Peter_pan Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 (edited) ok well in a different thread i got to the bottom of why i was unhappy in the relationship yet i never addressed it with her and lived miserably. i wasnt unhappy with her as such just the situation i was in and thats what drove us apart. in order to fix a problem you first need to address the problem. so thats what i have done. i want to talk/meet with her but dont know if i could do it now knowing she has a new bf, what if there is a ring on her finger etc i wanted to start from the beginning and talk with her why we decided to break up in the first place. then i go on to talk about why we where unhappy and then i talk about why i love her and how it would be different this time because i have identified the problems that where there. so ultimately my conversation is trying to get her back. problem is i havnt seen her in a month now apart from the other day when she was with her new bf. and i think it would be far to painful to see her and then to get rejected which i know i will i dont know if i could handle it. or know if she would even want to see me... i spoke to my dad and he said seeing her would be the hardest option but probably the best one. i dont know if i can do it. maybe if she saw me again she might remember why she liked me in the first place? or would it be best to just call and then if she did see me she would think of me then ? im so upset i think if i have this conversation and get rejected i know that is 100% the end and i will be devastated and know i lost her forever but is that better than holding on to a slight hope every day. thats how i have been getting through my days so far. and until i broke down everything i realized i did truly love her and thats why i want her back. where as before i wasn't sure and so even when she gave me the chance i didn't take it Edited February 18, 2008 by Peter_pan
s_n_d Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 If you feel like you HAVE to do this, then go ahead and do it. At the end of the day, its all up to YOU.
Author Peter_pan Posted February 18, 2008 Author Posted February 18, 2008 i know . i just know its to late and i have 0 chance with her. all i can do is hope it dosnt work between her and him
s_n_d Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 Thats true. I think I have 0 chance with my ex too. Hes so stubborn (I hate it). How long have you done NC for?
s_n_d Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 I think your best bet at the moment is NC. Its likely that she will miss you over time and come back. If not, well then your on your way to getting over her.
blind_otter Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 Hey do what you want, but believe me this will only set you back in terms of your progress and getting better after the breakup. It will be like reopening old wounds that haven't quite healed yet.
Miyamoto Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 Hey, I say if you're goin for it, don't half-@$$ it like I sense you're about to do. Go at it 100%, balls to the wall, and if she's got a new b/f, you'd better be prepared to whup his @$$ too... and let her know it...I'm dead serious...if that's your woman, then you go make her your woman again...
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