loveinlife Posted February 19, 2008 Posted February 19, 2008 Ex told me to wait for her about 2 months ago, so i waited. We contact each other everyday on the phone and see each other atleast once a week. Last night i told her what i heard from another buddy that she was at a bar with another guy. She got all angry and said why are my friends up in front of her business. Then she said that they are just friends. If they are friends why leave home around midnight to grab a drink.. (my own thoughts). Well her father just passed away about 1.5 months ago and she is having a really hard time dealing with it. I try to be there for her but lately she is very flaky. I called her today 4 times and she didn't pick up the phone.. She told me to move on last night and said that she doesn't have anymore feelings for me. Just going through a tough time and adjusting to the change we have. its just a very depressing and angry feeling that i have since i was told to wait for her and now she says i can't believe after separating for 2 years, that at the end you went out with another girl, and i begged you to come back but you were playing games and told me to move on. To me it was no games, relationships should never be &*cked around with because we are dealing with human feelings and i was going out with another girl already 5 months back. Since the new relationship didn't work and i still have feelings for my ex, i wanted to give it another try. Now she is bitter over what i did, eventhough for that two years of separation i was waiting for her and was living in depression. Needed a place to vent. please give me any feedbacks. What should i do? NC?
Joebo Posted February 19, 2008 Posted February 19, 2008 Hey LIL, Most people will probably tell you the same but I would leave it for now. NC is probably the best way although I know how hard that is. However, if you leave her be then she can have some time to get over the bitterness that she feels. Although, she should really have declared this at the outset. The situation with her father is bound to add to her state of confusion/anger also. I don't know about the guy in the bar, although, it may not matter that much in the grand scheme of things. She will come back to you if she wants to. Take it from me that hassling her will only do your cause more harm than good. Although, I ignored this advice when it was given to me. Do whatever you feel is right. Don't feel bad if you get in touch with her but try not to seem to desperate. Try NC for a while and see what happens... Sorry if this is not very helpful but it looked like you needed a response. Best of luck..
PrincessBOT Posted February 19, 2008 Posted February 19, 2008 IMO NC is the only way. I must admit it was one of the hardest things I ever had to do and no doubt it will be for you too. You may not be able to see this clearly right now, but the only option you really have is NC. She is in control right now and things will go ultimately go the way she wants. The only thing you can control is self preservation. As far as her telling you to wait and you seeing someone else that is just...different. But I guess you two had an understanding. However, waiting for someone does not mean to stop living and it would not be right of her to expect that. She gave you the best advice anyone could give and you should take it, although it is painful, but move on. That way in the next two years you will most likely be over this and be available mind, body, heart and soul for someone who deserves you.
s_n_d Posted February 19, 2008 Posted February 19, 2008 Definitely NC. She left you hanging with a hope for two months and now she says she doesnt have feelings for you. She doesnt deserve someone like you. NC could make her miss you in time and if she doesnt then you will be well on your way to getting over her. You have nothing to lose at this point.
Author loveinlife Posted February 19, 2008 Author Posted February 19, 2008 You guys/girls are right, i have nothing left to lose as all is lost already in terms of relationship as it went. She finally called back today and told me not to call her anymore. So there i got my answer. now its going to be the daring part of treading on NC..
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