Myzterio Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 I'm not sure if this is the type of thread thats supposed to be in here, but please dont get mad! I'm going to rant about how NC can help but also hurt in the end. Sure, No contact helps you get away from communication and all but what if, at the end theres no communication anymore. What if the one you loved went to a better place, left the world. You would feel anger, hatred towards yourself not saying one last thing before he/she left. What if you wanted to say something to he/she but couldnt because you both were no talking. One Simple TEXT message does not hurt, if your urging to tell her I still love your whatever, go for it before its too late. God knows when our time's up, not US! I've been on NC for about two weeks, it hurts like hell. Every time I see her picture, I urge to text her, not CALL but txt. I finally did, "I love you" and she replied with ":( love you (". Thats it, Why cut off all communications FOR EVER when you wanna express how you really feel about he/she. Why am i writing this? My friend's girlfriend whom been going out for 2 years has passed away. They have been fighting before she has, they did not talk for to weeks. God said her times up, he regrets it to this day. He's broken down and miserable, depressed because he wanted to tell her so much but because of this no contact stupid stuff, he thought he would be the loser in the end by txting or calling her. If you moved on, it doesn't hurt to tell he/she how you still feel. Just my 2cents on how im feeling, . Sure, NC is good and bad, I myself is currently on it but not to the point where "NO TALK FOREVER". It's just a phase. Life's a game, you don't know when your times up. BTW - for the girls that has ended the relationship with the guys, you guys don't really know how it feels , tsk tsk. .
eagle5 Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 Sorry to hear that about your friend, that's really terrible. NC isn't about them coming back to a you it's about making a clean break in YOUR mind from that person by saying to yourself 'I'm not going to be in contact with them for my own good!' I agree it would be the right thing to do to tell that person how you feel because anything could happen, but with NC you need to make a definate clean break, it's just horrible that your friends gf passed away, I'm truely sorry, he could be saying 'what if?' for the rest of his life. Did she leave him or visa versa? Maybe with NC, after a while you could talk to the person who dumped you and tell them how you felt but the idea of it is to heal yourself and 'try' to put that other person out of your mind, so you can move on, I won't be able to speak to my ex for a long while unless she says the words 'I want you back'. That's my take on it! I've been tempted more times than I can keep count of to txt my ex and declare my undying love for her, but what good would it really do?? I wish you and your friend the very best......Eagle
dfreeman Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 I am saying this just to make a point, and not be argumentative (and certainly not to make you feel worse about your friend). BUT... By the time most people find LS, they have already contacted, re-contacted, flowered, re-flowered, switched to more expensive flowers and re-re-flowered their ex! I may be mistaken, but most people on here usually don't preach the full-on NC at the expense of personal closure. Usually, that advice goes out to people that have already spilled their heart, soul and guts out telling their ex how much they love them and how much they would change for them in the future, etc. Again, sorry about your friend's loss and I hope he gets well soon.
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