Finally my sisters wedding is over, survived the ex and new gf

[katty774]

Well for those of you that know my story you ask me to keep you informed on how everything turned out. As you know my sister got married and she invited my ex boyfriend and his new gf. OK this maybe long but here is the end result.....The ex did show up with new gf in hand. I was so shaky but I had great friends around me so I survived. I had to go to the chapel early to help out so my very young date got lost and got there just as we had sit down and when he showed up at the side door for the wedding my bff said it was the most awesome entrance because when he got to the side door I ran out to meet him and we had this great hug. She was laughing saying it was like watching the most romantic blah blah blah. I also had another guy, very distinguished as a date. I know how terrible, I had two men and my bff as my wedding dates. I know you all knew that I was concerned because I had gained like 15 lbs, well guess what? I got all 15 lbs off by wedding day, and my dress was smoking hot. Yes I looked good. So both male dates knew my situation and they were both there to support me. It was a short wedding ceremony, then dinner, and then a huge party. Well I could hardly eat but my friends were sitting at the family table with me, one nice looking older guy on the right, a cute young stud on the left.lol. Ok so the the party begins, my bff (which is married, but didn't bring him to the wedding) had wanted me not to take a date and the two of us just get drunk and hang all over everyone, I told her I couldn't do that. Well we did drink and we partied. I actually never looked at him, even though my bff said he kept looking over at us. The party was in a very small space but you couldn't help but be right with the lovely couple all night. But I managed to keep my distance. My young thing not only looked good, he got me out on the dance floor and he was the greatest dancer, the whole night ended up being really funny. The ex bfs new gf came outside when I was inside and pulled her hair up in front of older date and said "whew Im too old for this" talking about dancing. My date told me this and was cracking up. Ok the ex bf and his new gf got all friendly with my sisters,etc. and then he had the nerve to go over to my mom and put his hand out to dance with her, and she just said, " I don't think so" so he got down on his knees and was talking to her. I was outside and seen him over there talking to my mom. He also went over to my bff and ask her to dance and she was like "Hell No" and he said " I know Jeannie you think I am a dawg, don't you?" and she said " Yes Brian I think you are a dog" I didn't see or hear this she told me later. OK I won't bore you with all the details just the highlights. My older date left early but the young one was staying over with me and my bestf. We danced alot, I was constantly laughing and dancing and having a blast. Brians sisters come up to me and started asking me about my young date, his sister said" Is he family, a relative, or what to you? I was like "No he isn't a relative, he is the guy I have been seeing now for a while, they both looked shocked. I can't understand why they ask. Oh trust me I was nice to them. I was nice to everyone, I spoke to everyone at the party, except for my ex bf and his new gf. Well as the night was closing in and everyone was going to be run off, I was talking to my bestf and my young date sat down in a chair, well the ex bfs gf went over and sat down, leaving one chair between them and started talking to my date. Well I went and sat down in that chair and started talking to my date, well the ex bfs gf said to me, " You are so thin" I was like "what? man I like it when people tell me I'm thin, you wanna tell me that again" and started laughing. She then said to me " I owe you such a big apology" I said " What do you mean" She said " I know I owe you an apology but I was only going on what Brian was telling me, I know you guys dated a long time,etc." I said " don't worry about it, really it's water under the bridge" She said "He told me that he just felt sorry for you, when your cat died, blah blah blah" I said "Well don't sweat it, when I ask him who you were he claimed he didn't know any girls named Nicole and that the day that you called me on his cell phone his mom had his phone and was out of town." I know I probably shouldn't have said that but I did. Well Brian came over to where we were at and I got up and just said to her, "Really sweetie, don't worry about it, seriously, it really all worked out for the best for everyone" And yes I said this in front of Brian. Well the party ended and my date, and sister and her husband and my bff were talking about going else where to continue the party, I was so great that I even ask my ex bfs sisters if they were going to go with us to continue the party.lol. Well my sis, her husband and my date, and bff were standing outside talking about what we were going to do and the ex bf and his gf and all his siblings came down the road in their car. We all waved really big and said Bye. Ok so now everyone here knows how the wedding turned out. Please Please give me any and all input. OBTW, remember my sister had told me that my ex was wearing a wedding band and she was wearing an engagement, well I don't know if he was wearing the band, I wouldn't ever look at him but when she and I were talking, NO engagement ring. OK now give it to me straight. How do you think I did. Be proud of me, I didn't cry, yell, get too drunk, etc. just laughed and smiled all night long. Can anyone tell me what they may think my ex is thinking about me now. OBTW, she's younger, but I looked better than her. lol

[norajane]

You did great, and you had a lot of fun! See, so much worrying and anxiety for nothing.

 

Please, please, please, though, when you post, break it up into short paragraphs. My eyes are bleeding!

[SuziwithaQ]

I need to look back at your breakup story, but I am so impressed by your actions! You're like the poster child for what to do in front of an ex and his new gf. Yay!!!

[katty774]

Thanks Suzi, yes do look back you will find I was a basket case, I found out one month ago that my sister had invited him and his new gf to the wedding, we had not been broken up long at all and then she told me they came to her house wearing wedding bands, etc. I was heartbroken, I was devastated that my sister had done this to me but I couldn't refuse to go to her wedding. Lot's of people thought I should skip it. I am amazed that it went off so perfectly, of course the ex and his gf and sisters are probably talking trash about me today bc my date was so young. My ex bf is 28 and so is his new gf, Im 38, my date for the wedding was 25.

 

Just wanted to say thanks Suzi bc if you look at my past post it is a miracle I even survived. lol

[SuziwithaQ]

My ex bf is 28 and so is his new gf, Im 38, my date for the wedding was 25.

 

Just wanted to say thanks Suzi bc if you look at my past post it is a miracle I even survived. lol

 

Katty, you go girl! I like them younger too ;-) My ex boyfriend is 31 and I'm 39. My current boyfriend is 33. I say you keep up seeing other guys for now. One thing I always say that if they come back to you of their own accord, you will either be there and available or you will be there and taken. I'm the last person to ever profess that letting go is easy. I have a terrible time letting go. But at least you can have fun in the meantime and if he does come back, it will be YOUR decision whether you want him or not. You go girl.

[katty774]

lol, Suzy I really don't have a thing for young guys. Brian was the first guy I dated that was alot younger than me,. It always bothered me bc I felt people were thinking I was robbing the cradle,lol. Now the young guy last night was great and he was cute, we get along great, all the girls at the wedding were asking about him and saying how they thought he was hot, etc. and he was just totally into me all night at the wedding, But I'm not really attracted to him, too young, he knows this. I just had him as my date bc my mom thought it would be great revenge to have someone younger and hotter than Brian. Mission accomplished. The great thing is we both live in the same town, great buddies, and all of these other people including my family all live in a different town from us, nobody knew him.

[s_n_d]

You did SO greatttttttttttttt.

I doubt Id ever be able handle that situation as well as you did.

Im proud of you.

[katty774]

Well if your proud of me then you need to reach back and give yourself a big pat on the back s_n_d because you gave me great advice, along with others.

 

I just never imagined that I would ever pull it off. I just knew I had to come give you the update.

 

Thanks so much.

[s_n_d]

No problem, katty774.

I love helping out anyway I can. Its the least I can do after what all of you (on LS) have done for me.

 

Question::

Even though you didnt look him in the eyes or anything, Did seeing him bring back any feelings?

[katty774]

I was all shaky when they all came in, but it soon faded. I don't think my friends and dates actually gave me time to have any time to have feelings.. I think his showing up where he didn't belong distinguished any of those existing feelings. I am sure I will still have times I will miss him, bc we were together over 2 years, but right now I'm ok.

 

It's kind of funny bc the only thoughts I have had of him was just wondering if he thought about me or if it bothered him that I was just So Fine and showed that I was so over him. (don't think I am totally over him).

 

I don't want him back, would not take him back but I would love to have the opportunity come my way of him crawling back begging for me back so I could reject his sorry a--.

[latefragment]

wow, i read your other thread and I'm so glad you managed to make it through the wedding and have it be SUCH a success. I think you succeeded in making your ex bf feel WAY WORSE and maybe even regret going!

 

I'm dying to know... how did you find the young guy to be your date?

[s_n_d]

Aww I think I would love to have my ex crawl back to me too.

 

But the only difference between you and I is that Id still take my ex back eventually if he came crawling back and if he tried hard to win me over and make it up to me.

 

Im living in a dreamworld though. I doubt that will ever happen.

 

Itll be 4 months since the breakup in a couple of weeks. It feels like Ive been frozen in this nightmare for a LONGGGG time. I still have my hard days, like everyone else but I feel like its getting a lot better wherein I can actually do work now WHOLEHEARTEDLY versus the post breakup up until a month ago when I couldnt do so.

[katty774]

latefragment- to answer your question, he is a guy I have been hanging out with here in my small town, and most of the people including my ex is from another town, so nobody knew him. He is an awesome friend, and he knew my situation and wanted to go as my date. He made an awesome date, bc he was totally into me all night, cute, great dancer, wonderful personality and all the women at the wedding was asking about him.lol I originally met him thru work.