jt1981 Posted February 19, 2008 Posted February 19, 2008 I had a situation with an ex-girlfriend where she begged, practically pleaded, for commitment from the beginning of the relationship and then, when I got to the point where I was interested in giving it to her, she headed for the hills? More accurately, she went back to her ex-boyfriend that she broke up with me for in the first place. What do I make of it?
norajane Posted February 19, 2008 Posted February 19, 2008 No, they don't lie about it. But they might change their minds about wanting a commitment from YOU. In your case, that girl seems to immature and flighty to truly understand the meaning of commitment.
imagonnacry Posted February 19, 2008 Posted February 19, 2008 People who lie about one thing will lie about another. Thank heavens you will not be permanently linked to a pathological liar, can you inagine the hell you would be going through five years from now? ten years from now? Good Riddance to that one, and best of luck to the ex bf, sound like they were made for each other. No go on and get you an honest girl...
sally4sara Posted February 19, 2008 Posted February 19, 2008 I had a situation with an ex-girlfriend where she begged, practically pleaded, for commitment from the beginning of the relationship and then, when I got to the point where I was interested in giving it to her, she headed for the hills? More accurately, she went back to her ex-boyfriend that she broke up with me for in the first place. What do I make of it? My best girl friend did this. It was her first serious BF. She always felt like she was more invested in him than he was in her. She talked to him about it over and over for almost 3 years. When she finally got what she wanted (engagement and cohabitation) so much resentment had built up from her always feeling like she had to twist his arm to see any progress in the relationship. Basically she got what she wanted, yeah, but it didn't feel like he ever would've gotten to that point with her without being pushed. No one likes feeling like that and she had nothing left for him because of it. She felt like a successful beggar. So she dropped him.
ibitealil Posted February 21, 2008 Posted February 21, 2008 Some girls cant get over the feeling of a guy making her plead and beg even after she got what she wanted (if shes too proud for example)..Usually girls dont lie about such stuff. A girl can try to make it work and then suddenly quit to another "reliable guy" whos may be offering more if she feels that it didnt worth trying with the present guy. Some girls prefer just safe men...But ur girl sounds like she s neither a very serious kind, nor a mature type...u know her better than me :-)
Woggle Posted February 21, 2008 Posted February 21, 2008 Many women want the opposite of what they have. If you don't want commitment they want it and when you do they want space. They are never happy with what they have.
Woggle Posted February 21, 2008 Posted February 21, 2008 not all girls are like that Not all but a large number are.
ibitealil Posted February 21, 2008 Posted February 21, 2008 many people want opposite to what they have....some men also chase girls that are hard to get and ignore the ones next to them as well...u never know how large number of girls are like that...my bf swore that he loved me at the beginning of our relationship and when i finally accepted his love he said he doesnt feel the spark any more...how do u explain that? the point it...women do not lie about commitment...but if ur girl acted like that u should move on...she doesnt deserve ur commitment to her
Woggle Posted February 21, 2008 Posted February 21, 2008 There are some men that do but women in general tend to be perpetually unsatisfied in a relationship and are always angsty and doubtful about where it is headed no matter what.
ibitealil Posted February 21, 2008 Posted February 21, 2008 There are some men that do but women in general tend to be perpetually unsatisfied in a relationship and are always angsty and doubtful about where it is headed no matter what. Thats another issue...true, women do get anxious and hesitant about their relationship such as where it s heading...do we communicate enough etc but that does not mean they always want the opposite...if i wanna marry a man id marry cuz i want it...then id wanna divorce after that cuz i want the opposite? how stupid is that? if ur woman is unsatisfied in ur relationship then a man needs to ask himself first or vice versa.
amaysngrace Posted February 21, 2008 Posted February 21, 2008 I have commitment issues and I don't lie about them. I'm pretty honest about my confusion and my BF knows this. He says I send him mixed messages all the time, which I probably do, but I'm honestly mixed up when it comes to commitment.
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