amaysngrace Posted February 20, 2008 Posted February 20, 2008 I have posted so many times bitching and complaining about my exHusband. He doesn't pay support. He doesn't get the kids. He doesn't call to chat with them. Etc. But...we went to court February 1. He called me prior to see if I'd agree to what he'd propose as far as payment arrangements. I did. No objections. At first I questioned myself if I'm just a sucker. But...after I expressed my disdain for him and his fathering ways he has been pretty great to the kids ever since. He calls them a few times a week to check in. He even sent them each a postcard from Chicago on a work trip he's on. They texted him Happy Valentine's Day and called their step mom to wish her a happy day too. I really think that him seeing me in court softened him up some. We sat together and made small talk. Could it be possible that he feels bad for the way he treated me in the past? Could he not want to do the same thing to our kids? I don't know...but it makes me wonder...
mark982 Posted February 20, 2008 Posted February 20, 2008 i think your words about treatment of the kids,made him realise he was wrong.nice to see you two having conversation,however small.it's all about the children now.
Pyro Posted February 20, 2008 Posted February 20, 2008 Maybe he came across LS and read all your posts. Couldn't tell you what it is, but it happened, so go with it.
Author amaysngrace Posted February 20, 2008 Author Posted February 20, 2008 Maybe he came across LS and read all your posts. Um...my BF did that. And then he bought me a flower and a card because he never knew I cared. ...duh...
Pyro Posted February 20, 2008 Posted February 20, 2008 Um...my BF did that. And then he bought me a flower and a card because he never knew I cared. ...duh... How could I forget? People can change. Maybe he has finally seen the light.
Author amaysngrace Posted February 20, 2008 Author Posted February 20, 2008 People can change. Maybe he has finally seen the light. It's strange because he told me he can't get life insurance because he probably has less than ten years to live. He's suppose to have life insurance naming the kids beneficiaries and me as trustee. It could just be a ploy. The easy way out of getting a very expensive life insurance bill for the next ten years. A postcard here and there and a phone call here and there and he saves himself a couple of hundred bucks a month. Who knows? I guess I just have to wait it out and see if he's sincere.
Pyro Posted February 20, 2008 Posted February 20, 2008 It's strange because he told me he can't get life insurance because he probably has less than ten years to live. He's suppose to have life insurance naming the kids beneficiaries and me as trustee. It could just be a ploy. The easy way out of getting a very expensive life insurance bill for the next ten years. A postcard here and there and a phone call here and there and he saves himself a couple of hundred bucks a month. Who knows? I guess I just have to wait it out and see if he's sincere. Only time will tell on this one. If he has truly changed, he will keep up on what he doing and how often.
Author amaysngrace Posted February 20, 2008 Author Posted February 20, 2008 If he has truly changed, he will keep up on what he doing and how often. Sometimes I think my children read him better than I do. Honest to God. Me I'm an idiot who keeps hoping he'll change for the better. It's probably from the cycle of abuse. Wishing and hoping for Mr. Charming to show up again. Ugh! But in my heart I really do want him to be a nice guy and a good daddy. That's all I've ever wanted from him.
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