Jump to content
While the thread author can add an update and reopen discussion, this thread was last posted in over a month ago. Want to continue the conversation? Feel free to start a new thread instead!

Recommended Posts

Posted

I have been seeing a wonderful woman for almost 2 yrs now. In the beginning I was recovering from a horrible divorce in which I lost everything. My mind was in a bad place. I was always sweet and nice to her but I was also distant in a way. Afraid to be hurt again I think. She was always telling me that she loved me but I also know she cheated on me several times during this period with more than one man. I would never tell her I love you back.

Then one day after about 9 months I snapped out of the funk my mind was in and decided that yes, I do love this woman very very much. I frequently started telling her so. I also started very openly showing her my affection. At first she responded back but now she wont tell me the same. When I tell her, and she has done this several times, she laughs and says I'm funny. Our relationship is great and when I ask her why she laughs she says she has trouble saying such things. Hmmm she didnt earlier and when pushed in discussion she says she does love me very much although you can tell these type of dicussions make her uneasy. I cant understand why she does this. Its very hurtful for someone to laugh at you when you are trying to show your love..........any ideas, especially from the ladies

Posted

She laughs?

 

How? I mean guffaws? Giggle? Flirtatious sniggers?

 

How old is she?

  • Author
Posted

Its more of a giggle but why the "your funny" comment?

Posted

With the your funny comment it seems to me she is attempting to deflect your feelings from her. As though she may not be ready for that stuff. Or she doesn't believe YOU are serious.

 

I would cut down on the pronouncements of love a little. Maybe just show her in other ways that you love her, oh and not the chocs/flowers route all the time either.

 

Maybe just chill on the amorous front for a while. Let it sink in. (To her)

  • Author
Posted

To be honest I am thinking of backing way off on everything just to see her reaction and also to let it sink in to her that "hey, I might loose him"...........I'm not always in her face. I work away for 10 days at a time and am home for 4. She also lives with her 20 yr old going on 12 yr old daughter who hates me even though I have never given her a reason to.

Posted

Ah........

 

There is a possible reason she is distancing.......

 

I can tell you it is hell when your daughter doesn't like your gf, been there. Its bloody uncomfortable.

 

Give them some space man, it will be worth it in the end. Just relax and let the river run on a bit.

 

The 4 on 10 off days might be an issue to her too, how do you think she feels about that?

  • Author
Posted

She enjoys it. She does like her freedom and me only being home every other weekend gives her a chance to be with her friends and her daughter. Her daughter and her are more like best friends than mother and daughter. I might add she calls me everyday. Sometimes 2 or 3 times a day

Posted

Well that all sounds good.

 

As I said give it time, maybe her daughter needs time to adjust, I have known women whose daughters really took a long time and some never accepted the new man, I was never the new man BTW. My daughter acted the same with her Mum's new men.

  • Author
Posted

I might also add that it is my wish we live together. We had been talking about it and over Thanksgiving I had bought her a flight to spend it with her mother and family in Denver. She called me from there and said that when she got home we need to seriously address us living together After her return she never mentioned it again. After quite awhile I asked her about it and she told me her daughter thought it was a bad idea. Now she just tells me that she is not ready for it. Talk about jerking you up then slapping you down

Posted

You still got to give her child time to adjust. She will eventually if you play it cool and continue being nice to her mum.

  • Author
Posted

Ya your right..........Thank you for your advice but I'd really like to hear from some ladies too. This has got me tore up. Hard to concentrate at work

×
×
  • Create New...