9Lives Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 I was with the mm for 3 years for those who dont know my story. He started that confused, double minded bull along with not being upfront with me about leaving or not leaving and really piss me the hell off. I have blocked his and her email address, deleted his email, took his name out of my phone....a week later...I think about him everyday but I am happy to not have to live this lifestyle anymore. He has not tried to contact me. I think he is relieved right now. One thing I know is whatever problems that I was helping him forget will now be back in his face. Which is good. Sometimes, I think about him and wonder what is going across his mind. I think I am sorting thru my feelings as well. Not really sure how I feel right now. Just glad I am not a emotional wreck...I was too angry to be
OpenBook Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 I think every girl should be formally trained (a la etiquette school) to learn how to walk briskly away from bad situations where a man is jerking her around emotionally. Who needs it?!? I'm glad you are not falling apart over this -- it's definitely not worth it. I think it's good that you are using your anger as a tool to move forward. Go You! Onward and upward!
erika2610 Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 I think every girl should be formally trained (a la etiquette school) to learn how to walk briskly away from bad situations where a man is jerking her around emotionally. Who needs it?!? I'm glad you are not falling apart over this -- it's definitely not worth it. I think it's good that you are using your anger as a tool to move forward. Go You! Onward and upward! How about walking away from him, sending him a snotty text - and then when he replies, just turn off your phone & cut off all contact? 9Lives - Good for you! It hurts like heck at first, but trust me - it does get a whole lot easier as time goes by! It is so freeing not to have to live that lifestyle anymore. No more sneaking around, waiting on him to call, etc. I think it's just natural to wonder what's going to their minds. I still do once in a while, and my A has been over for years. But then I also remember what a jerk he is, and how much better off I am now. Just hang with friends, keep busy, and be glad you're free!
OpenBook Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 How about walking away from him, sending him a snotty text - and then when he replies, just turn off your phone & cut off all contact? He's not even worth that much effort! No, I say just leave him in the dust. Silence is deafening.
erika2610 Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 He's not even worth that much effort! No, I say just leave him in the dust. Silence is deafening. I hear ya, but it still feels good! We had met somewhere, I walked away, texted him, and then turned off my phone after he tried to call it a gazillion times. It does feel good when you're the one that walks away. 9Lives - he probably will try to contact you. But stick to your guns! You did the right thing by blocking everything.
Meaplus3 Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 I was with the mm for 3 years for those who dont know my story. He started that confused, double minded bull along with not being upfront with me about leaving or not leaving and really piss me the hell off. I have blocked his and her email address, deleted his email, took his name out of my phone....a week later...I think about him everyday but I am happy to not have to live this lifestyle anymore. He has not tried to contact me. I think he is relieved right now. One thing I know is whatever problems that I was helping him forget will now be back in his face. Which is good. Sometimes, I think about him and wonder what is going across his mind. I think I am sorting thru my feelings as well. Not really sure how I feel right now. Just glad I am not a emotional wreck...I was too angry to be Good for you! Your action's are showing him he's NO longer important in your life. Stick with NC. it's the best way! Good luck! AP:)
GreenEyedLady Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 I was with the mm for 3 years for those who dont know my story. He started that confused, double minded bull along with not being upfront with me about leaving or not leaving and really piss me the hell off. I have blocked his and her email address, deleted his email, took his name out of my phone....a week later...I think about him everyday but I am happy to not have to live this lifestyle anymore. He has not tried to contact me. I think he is relieved right now. One thing I know is whatever problems that I was helping him forget will now be back in his face. Which is good. Sometimes, I think about him and wonder what is going across his mind. I think I am sorting thru my feelings as well. Not really sure how I feel right now. Just glad I am not a emotional wreck...I was too angry to be You're doing great! Just keep on going forward...The anger will help get you through! (((HUGS)))
Author 9Lives Posted February 23, 2008 Author Posted February 23, 2008 9Lives - Good for you! It hurts like heck at first, but trust me - it does get a whole lot easier as time goes by! It is so freeing not to have to live that lifestyle anymore. No more sneaking around, waiting on him to call, etc. I think it's just natural to wonder what's going to their minds. I still do once in a while, and my A has been over for years. But then I also remember what a jerk he is, and how much better off I am now. Just hang with friends, keep busy, and be glad you're free! you are right. No more of that "lie style" ...I would not call it a lifestyle. I dont miss that at all. Im still angry and all but I just feel hate inside still. I have been listening to God word because hate is bad. I just need to keep going and going and going
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