panicmansach Posted February 19, 2008 Posted February 19, 2008 Hi all, I will try my best to keep this short as I know many of you are busy and appreciate your comments. My GF(25yrs old)and I (27yrs) had been dating for 2.5 years. Started of great like any other travelled, enjoyed eachother however one aspect of her personality is lack of emotion at times. I am of East Asian decent(Indian) and being in an open relationship given how old fashion her parents are is not allowed. So for 1.5 years she lied to get out and spend time with me and I did never meet them. After 1.5 years I put alot of pressure on her to meet her parents she was reluctant. Then i found out she was talking to another guy perhaps leading him on and when confronted about it she denied anythign was going on and eventually cut him off after I somewhat pressured her to some extent. Her parents became aware of a big argument we had (she told them..Still wonder why) and that created a bitter taste I suppose. I met her parents once and they're impression wasn't good and told her to "see other people". They were not onboard with it. She continued to date me in an open relationship within my family but her family had no idea. After feeling frustrattion about whether she wanted this or is stringing it along I got episodes of anger in which I lashed out at her at time with abusive comments. She would always forgive and forget and move forward. She would say I want to marry you etc ... but her actions were the opposite. So finally she tells me to have my mother call her mother to exchange details so they can do a whole astrological analysis of the relationship (Typical Brown parents belive in this hardcore) almost 6 weeks transpired no return phone call from her mother to mine. I got upset and asked her she said she avoided giving my number to her mom cause "it didnt match" as expected by me. We got into a somewhat argument 2 days ago and she was upset and said she had to go. Sent me a text saying she couldnt call cause she was talking to her parents. The next day her mom called mine and said "It didn't match were not interested and they both need to go their own ways". Is this over ... i constantly question whether this was a string along or a girl who was afraid to stand up to her parents? ... Because I was angry and sometimes didn't support her the way a women needs to know perhaps she decided following her parents decision was best. She was always polite never got angry at me or yelled everyone that met her thought she was so sweet and really into me. Bottom line: she hasnt called me or emailed in a few days to even explain from her side. She let her mother break it up which is pathetic. Then again she could be afraid of my reaction or perhaps she doesn't care anymore?. Its her birthday next week and she sent a invite to all her friends except me to celebrate at some lounge / club. Wow seems doesnt bother her to much. Help is appreciated.
Author panicmansach Posted February 19, 2008 Author Posted February 19, 2008 Now I did receive email nto sure if its because she misses me cause of valentines day or a power struggle to see if she still has an effect on me. Do I respond to this? Keep in mind she has never played games and used to say things like when we had breaks previous (never this bad) "You know I never wish bad upon you" "I know whatever you do u will do great". Gives an idea or her personality she is very strong. Here email below (I removed the names of course) : Dear Me, I know that it has been a few days and I do want to sincerely apologize for not calling you back that night, I was very awful of what happen that night and I am just going through a lot right now and I hope that u can understand that, I am not ignoring you and DO want to talk to you, if you still would like to talk to me? I don’t want to leave things like this between us, we have both gone through a lot with one another and you mean a lot to me, as I also now that I mean a lot to you as well. I hope that you are not upset with me, but I just needed some time on my own and to be by myself and I thought that some time apart would do us both some good. I now we were very deep in conversation that evening but a lot of stuff happened and I just needed to be by myself. I would like to talk to you in the next few days and please let me now when it would be a good time. Hope you had a good week and work is going well. Happy Valentines day! J Love, Her Name
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