flowergirl Posted February 20, 2008 Posted February 20, 2008 Hey, y'all, what's up? How has everybody been? Well, I'm havin' a rough day, slightly dramatic. Anyway, here's the story in a nutshell: For Christmas, I received a HEPA Air filter from my mom's best friend, because my boyfriend, with whom I live, smokes and since she's lost several smoking relatives to lung cancer, she is highly offended by smoking, considering the ill health effects and smell. I thought that was a nice gesture, except that she often oversteps bounds, and when she asked me if I was interested in a HEPA filter, I said I'd ask my boyfriend, and she said she'd get it for me anyway, which is just what she did, without really asking. Ok, so that was awkward because when I opened it on Christmas morning, I was bothered not by the present itself, but to her approach., but whatever. My boyfriend thought it was ok, and was glad to have something to divert the smoke from my lungs, which he worries about. Well, we tried to get it to work, and were initially unsuccessful, so it's been sitting in our apartment for two months because my boyfriend and I are kind of lazy abvout getting it work. I've sometimes let non-critical things like this slide, until I get remotivated to deal with it, unfortunately, I am occassionally passive like that, just because I figure I'll get around to it at some point. Anyway, I feel kinda bad, because my mom's been asking me for two months about it, and I've told her I'll get around to it. Now, she's hyper-organized and I guess what you'd call a Type A personality, so my passiveness drives her nuts at times, because we have such opposite approaches to prioritizing and getting things done. Well, when I walked in this morning ( I work in her organization), perhaps because she's under stress of a monumental project, she asked me again when I was gonna get the machine working, I gave her the asme answer, and she pretty mad, saying that yes, she's concerned about my luungs, but that at this late point she's mostly concerned about me having possibly lost the opportunity to get the machine returened, and thus prevent wasting her friend's money, and that she's embarrased for me that I could let this slide for so long, and that I could be so passive about things like this. I told her honestly that although yes, I could've dealt with it more quickly, that I wasn't embarrassed and that it wasn't woth getiing upset over, annoyed, yes, but not upset. I told her I was more casual, and she threatened to throw stuff at me, not literally, but that's how she was venting her frustration. I called my boyfriend and he didn't really care because he knew where the owner's manual was, and he wasn';t gonna sweat it. Alos slightly frustrating. Now, this long post is to question whether I may have been irresponsible in taking so long to fix this situation. I'm just wondering what you guys think.
iSmiley Posted February 20, 2008 Posted February 20, 2008 hey flower.. if i were in ur shoe..i will get it fix once am free and not leave it for tomorrow..why? cos then i can have my peace and not getting "sweet" melody from someone else..PLUS..i do want a healthy lung =D Irresponsible or not..am not sure, unless you promised them that you are going to fix it asap or that you have been busy as hell and collapsed to bed whenever you get home cos you are too tired. They are jus concern about you..(jus reading your post this way and not considering other factor) @ they love you. have a nice day ^^
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