SarahT111 Posted February 19, 2008 Posted February 19, 2008 Hey all Just need a bit of hope or something to look forward to so im seeking some inspiration... Has anyone got any stories about finding love again after a painful break up? Or getting over someone you never thought you would? Im going through my 1st break up and its terrible! I think I will never get over him or never find someone else for me to love again so if you have any experiences that will help me it would be great to hear!!! P.s If you have any stories about an ex getting what he/she deserved that would be great also!!!
sandflea Posted February 19, 2008 Posted February 19, 2008 Hey all Just need a bit of hope or something to look forward to so im seeking some inspiration... Has anyone got any stories about finding love again after a painful break up? Or getting over someone you never thought you would? Im going through my 1st break up and its terrible! I think I will never get over him or never find someone else for me to love again so if you have any experiences that will help me it would be great to hear!!! P.s If you have any stories about an ex getting what he/she deserved that would be great also!!! Oh - Sarah - of COURSE there's hope! First off - you get your life back! That's no small feat. Relationships are tons of work, and you're free as a bird! That's something to consider. Also, think of this - You're young, spring is in the air, guys are everywhere, and YOU WILL FALL IN LOVE AGAIN. Probably many times. You'll travel, your career will flourish, you'll rise up and be stronger, wiser, and more compassionate for all of this mess. But there's more too. You'll understand the risks, and the rewards. You'll find someone twice as hot, passionate, hungry and inspired. You'll get a tan, giggle with your girlfriends, flirt you a$$ off, and love life! YOU WILL. I know it sucks now. Trust me - we all know what you're going through - but this experience only happened to make way for your true love. He's out there, and all he wants is to run into you. Take heart - it will be OK. Love is beautiful, Sarah. Believe in yourself. SF PS - No revenge story here. Although, yes, my ex had regrets.
kissingthecheek Posted February 19, 2008 Posted February 19, 2008 There's always hope, but, be careful, you might just get what you hoped for. I was devastated when my boyfriend and I broke up and he started seeing someone else within 2 weeks. He dated her for nearly 3 months- three months of complete and total hell for me. Every day, I held on to the hope that we would be together again. And, finally, that fateful day came. We did get back together, but I have struggled with the knowledge that he was with another woman. I still struggle with the insecurities that he may still be in contact with her, that he may still be in love with her. We are currently "taking a few days" and I find myself heartbroken all over again. I simply don't know if I can go through all that pain again. So, yes, there is always hope that your beloved will return, but it may be best that you get to the other side of the pain now and recognize that it wasn't really meant to be in the first place.
Author SarahT111 Posted February 19, 2008 Author Posted February 19, 2008 I really feel for you kissingthecheek I couldnt take my bf back now! He has been with his new gf for 2 months and it is utter hell for me! I still hope he will change his mind again but I know he wont and even if he does I couldn't be with him now! As much as I do still love him I just wish I could find love again! I met someone shortly after my breaak up (about a month after) who was a great guy! He really liked me but I just couldn't get into it! Going on a date with him only made me feel worse and I went home and cried all night long. I felt more lonely than ever and so afraid! Now im terrified it will never feel right to be with someone other than my ex again And im terrified I will never find love I dont know if im capable of being happy again with another guy! I cant have my ex ever again but I feel like I cant have anyone else either! Has anyone else ever had these feelings?????? And do they ever go???? Its not like I haven't tried! Ive done everything possible to get him out of my head to to move on yet these nagging feelings stop me. So if anyone else has experianced this PLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLEEEEEEAAAASSSEEE let me kno as im so scared right now!!! Thanks!!!
sandflea Posted February 19, 2008 Posted February 19, 2008 Time Sarah. All it's going to take is more time... You'll be fine - and I think you learned that you're not ready to date again yet. You will be. Don't hurry yourself. When my first wife and I split, I couldn't imagine EVER meeting someone like her again - and I grieved - oh man, when I look back at how I grieved, raged, wept and sulked. I was a mess. But, as fate would have it - I met someone else. Then I met someone else. As it turned out, I wasn't alone - not even close. You'll be fine. Give yourself more time. There's more to life than relationships. And, when you least expect it - BAM! There HE IS! SF
marianne62 Posted February 19, 2008 Posted February 19, 2008 I really feel for you kissingthecheek I couldnt take my bf back now! He has been with his new gf for 2 months and it is utter hell for me! I still hope he will change his mind again but I know he wont and even if he does I couldn't be with him now! As much as I do still love him I just wish I could find love again! I met someone shortly after my breaak up (about a month after) who was a great guy! He really liked me but I just couldn't get into it! Going on a date with him only made me feel worse and I went home and cried all night long. I felt more lonely than ever and so afraid! Now im terrified it will never feel right to be with someone other than my ex again And im terrified I will never find love I dont know if im capable of being happy again with another guy! I cant have my ex ever again but I feel like I cant have anyone else either! Has anyone else ever had these feelings?????? And do they ever go???? Its not like I haven't tried! Ive done everything possible to get him out of my head to to move on yet these nagging feelings stop me. So if anyone else has experianced this PLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLEEEEEEAAAASSSEEE let me kno as im so scared right now!!! Thanks!!! Yes, you will find love again and yes you will get over this guy. I am 45 so I've had a few more experiences than you and each time I was in love and each time it ended, I always felt like "oh no, I'll never love someone like I did (name of ex's goes here), but of course I got over them and to this day I can think of at least three of them that I got myself absolutely sick over and if I saw them walking down the street I'd pass by with no problem. I don't respond much on this site, but I really felt compelled to write you because I sooooo want you to know that it does get better and you do find someone else. Now, that doesn't mean that the next guy you go crazy over will work out either (maybe he will) but I am a firm believer that there a lot of different people you can fall in love with....I don't buy into the whole "soulmate" concept. So, go through the emotions with this one, know that it will get better with time, DON'T contact him, and just realize that all of this stuff is a part of life. When I think about all the heartbreak I suffered with past loves, I look back and wonder why the heck I even cried over them. I can do that now, of course, and couldn't do it at the time I was hurting, but my point is, IT CAN BE DONE AND IT DOES GET BETTER!
s_n_d Posted February 19, 2008 Posted February 19, 2008 There is ALWAYS hope, hun. Hang in there. You never know what will happen tomorrow or the day after or even a week from now. Only Time will tell.
Author SarahT111 Posted February 19, 2008 Author Posted February 19, 2008 Hi marianne Thank you so much for replying! Im at the point where I cant see myself being with someone else or ever healing from the pain from this breakup! I would do anything to have the ability to pass him in the street without a problem! I don't contact him because he hates me This makes it all a bit harder i guess, I really miss him and would love to know what he is up to but he refuses to talk to me and if he does he is really cruel! He broke it off with me and had another gf the next day and I didn't nothing so it makes it so hard that he hates me for no reason and could replace me so soon! But thankyou so much for replying, you have given me hope that this will pass and one day everything will be ok again! And Sandflea thankyou aswell for replying! Your comment made me realise I am being to needy! It hurts so much that my ex reaplaced me and is happy with this new gf that i guess I just want to replace him also and be happy again to! It seems unfair I have to grieve and be a total mess while he is out there happy with someone else and didn't grieve for a second But i just can't be with someone and i guess its better to wait for the right guy other than just grab the 1st one that comes along! It still seems sooooooooooooooooooo unfair!!!! How could he be this happy and in love with this new girl already! Ahhhh its hurts sooooooooooooo badly!!! anyway thanks for your replies! I have hope again!
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