Cobra_X30 Posted February 19, 2008 Posted February 19, 2008 I agree with blind_otter in that this type of thinking seems like the infamous "*******" theory. Be a complete ass half the time, and nice the other half and you'll have people trailing after you. Not only do I not live by that theory, but I don't want to. Why people feel comfortable treating their SO like crap is beyond me. Even if that did mean I would have people falling at my feet, I don't wanna' treat people in that way. I'd rather be single and kind-hearted than with someone and mean-spirited. Most people are not that in control of themselves. They just float around on a sea of emotions without effort or direction. So yes... you have to just do what works with those people. You have to be like 80% nice, 20% not. You have to be a little bit manipulative in order to make things work, especially if you are a nice person by nature. Otherwise... for the most part your just going to lose.
shadowplay Posted February 19, 2008 Posted February 19, 2008 Most people are not that in control of themselves. They just float around on a sea of emotions without effort or direction. So yes... you have to just do what works with those people. You have to be like 80% nice, 20% not. You have to be a little bit manipulative in order to make things work, especially if you are a nice person by nature. Otherwise... for the most part your just going to lose. Agreed............
blind_otter Posted March 6, 2008 Posted March 6, 2008 So I have to ressurect this thread...a friend of mine met a guy she had a crush on in HS recently (they have a class together at university).... They met up for lunch Wednesday and he wants to hang out with her every day for the rest of the week....they hung out last night, will hang out tonight, tomorrow, and made plans for saturday (which kind of stunk, IMO, because she invited him to do an activity that requires my SO's participation, or at least his consen to use his equipment, but she did this without actually asking me or my SO if it was ok or convenient....) I totally understand the desire to hang out with someone you click with, but do you think this is too much too soon? I told her that she should just chill out and put a limit on the amount of contact she has with this guy...
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