Past Loves

[BklynGuy]

Hi all,

 

I've posted on this site several times in the past. I've had my share of crappy relationships and stupid ones. Here's my question....I was with one girl who didn't treat me well, didn't really give a damn, I was just extra to her. I was the other guy. The problem is I fell for her even though I shouldn't have. This was my first experience with unreciprocated love. We stopped being a "couple" in 2005. I'm coming to realize that I'm deathly afraid of allowing myself to get into another relationship. I'm in my late 20's, and feel like I'm missing out on life. Like I could find someone but I'm so afraid of getting hurt again I keep running away from every girl I meet.

 

Some girls I've met have treated me better than she did, but the fear she left me with is still there to this day. I guess I don't know how to move on. How do I let it go? Move forwards? It's so much easier said than done.

[sedgwick]

I don't know. I've never been as devastated by a breakup as my most recent one. Always before I've been able to imagine myself trusting and loving again, but this time I absolutely cannot. I never want to put myself in a position to be hurt like that again. When you learn how much you can love, you learn how much you can hurt. It sucks!

 

But it's been three years for you now. Maybe it's time to try?

[EllaDerSpin]

I guess you have to weigh it up. What is worse, taking a risk and possibly having your heart broken, or being alone and miserable? It doesn't mean one has to have a relationship to be happy, but, it sounds as though not having a relationship is making you misrable.

Whatever decision you make, put your all into it.

Decide to not try again, and become happy with your life as it is.

Or decide to take a risk and be determined to stick it out through the fear.

[Miyamoto]

I know how you feel. However --

 

You're gonna die someday. Maybe soon.

 

Are you going to spend your life scared? Be scared when you're dead. You'll have a lot more time then.