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[flguy]

If u can't see that I'm bitter bc u "forgot" to mention that I really never asked for these things, I asked for your love and affection. those are the things that I want.

 

Is that why after a fight in December you demanded that I buy you a $700 machine to "make it up to you"?

 

Those are the things you have trouble giving sometimes. It's been a pattern of you ignoring me when you really don't have to. Work, emergencies, even a business lunch is diff. You had the time but decided to brush me off. I don't want to wait 2 and 1/2 hrs for you to send me a txt.

 

And that, folks, is the crux of the issue here. I can't have a few hours with my parents unless I make sure to text her while I'm sitting on the couch with them talking.

 

But if that's where I stand when your parents are around. FINE. Ive said this. I will put my goals and friends and priorities first. But don't complain when u feel brushed off. It's possible to sit on a couch and send one txt. Why this whole argument over ONE TEXT.

 

I was in the middle of sending you a text while at dinner, and your phone call interrupted it so I talked to you instead. You continue to ignore this fact.

 

Plse don't write directly to me on here.You can txt me. This is for the strangers youve brought into this to make comments. I 'm sure they're completely confused. Instead of getting therapy here you go coming up with your own solution without consulting w me. you know YOUR GIRLFRIEND-or should that be EX GIRLFRIEND since I'm crazy and immature and clingy and stuoid and just a sex toy. You've called me all these things in ur txts. Maybe the true you will show on here and I can really make a solid decision about moving on.

 

We have both said mean things when angry, right?

 

And yet again you ignore that I told you last night I was going to post this somewhere to get others' opinions. You didn't object.

[FLAlicia]

In fact I'd say most of the behaviors you don't like about her are in response to you!

 

Truly think about this. Please stop and think about WHY I may have felt insecure.

[flguy]

I'm posting this again on its own because it deserves focus. It's the entire point of why I posted this thread and the entire reason for our argument.

 

You had the time but decided to brush me off. I don't want to wait 2 and 1/2 hrs for you to send me a txt.

 

I see my parents, who live 1400 miles away, twice a year at most. They happened to be an hour away so I drove to see them. I spent three hours with them, spoke to Alicia a the end of the first hour when she called, and I'm somehow brushing her off and being uncaring and unloving for not sending her a text in the remaining two hours, although I called her immediately when I left. That, IMO, is disturbing.

[FLAlicia]

I never agreed to putting this here. I thought u were bluffing and didn't respond. You don't recall a yes you may or any sort of response. Do you? Thats because you never asked to do this. This is ****ty. People think we're crazy. They say we're "unhealthy" so why are you still here? Aren't u satisfied?

[flguy]

In fact I'd say most of the behaviors you don't like about her are in response to you!

 

Truly think about this. Please stop and think about WHY I may have felt insecure.

 

You probably didn't believe I was with my parents, even though I have been telling you for months they were coming to stay in that house, they spoke of it when we were up to see them after Christmas, and you heard my mom and dad's voices at dinner. And, of course, over the weekend you told me that in the beginning you felt insecure about me leaving for the week because you were afraid I'd lose interest while I was gone...but now you feel more secure in the relationship and know we can get through it. Obviously we can't.

[FLAlicia]

Normal people can get angry. You, however, don't get angry, you get ABUSIVE. Physically and emotionally.

[FLAlicia]

background: this is a person I dated, not exclusively, for one month in January of 2006. Since then we were nothing but friends. She had multiple people she dated during that time and so did I. We never had sex

 

Initimate as in you admitted to pleasing her orally. THAT is sex. you are completely twisted when it comes to my hurt feelings and reality. That is why instead of compromising when I asked you to please move on from her you decided to yell and argue.

[flguy]

Normal people can get angry. You, however, don't get angry, you get ABUSIVE. Physically and emotionally.

 

I touched you ONE TIME. And it's not like I punched you in the face or anything like that. You have hit thrown punches and kicks at me.

 

I used to get emotionally abusive and say mean and nasty things when I got angry. But I have stopped doing that. I have tried to stop these arguments before they start. You agreed to stop with the emotionally abusive comments also, but you haven't. You even went so far as to include my parents in them now.

[flguy]

background: this is a person I dated, not exclusively, for one month in January of 2006. Since then we were nothing but friends. She had multiple people she dated during that time and so did I. We never had sex

 

Initimate as in you admitted to pleasing her orally. THAT is sex. you are completely twisted when it comes to my hurt feelings and reality. That is why instead of compromising when I asked you to please move on from her you decided to yell and argue.

 

 

WRONG. I did not please her orally, she did not please me orally. This is a perfect example of you either not listening to what I explained, or twisting it around to make it something it's not. We touched each other with our hands, ONE TIME in a MONTH relationship. But hey it's not like up until a couple weeks ago you were still talking to M and B and now I is back on your myspace.

[FLAlicia]

Yeah well, I've read through most of this stuff, and you really start off by painting a rosy picture of yourself. Your not a saint in this.

 

In fact I'd say most of the behaviors you don't like about her are in response to you!

 

I think you need to sit down and think about how you act. You don't sound like a good guy. If you want this relationship to work, you need to make some big changes.

 

I have the few sentences that I read to you over the phone written down. I did start by saying I have questions about the way you treat me. I completed all that I wrote but somehow it went over your head. You don't even remember what I said do you? If you've posted a response about what I said initially on the phone, I haven't seen it yet. Sorry. But if you haven't, I would like to start over. As if I just called you after you had been trying to reach me for an hr. I'd like to repeat the sentences that I thought out and wrote down then said to you over the phone. Even after you yelled don't start this ****! I continued to say these things. Would you like to hear what I was saying? Because I have a feeling that u blanked out and cannot remember how I initially approached you about my feelings.

[Tony]

Most of the last 40 or so posts in this thread have little or nothing to do with the original post, therefore a off topic. Matter of fact, a lot of this stuff is off topic banter which belongs in the off topic thread. Time to close up this puppy. Wherever you go from here, PLEASE STAY ON TOPIC!!!