onemorespin Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 I really don't understand my ex at this point. We broke up basically 3 months ago and I have tried no contact, but he always breaks it after 4 days tops. He says the things I want to hear, begs me to take him back, that he made a mistake and realizes what we have and that he wants to marry me. About a month ago, I found out he had been seeing another girl the whole time we had been broken up and was serious with her. I have told him I want him to be happy and that he needs to let me move on if he wants to be with someone else. When I found out about the other girl a week later he was begging for me back because he found out I was dating someone new. I told him I wouldn't discuss it until he broke it off with this other girl, which he did. things were great for a week then he had doubts again so I went no contact for a few days and late one night he starts texting me that he wants to be with me. That he will prove himself to me if I let him, that he is ready. I tell him I don't believe him and a few days later he comes to my house and begs, telling me everything I want to hear. I tell him he has a lot to make up to me, that this is his LAST chance. Things are good for the week, and then on Friday night I don't hear from him and he is at this other girl's house! Why won't he just let me move on? I never contact him, he always comes to me and talks me into giving him another chance. When I confronted him about Friday night he told me (she was there) that they have been together 3 months and he is in love with her...ok???? So why is he pursuing me if he is in love with her? It doesn't make any sense. If he has someone new, why does he care if I date? I am so mad!!!
Author onemorespin Posted February 18, 2008 Author Posted February 18, 2008 Just to be clear, this is the 2nd time in 2 weeks that he has done this to me, and the 5-8th time since we have broken up that he has asked for me back and changed his mind. Obviously I am NOT falling for it anymore! I don't think I could ever trust him again! And if he is so happy with this other girl, why hasn't he let me go in the past few months? I have made it so easy for him. The only reason we even broke up was because of his fear of commitment. Could that be causing this? Why, if he loves this other girl, is he cheating on her and lying to her already?? I am so confused why he would do this and how to deal with it. It is so painful...every time I am making progress moving on he hooks me again. What is the point?
kymberann Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 It does make sense. He is stringing you along, making sure you are an option for him and he will continue if you keep answering him. He knows he can do it and keep doing it because you do answer whe he pursues. Best bet, don't answer, don't cal when he calls, block everything and no responses from you, even explanations. He does not deserve them! Best!
Author onemorespin Posted February 18, 2008 Author Posted February 18, 2008 Thank you! I just don't understand why he would want to keep me as an option if he is in love with this other girl. It is cruel to both of us, and it can't make his life any easier either.
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