Ehaze Posted February 17, 2008 Posted February 17, 2008 Ive noticed that ive collected about 2 # a month, but I don't know how to call or what to say... I mean they liked me enough to set up a date there on the spot and hug and or kiss... but I just can't seem to pick up the phone.... Any tips on what I should say if I do call?
amerikajin Posted February 17, 2008 Posted February 17, 2008 Ive noticed that ive collected about 2 # a month, but I don't know how to call or what to say... I mean they liked me enough to set up a date there on the spot and hug and or kiss... but I just can't seem to pick up the phone.... Any tips on what I should say if I do call? You just have to pick up the phone and set up a future encounter. Call, ask how they're doing and then get to your point. Don't let her sidetrack you into a long conversation about nothing. Just set up the date and move on. Generally, I think you should call between 3 and 5 days of getting the number. Too soon and you might seem desperate, too late and you might lose the spark.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 17, 2008 Posted February 17, 2008 You just have to pick up the phone and set up a future encounter. Call, ask how they're doing and then get to your point. Don't let her sidetrack you into a long conversation about nothing. Just set up the date and move on. Generally, I think you should call between 3 and 5 days of getting the number. Too soon and you might seem desperate, too late and you might lose the spark. If you really have to play the game, call after 3 days. Apparently guys have this three day rule. Set up another date, but don't cancel at the last minute. IF you really like the girl, make sure you do show that you are interested. Because every girl who doesn't know the 3 day rule ( i was one of them) starts freaking out when the guy stops calling after the 1st date. It's not only guys who will lose the spark, but not all girls will sit around waiting by the phone for the guy to call.
amerikajin Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 If you really have to play the game, call after 3 days. Apparently guys have this three day rule. Set up another date, but don't cancel at the last minute. IF you really like the girl, make sure you do show that you are interested. Because every girl who doesn't know the 3 day rule ( i was one of them) starts freaking out when the guy stops calling after the 1st date. It's not only guys who will lose the spark, but not all girls will sit around waiting by the phone for the guy to call. I think you have to just feel the person out, and what you do before the date is different from what you do after the date. In most cases, you have no connection before the date, so it doesn't make sense to drop what you're doing and call a girl within 48 hours. Maybe not all girls would think that's weird, but a lot would. It would make a lot of girls why someone is so interested in getting down to business so soon when they don't even know that person. I think a normal time frame would be, say, meeting someone on a Friday or Saturday night, telling that person you'll call that person in a few days to set up something either the next weekend or the following weekend, or maybe just a casual get together at a coffee house during the week. If you have had a date and you really hit it off, then it makes less sense to wait. You run the risk of throwing ice water on a sizzling hot relationship, which makes no sense at all. If things are heating up, keep cranking up the heat until it leads to consummation Just make sure you always go at a pace that both people are comfortable with. If you had a date and sense things went well but that maybe the girl is slow to warm up to guys, then take it slowly. Don't rush. Maybe wait an extra day or so. I think I've learned that no two women are alike in this regard. When the chemistry is good, keep upping the ante. When someone's moving in the same direction but slowly, go at a pace they're comfortable with. If you don't sense any connection, move on to someone else.
EYECANDY000 Posted February 18, 2008 Posted February 18, 2008 If your not comfortable talking on the phone right off the bat, have you tried exchanging email addresss or instant message each other?
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