sigurpol Posted February 17, 2008 Posted February 17, 2008 A couple weeks ago, I had a small party at my apt with some close friends. One of my friends brought a friend of hers. We'll call her Sarah. Sarah and I talked for a little bit, and ended up getting to know each other as the night went on. She's a grad student at the school I go to, same field as what I'm in. She's older than I, and is from Canada. Why she came to this school in the USA is another story. Nothing bad, though. She ended up staying over and asked me if I would call her tomorrow, I did. And we said we would go out to dinner the next night. We did, got to know more about one another. We don't share much in common. At all. But our traits compliment one another, it's kinda nice and we use them to make jokes n' such. After a couple weeks of hanging out a lot, I noticed every single time we hung out, she would want sex. Or something close to. I'm not AGAINST that at all, I just didn't want to get this involved so quickly. Plus I just GOT out of a 2+ year relationship a little over a month ago. I explained this to her, and we agreed to just be friends for now. But again, we ended up hanging out a lot and would flirt a lot. The other night over the phone, she went on saying that I'm a confusing person and that I can't communicate well. I kinda took offense to that, but didn't start a fight over it. She said that I'm "not sexual" with her. And that is a big part for her relationships, and it makes her confused and feel unattractive. She goes on to say that she's becoming annoyed by the fact that I can't make up my mind (but she's the one calling me to see me more than half the time). Finally, she ends with "and the past week, you've just... nevermind" So I asked, "what?" "The past week, I thought that you were gay. I really did. The way you dress, and how you're not that sexual, and--" At that point I just stopped her, I had heard enough. I was already offended by being called confusing (I can agree with that, though), judgmental, can't communicate well, and can't talk about feelings well. I told her I had to go and to have a goodnight. So one, it really bums me out that she thought such a thing. Because I like(d) her a lot. And that now I'm afraid I give off some vibe that I'm gay or something. It messed with my head. Anyway, has anyone else gotten this comment? Haha
Lizzie60 Posted February 17, 2008 Posted February 17, 2008 Watch out for us Canadian girls.. we're wild.. Seriously, I would have dumped you too... a guy that doesn't want sex would be a turn off for me.. but hey... I'm Canadian.. I say, forget her, move on.. you need to find a 'saint' just wait.. one day in a very far future you might find one...
mental_traveller Posted February 17, 2008 Posted February 17, 2008 Text her this message: "Hi X. I'm sorry if I confused you over the last few weeks. I was trying to be polite and spare your feelings, but with your "gay" comments you've kind of forced my hand. The fact is, I like you as a friend but I don't feel particularly attracted to you. Your ass is too flat, your chest too small, you're older than I prefer, and you're very clingy and needy. Sorry dear, but I'm just not that into you. Best wishes, sigurpol."
Author sigurpol Posted February 17, 2008 Author Posted February 17, 2008 Text her this message: "Hi X. I'm sorry if I confused you over the last few weeks. I was trying to be polite and spare your feelings, but with your "gay" comments you've kind of forced my hand. The fact is, I like you as a friend but I don't feel particularly attracted to you. Your ass is too flat, your chest too small, you're older than I prefer, and you're very clingy and needy. Sorry dear, but I'm just not that into you. Best wishes, sigurpol." Hahaha, best advice yet.
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