him, have high hopes for what you think you can have together, and the sex was great. Love, probably not. Yes, you should live your life and flirt with other men and date and have fun without waiting by the phone...who waits by the phone anyway? Your cell is always with you. Putting your life on hold until he gets around to contacting you is a waste of your life. You don't get a single day back, ever, no rewind, so don't give it up so easily for nothing. Neither of you has any iota of commitment or exclusivity going on here! Italian? following you? I think you know better than that! Watch? You've already called last night and left a message about the watch. You call again tonight, and now it's really about you wanting to pin him down about getting together again, and you probably know that... Yes, you feel naked without it, but it will be your emotions and need that are nakedly displayed to him if you keep calling. He knows he has it, he knows you need it back. Give him a week, and then call again if you don't hear back. Good luck! THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THE JUSTIFICATION!!! I DIDNT' CALL AND I FEEL NAKED AND I CAN WAIT!!! THANK YOU!!
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