Taking it to the next level

[khov23]

This past weekend, I hung out with someone I knew from high school. This was the second time I’ve seen her in 10 years. The first being a couple of weeks ago where I got her number. We were classmates back then; we knew each other but never hung out in high school so no.. we were not friends at all.

 

So anyway we met up to grab something to eat but it turned into a 4 hour conversation. It was fun. Lots of laughing, lots of joking around, got a better feel for each other, etc. etc. We were comfortable with each other. I would consider it just hanging out… It’s kind of strange because she thought I was this huge party animal but I’m not. I thought she was this big flirt, maneater but I didn’t see that at all. What I realized was that we had a lot in common.

 

We ended the night with a nice hug, definitely had an extra squeeze to it…she said let me know when you’re around again so we can do this again.

 

I text messaged her the next day and said I had a great time and reminded her of some of the funny things she said. She replied back to what I said which was pretty funny and she said it was nice catching up….

 

Can’t say we’re friends….so I’m not in the friend zone but can’t say we went on a date either….

 

How can I escalate this to the next level??

 

Show me the way…step by step....

Edited February 19, 2008 by khov23

[lunarlady]

I would say you need to now ask her out on a formal date. That is the universal language that you are interested in "dating" her as in romance as opposed to being "just friends".

 

If you don't want to be in her friend zone, then act like you want to date her...which means you need to ask her out.

 

If you are afraid for some reason to ask her on a formal date...which essentially would mean asking her to dinner...now that you have had an initial very casual "hang out"....let me give you some inspiration.

 

I just asked a guy out who is 20 years younger than me and I'm a woman. So I'm 49, and the guy is 29. I've known him for 3 years through out hobby...music and we became friendly. I decided to take a risk. He said yes and we went out for dinner this past Saturday night. Now, I have no idea if it will go anywhere or he even takes me seriously. But I feel really empowered by it.

 

If you are interested, it sounds like she is too...I would suggest you ask her out for a casual dinner someplace. Is that doable for you?

[lunarlady]

By the way, the date went well. I kept it on a friendly and non-pressured level and we already have a lot to talk about. We see each other regularly because we're involved in the same activities, but I fully intend to ask him out again. I am taking responsibility.

 

You are a man and you have gotten very positive feedback from this woman. There is no reason you cannot proceed. If I did it and I was successful considering my circumstances, you certainly will have a lot easier time of it.

 

Good luck.

[EYECANDY000]

The next step is to go on another date with her. Get to know more about her, let her get to know more about you. Let her know what your intentions are. Tell her that you are willing to go at a slow pace, but you would like to see where it goes. Be attentive to her emotional needs. But dont put yourself in the friend category.

[Replicant]

I'm 49, and the guy is 29......But I feel really empowered by it.

 

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