frenchie01 Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 I've been suspicious that my girlfriend has been cheating, although i don't believe she has had any physical interaction with any one I believe she would if the opportunity arised. I have looked through here facebook account (I know this is bad!!) to find numerous messages to a few guys asking to meet up and implying that she wants to please them sexually. I confronted her a couple of times about the messages and she told me it was "harmless flirting and a bit of fun", and that she would stop. I have had a gut feeling that the messages had not stopped and when I checked again they had not. In the messages she seems to be the one initiating the flirting and my biggest problem is that these people aren't people she just talks to on the internet but they are guys that she works with or sees on a regular basis. Is this cheatng or harmless flirting? what should I do as I love her very much and don't want to leave the relationship but I don't want her to be cheating on me?
CaliGuy Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 Rule of thumb, if you're seeing red flags (flirting with other men) then you should heed them. She'd have no reason to flirt with other men if she was satisfied with the relationship you have. Even if she isn't cheating, the flirting is emotional cheating and would be enough for me to break it off. Your call, amigo. Stand up for yourself!
Lovely87 Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 I'd say even if she isn't cheating now, the messages make it seem that she does want to, just hasn't had the opportunity yet. Girls don't flirt hard core like that behind their mans back and call it "harmless". If she were flirting and comfortable with the relationship, it wouldn't be behind your back. I'd end it. Shes not being honest, and a relationship requires honesty. Period.
Cathamaroo Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 she is cheating on you. Find someone who respects you! If it's not physically cheating (which it may actually be!) it is emotional and mental and that is just as bad!!!!!
Florida Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 (edited) I have looked through here facebook account (I know this is bad!!) to find numerous messages to a few guys asking to meet up and implying that she wants to please them sexually. Hello Frenchie, A rule of thumb to abide by would be: If you ever see any messages that are sexual in any way from your signifigant other to another guy, just walk. Don't look back. Don't give 2nd chances. Don't let them explain. Now you are getting into her excuses, will she, won't she? She didn't mean it, even though she wrote it. Oh she won't do it again. It's over the minute you see them. If you continue, please realize you are giving her the message that you will take it next time, but there won't be a next time. Why? Because she will HIDE it better. These are the decisions one has to make. Good luck, let us know what happens. Is this cheatng or harmless flirting? Cheating. She sexually propositioned other guys, does it matter if they did it or not? It's just a matter of time. what should I do as I love her very much and don't want to leave the relationship but I don't want her to be cheating on me? She is planning to cheat on you, so why would you want to stay? Edited February 18, 2008 by Florida
witabix Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 You could invest in a chastity belt..... Make her wear boxing gloves.....stops texting/typing. Or wise up and take a walk.......
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