cant let go Posted February 19, 2008 Posted February 19, 2008 i need some advice on what to do about my latest situation. This may belong in the Dating section, but I feel that all the friendly posters I am used to get advice from are on this board. Am I over my ex? Probably not. But I find that as long as I have someone to crush on, I don't miss him anymore. So here's my latest: On Friday I went out, had quite a few beers. Run into this seriously hot guy that I know through association. He works at the same place I do but not on the same floor or dept. So I start working my flirt. Long story short... after a few more hours and beers we start kissing and then end up leaving together and going back to his apt where I spend the night. I sleep in his arms the entire night and there is nothing I love more than being wrapped up in a guys big muscular arms. When I get up I have a killer headache and my throat is killing me because unfortunately I threw up in his bathroom the night before. I tried to be as cool as I can about this seeing as I'm pretty sure that this guy couldn't possibly be interested in more than this one-night-stand. I don't act clingy or even affectionate toward him in the morning. I wasn't acting cold, just maintaining a friend-like distance. He drove me home but first we stopped and got breakfast at a little coffee shop. He talked a lot in the morning and told me some stories about him and his friends and his family. Let me repeat, this guy is seriously hot. He is the only guy that I have ever been with that I think is hotter than my ex. So anyway, we never exchange numbers or even make any mention of contacting each other again. It's not really that hard for him to get in contact with me though because we have some mutual friends and we work for the same company so it is pretty easy to figure out work email addresses. Problem is that when he pulled up to my apt, I may have seemed a little too anxious to get out of the car. For one thing, I was completely nervous because I think this guy is so hot and he could have any girl that he wants, why would he want me? And two, I wanted to play it cool and not be the one to say something stupid. so anyway, I'm wondering if I actually may have come off as not interested by trying to act overly cool in the situation. truth is, i am moving in two weeks. but the ironic thing is that he is moving in the summer to the same city where i'm moving. so here's where i need advice. i'm thinking of emailing him tomorrow at his work address and just giving him my phone number. i'm going to say that i hope to see him again before i move. what do you guys think? i figure it can't hurt things, right?
s_n_d Posted February 19, 2008 Posted February 19, 2008 I say dont do it because its not fair to the other person if your not over your ex.
ANGUISHEDandBROKEN Posted February 19, 2008 Posted February 19, 2008 I say DO IT! If you felt good and its helping you move on just do it... Obviously you will never have a LTR with this guy for two reasons. 1. Youre not over your ex 2. You think he can have anyone he wants...and it probably is true. Take it for what it is, enjoy eachothers company once in a while, and dont get into a serious relationship together. I guarantee if you tell him this he will be totally cool about it and love the idea. Im in a similar situation, I enjoy her company, she enjoys mine. I put all my cards out on the table and we are both clear on what we have together. So we see eachother 2-3 times a week.... if it were more it could become dangerous:p Keep it cool.... I wish I was over my ex....it just kills me so slowly..........
ibitealil Posted February 19, 2008 Posted February 19, 2008 Do it baby! I agree with AandB :-) Good luck!
EllaDerSpin Posted February 19, 2008 Posted February 19, 2008 Maybe he can have anyone he wants, and maybe he wants you...
Author cant let go Posted February 19, 2008 Author Posted February 19, 2008 Maybe he can have anyone he wants, and maybe he wants you... i love this comment!!! so i sent him an email today and it went over really well. he said he had been trying to think of something to say to me so i guess i just swooped in and made it easier on him. he also mentioned that we can do something before i leave. we emailed back and forth a bit today. i'm all smiles right now. i'm taking it for face value. i am moving, he knows that. but... he also plans to move to the same city eventually... so... who knows!!
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