woodthorpe Posted February 19, 2008 Posted February 19, 2008 This is for everyone who is bumping along the bottom at the moment and can't see an end to it. My SO left me the first time over two years ago, in the last 30 months or so we have had NC, getting back together, breaking up, more NC etc etc. I've been on anti-deps, sleeping tablets - you name it, it's happened. I thought it was NEVER going to end, but today is a good day - I can see a future without him - and a happy one too. Thanks to everyone who replied when I posted - your support was incredible. So if you're in that dark and horrible place - hang in there - it will get better. xx
s_n_d Posted February 19, 2008 Posted February 19, 2008 Some days are dark and horrible for me. Today is bound to be one of those days since its 20 days NC. With each passing day, I miss him more. I know I can live without him but I dont WANT to live without him. Hes my dream guy.
sandflea Posted February 19, 2008 Posted February 19, 2008 Hes my dream guy. Nope. Nada. The sooner you stop making statements like that, the sooner you move forward. He's NOT your dream guy - He's your ex - and it WASN'T that Great! Remember? Try not to look back with rose colored glasses. I know, it's hard - we all tend to romanticize the past, especially right after a traumatic experience. Your future is very bright, my dear. It involves someone wonderful, who you haven't met yet! Try to believe - to have faith - that your future will be better than your past. SF
PinkRibbon Posted February 19, 2008 Posted February 19, 2008 I hope to goodness after 30 months I feel better than I feel now. I may have to bury myself in a case of Cherry Garcia .
Author woodthorpe Posted February 20, 2008 Author Posted February 20, 2008 I hope to goodness after 30 months I feel better than I feel now. I may have to bury myself in a case of Cherry Garcia . Pink Ribbon, ibitealil - I'm sure you will. It hasn't been 30 months of NC - we have got back together and broken up 3 times in this period. (The last time being Christmas this year). That's why it has taken me so long to get over him - I refused to accept it was over. Then I finally saw the pattern - he only contacted me when he was bored or lonely, that I was someone to amuse him when no one else was around. That's when I realised that we were never going to make it as a couple. Once I accepted that fact my healing was so much faster. I spent SOOOOOOO long trying to get back with him (and partially succeeding which kept me trying). That's why I've made a huge mess of this. Let it be a lesson to you all .... LOL Next time its NC from day one .............. xx
ibitealil Posted February 20, 2008 Posted February 20, 2008 I m definitely learning my lesson of course...since the NC ive been feeling better and thinking of him less and less day by day...i dont even remember his face now...just sometimes envy or jealous feeling makes me angry that he might be doing better than me at this moment...im not dating yet but started noticing guys around me..which is a good sign :-D;)
PinkRibbon Posted February 20, 2008 Posted February 20, 2008 I still remember what my husband looks like but last night I couldn't automatically remember our home number. I had to think about it and write it down. Maybe that is a sign?? As far as men...not even looking right now. Chubby hubby ice cream is as close to a man as I want to get.
ibitealil Posted February 20, 2008 Posted February 20, 2008 I still remember what my husband looks like but last night I couldn't automatically remember our home number. I had to think about it and write it down. Maybe that is a sign?? As far as men...not even looking right now. Chubby hubby ice cream is as close to a man as I want to get. sounds like a progress to me :-)
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