Garbo Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 I started a thread a while back on this, that it irritated me, bothered me, that my bf didn't display my picture and everyone was telling me that I should frame a pic and give it to him and that guys are not into doing this. The problem with these replies is that my bf is into photography and finally I brought this up to him. The way it came up was that he had taken a couple of pictures of his kids and was printing them out from his computer and framing them when we talked on the phone. When I saw the pictures on his shelf, he had an empty frame sitting there and I commented that he needs a picture of me to put in there. His reply: Why does he need to do that when he's got pictures of me on his computer, then he joked about one of the pictures that would be good is one he took of me yawning. I didn't find this too funny. He has other pictures of his kids up and a couple of relatives. We spend the majority of our free time together and I'm certain there is no one else and that he's afraid of another girl seeing it. I really need some opinions on this.
spookie Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 If you really trust him - his feelings and intentions and everything - I don't see what the big deal is.
Author Garbo Posted February 18, 2008 Author Posted February 18, 2008 He can be quiet about his feelings, and even though he treats me well, this bothers me. In my opinion, if he does love me, which he has said before, why wouldn't he want my picture displayed? I don't want to be petty, but it boggles me that he would have pictures of other people up, but not of me.
spookie Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 Maybe he feels like the pictures he has of you don't recall the proper emotions? There are people I like looking at pictures of (like my brothers) but my SO's have never been on that list. My best memories of them are not visual, and with all my exes, looking at their pictures was always strange.
Blue Eyed Brain Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 If he's not into having pics of you around the house, that's okay. Unless you are insecure with his decision. If he's a great guy, than overlook this. This is not material to fight or break up over.
EYECANDY000 Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 I wouldnt see it as a big deal, but if it bothers you then you need to speak up about it and find out why he doesnt want a picture of you in a frame. I was in a relationship and I have never framed a picture of him and I. I have pictures of neices and newphews in my home by none of myself and him. I do, however, have pictures of us on my phone but I didnt see the need to put his pictures up with my family. It wasnt that I loved him less, I just never been into hanging pictures up of me and my bf. It doesnt bother me that he doesnt have pictures of me up as well. Now, if he has had a habit of hanging up pictures of hm and his exes, or friends who are females then I would have a problwm with that.
Art_Critic Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 The photographer never takes pictures of his kids.. The cook doesn't cook big meals.. The plumber always has the leaking toilet The nurse doesn't go in for as many checkups as she should. The landscaper's yard always needs cut and more bushes. I could go on with the list... People that do something for work don't normally like to do that when they get home.. Give the guy a break and buy him your picture and give it to him.. It seems to me that you are going to make this into a mountain that can become a wedge in your relationship.
Author Garbo Posted February 19, 2008 Author Posted February 19, 2008 The photographer never takes pictures of his kids.. ...but he is a photographer and he does take pictures of his kids. But I will let this issue go. Thanks for everyone's input. I see I am being petty.
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