ElleVado Posted February 19, 2008 Posted February 19, 2008 We were together 7 years. He broke up with me because I wanted more in our relationship at this time then he was ready for right then. He felt really pressured and needed to step way back and be on his own. He came back to me 4 days later knowing he made a mistake by breaking it off with me. He said he overreacted, and wanted to work it out, and communicate our problems instead of running from them. After the break, I didn’t plan on seeing or talking to him anytime soon. I don’t how we ended up back seeing each other again so soon, but it happened. It all felt so right in my heart. It started with a few friendly phone calls, and then we saw each other. That turned into fun flirty texts, talking constantly, and eventually us spending most nights of the week together. It was wonderful. It was like our breakup allowed us to start over. To put the stress and pressure of settling down behind us and just enjoy being together. Everyday since starting to see each other again has been amazing and so exciting! We spent Valentines Day together and it was the best valentines day of my life. It was the same for him too. I swear he talked how great V Day was for two days straight, saying that he couldn’t be happier. Rewinding a bit for details - Over the summer, our first break ever, we both started seeing other people. He got a little more serious then I did with mine with the person he was seeing, but he said it wasn’t love. He left that girl saying he didn’t want to be with her or anyone else and he said he knew that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. I had already stopped seeing my guy by then for other reasons. Anyway, that girl he was seeing completely lost it when he left her. She’s literally obsessed with him and tries nonstop to this day to get him back. You wouldn't believe the stuff she does and says. She'll try and do anything. It's insane. Back to why I’m here. Short and not so sweet… He spent last night over her house. It was about midnight when I found out his car was there, but her car was not there. I know she goes out of town occasionally for work and he used to dog sit for her. So maybe that’s why he was there. But maybe she was there too. I have no idea. But it’s the fact he didn’t tell me he was going there… He could have been cheating. Or maybe it was totally innocent, he was there alone with the dogs, and didn’t want to upset me and ruin what has been so great by telling me that. But omission is just as bad as lying. He has no idea that I know he was there. He hasn’t called since yesterday morning which isn’t like him at all. I don’t understand! He wanted so badly to be with me and things have been so perfect! Why would he go and do this. I really don't know what to think or do. I don't even really want to talk to him right now. I would love to hear any thoughts, suggestions, and ideas you have. After everything that has happened and especially after how things have been this last month… It makes NO sense!!!
planeweird Posted February 19, 2008 Posted February 19, 2008 Ask him. I know the feeling completely. However.... You were snooping by driving by and seeing his car, so even though you might have some explaining to do about that, you really should just ask. Unless....you have a way to casually bring up where he has been hiding out the past day or two. If he tells you something that is blatantly false considering you saw his car there, well that's your answer. He may very well be honest about being over there taking care of the dog. Don't freak out until you have the chance to hear the story. And if he was dog sitting, you can choose to tell him you're not comfortable with that or not.
s_n_d Posted February 19, 2008 Posted February 19, 2008 Yeah, you need to ask him. You need to be honest with him and be comfortable enough to ask him ANYTHING..
btc8 Posted February 19, 2008 Posted February 19, 2008 This sounds like a horrible situation. I agree with what people have posted on here: You just need to ask him. Just bring it up out of the blue. Make it unexpected. I mean, you cannot be sure that he did sleep with her unless you ask him. His uncanny behavior could be a result that he may be feeling guilty.
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