Jen17 Posted February 17, 2008 Posted February 17, 2008 I met this really fit guy in a club a few weeks ago. We got on so well and ended kissing. There was obviously some chemistry there. He however lives miles away from me and was only visiting my town for the weekend. He has since found me on facebook and we chat on msn. What do you think I should do? move on and find someone else or pursue it with this guy?!
mental_traveller Posted February 17, 2008 Posted February 17, 2008 How far away is he, exactly? Also do you know anything about him other than his looks? You can't really tell the relationship potential just on that (although it's a nice start!). Most people advise against long-distance relationships. IMO if you can't meet at least on weekends, it's a real pain in the neck. Meeting once a month or less really dooms any relationship unless one or other is prepared to relocate.
Author Jen17 Posted February 17, 2008 Author Posted February 17, 2008 He lives about 4 hours away. Yeah I know him quite well through chatting on msn. I just dont know if i know him well enough to travel that distance to meet up. I really miss him tho!
Lauriebell82 Posted February 17, 2008 Posted February 17, 2008 I met this really fit guy in a club a few weeks ago. We got on so well and ended kissing. There was obviously some chemistry there. He however lives miles away from me and was only visiting my town for the weekend. He has since found me on facebook and we chat on msn. What do you think I should do? move on and find someone else or pursue it with this guy?! Define miles. Would it be serious long distance? If if's not THAT far you could always see each other on the weekends. My bf and I are an hour 1/2 apart right now and we see each other almost every weekend. You could take turns visiting each other. More importantly, has this guy given you any indication that he'd like to start dating? Has he asked you out?
Ariadne Posted February 17, 2008 Posted February 17, 2008 Jen, That guy is not the man of your dreams. He is just some player guy from the club. You'll forget about him, give it time. He must have been cute though.
Author Jen17 Posted February 18, 2008 Author Posted February 18, 2008 He was cute alright! lol...he was just so different from all the other guys I have ever met before. He is honest, kind and caring- all the qualities I look for. Just doesn't seem the player type. He said to me tonight, that if we lived nearer he would take me out for a drink that very minuite. He keeps saying how he wishes he was with me and lived nearer.
Star Gazer Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 He is honest, kind and caring- all the qualities I look for. No offense, but you really don't know this to be true. You barely know the guy.
bagelwithbutter Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 i have lived your story four times and it never worked. you'll have a crush on him for a while and think he's perfect because you only know what little you found out from the night you met him and will fill in the rest of the blanks with whatever you want it to be. then after time when you find out it won't work, you'll get frustrated. you may get pissed at him. eventually you'll get over it and him and you'll move on to some other guy.
Letranger Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 Jen, be careful. Sure, you are infatuated. But you know so little about him. He could even be a liar about everything. What if he does drugs? What if he has herpes? You never know!
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