LiquidSnake Posted February 20, 2008 Posted February 20, 2008 Hey new to this forum, but I just wanted to see what everyone else thinks about this cause I defiantly have to say this is the weirdest problem I've EVER had. I've been going out with this girl for close to 5 months now. We had a drunk hook up one night at a party and kinda started dating from that point on. Weird enough, it took about a month to be able to kiss her sober again because she was very standoffish and it just wasn't clicking. For the entire 5 month duration, it has been the most terrible hook up of my LIFE. I barely get any tongue, she never approaches me in bed, and I'm always making the first move to initiate something. She'll generally turn away within 10 minutes with a playful "Get offff me!". So I naturally assumed that maybe she's just inexperienced. I decided to suck it up and deal with it though because I really like her. AS IT TURNS OUT She's not inexperienced. I accidentally found some condoms in her purse (she told me to look for something!) which incited a fight, but she assured me it was from before me. So now, my entire perception of her is totally blown out of the water! And she claims I am the ONLY guy that she's ever been with that she hasn't "put out" I guess. She thought it was ALSO the worst hook up of her life but similarly sucked it up and dealt with it. I already asked all the obvious questions: Do you find me attractive? (Of course.) Do I kiss or do something differently than all the other guys? (No) Then what it is? (I dunno, its just weird) HALP!
Tripper Posted February 20, 2008 Posted February 20, 2008 Call me crazy, but I don't think a drunken hook up is a foundation on which to build a relationship, even a casual one. I think you're wasting your time. She's just not that interested in you.
D-Lish Posted February 20, 2008 Posted February 20, 2008 It doesn't sound like you guys have a lot of chemistry.... and that isn't something you can force. Do you really want to be with someone that involves so much work just to make out with? You say you really like her. What is it that you like about her?
Prodigal Princess Posted February 20, 2008 Posted February 20, 2008 Regardless of whether or not she is "experienced", she is clearly not sexually attracted to you. Of course, she is not going to tell you that to your face, so asking her was pointless. This relationship is a waste of time for the both of you.
sally4sara Posted February 20, 2008 Posted February 20, 2008 I think one or maybe even both of you are trying to force something that shouldn't need to be forced just so you don't have to think of yourselves as the type of person who does the drunken hook up thing. I'd say she definitely is doing this. I only wonder if you are doing the same because you said she wasn't very good and it seems awkward, but yet you are still with her. Why are you sticking around. Sucky and awkward never kept me around. *you'll have to pardon me; I'm all riled up over ignorant Americans giving me a bad rep right now*
seriousproblems Posted March 4, 2008 Posted March 4, 2008 I'd end the relationship and move on...To me it seems like either a) She doesn't find you attractive (even if she says she does) or b) She hates confrontation and is just trying to find a way to get you to break up with her. If there's no chemistry, the relationship isn't going to work, sorry man.
Zero Degrees Posted March 4, 2008 Posted March 4, 2008 She's probably got issues that have nothing to do with you. Is there enough mentally between you two to work on things?
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